I found out my husband was having a affair 10 yrs ago with a co-worker. He says they never had sex, even though I found out he met her at a hotel at least twice. He swears they never had sex because the first time he didn’t have any condoms and the second time, they met the condomes didn’t fit. I don’t believe him.

Now to the current problem. I’ve recently found out he made plans to meet another woman he works with for lunch. I found out that he brought a box of condoms just incase she agreed to take it further. I don’t know what to believe. I’m really confused and don’t know if I should believe he’s sorry. He’s made every attempt to apologize and make this situation right. But I still don’t know if he’s told me the truth about this recent event. I really want my marriage to work. The first time he promised this would never happened again. But it did. He says the woman was not aware of his intentions. She did not meet him for lunch. He says this was all of his doing.

Her Plan: Work it out

I’m 27 years old and have been trying to have a baby with my husband of three and a half years since I was 24. I have been pregnant three times, none of which has resulted in a baby (two ectopic pregnancies and one “simple” miscarriage.)

During this time, my husband had an affair with his twenty three year old coworker. This affair took place over the course of one month, and during that month she got pregnant. She had their baby four months ago, and I had my last miscarriage three months ago. I was pregnant one time during her pregnancy, and mine lasted six weeks.

My husband has become abusive during this time, I am certain that my last miscarriage was caused by his physical abuse.

This morning when my period came, even though I was hopeful that I was pregnant, I told my husband that I want to stop trying and he came with the old adage “a watched pot never boils” saying that I am “obsessive” about my fertility and that it would happen when I relaxed. I’m pretty sure that he was pretty darn relaxed when he was having sex with her, so maybe that’s why he has such awesome advice.

Obviously the problem is with me, not with him and I don’t know what to do. We’ve been together for 10 years and I love him and don’t want to leave him, but between my multiple pregnancy losses and his new baby I’m going crazy.

Her Plan: Work it out

My husband announced months ago he was affairing with woman he remembers fr.Gr 6 at school (he was 12). Now we have been displaced in stature as family and he travels each week-end from Vancouver to Toronto to fornicate at age 52. Our marriage of 24 years and 38 years going steady is now called an “Interim” one since we are in Divorce beginnings. Need ANY and ALL advice, opinions, assistance since my heart is crushed and my brain on ’stunned’ and have 2 adult children at home to think and plan long term. I am unable to work and have been on disability for 10 years.

We HAD a beautiful family, wonderful marriage, all until HIS affair. He’s a liar.. .. oops,lawyer! Now what? S O S

Her Plan: Leave my relationship

I have a girlfriend who is very nice but I think naive. She is married for 24 years, has three kids, and a husband that I know and have seen cheating. The other part of the story is that I know one of the girls that he has cheated with, he has gotten her pregnant but she did not have the baby. I know that he has been involved with two other women and still carrying on the affair with them. She knows something is going on but not sure if he is really having an affair but I know he is.

Do I tell her that that he is having the affair, do I confront the women for her, and how do I keep the friendship up with him knowing that he is doing this to her? I respect her tremendously but I’m pissed that this is happening to her but I get nauseous when I see him and her together. What are your thoughts?

Her Plan: Ignore it

Advice For Others: I prefer to confront him, don’t care if she worked it out but if she chooses then great, help her get revenge or ignore it?

My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other exclusively for 4 months (we dated for a few weeks before) In the beginning we spent a lot of time together, nearly every evening for about a month. Then we started having sex several times a week. Several weeks after, she decided that we should take a break from sex to get to know each other better before continueing. It has now been 2 1/2 months since then and we have not had sex again, nor is the relationship really progressing during this time. She has started making less and less time for me and has been acting really hot and cold, calling me and excitedly asking me to come see her one night and then being conveniently busy,tired,or sick for a day or two and then when we do spend time together after the “cold spell” she seems far less affectionate and distracted. Then back to affectionate and “i miss you, come see me” It’s not like its a big deal for me to come see her she lives 10 minutes away. Its like a rollercoaster. This doesn’t bother me nearly as much as the fact that her sons father comes over sometimes in the evening and stays 1-2 hours past when their son should be asleep. I’ve expressed my concern about the ex/babys daddy and she reassures me that she is not interested in him at all and only allows him over to spend time with his son. It just seems fishy to me when i add up all the facts. She tells me she loves me but I’m not sure what to make of it.

His Plan: Confront my partner

I had clues that my gf was not happy with us. But she refuses to communicate with me so I have no way of knowing what’s going on. So I did a bad. I hacked her Facebook and found this letter she had written to an old flame. It was harmless for the most part other than her saying she was “elated and overjoyed” that he had found her and that she excercises daily at this specific beach and that she would love it if he stopped into her work to see her. Commented a couple times on how nice he looked and had taken good care of himself.

So now what. I’m drama free and she’s killin that plan. She’s mad because I haven’t popped the question….but how can I when there’s no trust and I find letters like this?!!?!?!

Advice? If I bring it up it’s going to be ugly because I did hack into her Facebook. I do feel bad there but I would feel worse if I hadn’t have found the letter……

His Plan: Confront my partner

For the past 10 months iv been in a long distance relationship. I tend to visit ever 2 months(because my work permits this) or so and she comes for a week when she cant get off work.

It had been going great for last 8 months, we spoke to each other every day via skype and when we were together she always tells me how much she loves me and wants to spend the rest of her life with me. I always felt confident, never paranoid or jealous.

She’s a dancer in a troup so she tends to go to different countries for periods of time, sometimes up to a month (we still keep in contact via skype,sms tele etc) .

Last august when i visited i was alone at her house since she had to go do her nails. I saw her camera and went through the pictures (nothing wrong right ?) well the funny thing was 80% of the photos she had was a guy (who works with her) holding her. The same guy in each photo. I was so shocked, my heart pounded with rage! I called her and told her to get her ass home because we need to speak. I could barley speak myself with the anger!

When she came home and i confronted her about it. I told her if there is something going on tell me now so i can stop wasting my time and money to see her. She burst into tears because i threatened to leave, she told me that he is just a friend and she wants to be with me bla bla bla bla bla bla bla. I accepted that BUT from then on iv been careful, paranoid and jealous.

That was two months ago, since then she seems to have lost interest in me, she doesnt say i love you much, shes always typing when were on skype etc.

Last week on thursday i was speaking with her on skype, i noticed that she wasnt much interested on what i was saying, again she kept typing something. I got mad, but i didnt show it (im very good in hiding my feelings). I got so paranoid at this time that i decided to log in to her facebook account, something that i have never done because i respect privacy, but the pain in my chest got the better of me.

To my “surprise” ( because deeeeeeeep down i knew it, i get good hunches) There was a msg from him saying something like “i miss you my kitten” and her replying saying “i miss you also bunny” and another message from him saying “i want to kiss you”. She also told me that she had a birthday party of some guy the next day (his birthday) I closed my browser deleted her password (so i would not go in again) and told her i had to leave skype and sleep.

I count sleep all night ! Felt shit the next day. I didnt even go to work the next day.

I didnt confront her about it because i wanted to wait to meet her face to face. I had payed for a flight which will be next sunday (ill be staying there for 17 days)

From then on she’s been “normal” still texting me and still speaking with me. But something seems so wrong and I want to find out.

DEEP DOWN I KNOW SHES DONE SOMETHING BUT !
1. I WANT HER TO SAY IT TO ME
2. WHEN SHES SWEET WITH ME I “FEEL” LIKE EVERYTHING IS ALLRIGHT 3. IM THINKING OF GIVING HER A GOOD TIME AND TELL HER THAT SHE CAN FUCK OFF AT THE END OF MY “HOLIDAY”

What u guys think ?

P.S
She doesnt live in my country so i had to translate the msg.

Joey’s Plan: Revenge

I have been married for 7 years. I found out that my husband was cheating on me. I filed for divorce and in the mean time of waiting for everything to go through, I found out the other woman is pregnant. My husband says he does not love her and does not want to be with her. I says I am still number one and he will never love no one but me. After the divorce, he still want to go to the movies and have dinner every now and then. Do you think he will continue to sleep with her after the baby is born? Remind you this is the only man I have been with. We have been together for 15 years.

Your Plan: Confront my partner

Advice For Others: If the baby need something, he will bring it and when she open the door she will be naked and will tease him to give him. never date your ex husband after a divorce.

My husband and I have been married 15 years and together for a total of 20 years. Throughout our marriage he has had numerous affairs, and I always chose to forgive him. His latest affair is with a girl 20 years younger (27) than him with children from different men. He is 47. She is a co-worker and has qualities that he has always said he didn’t want. He told me several times that he ended the affair and wanted me and to attend counseling; however, he has now left me for her since I found yet another hidden cell phone, and said it is because she shows him love, affection and has a lot of different sexual moves that he likes. Then calls me to tell me he is staying in a hotel and I know he is lying.

Then tells me that he will be faithful to her because he really loves her.

I know our marriage is over, but I am having difficulty letting go. My first meeting with a divorce recovery group is next week.

Your Plan: Leave my relationship

My husband and i had a fight before and i said things that make his change his mind and forget all his feelings for me..i said to him that i regret that he is my husband and the father of my son…but i did not meant it…i said that because he always scold me and said things that kinda hurt me badly…then lately i found out that he cheated..i asked him why he cheated and he answered “you regret being with me so i looked for someone who will not regret being with me”….is it a valid reason why he cheat? before the girl came we were fine even though we had a fight..it got worst when she came into our lives…and the girl had a son with his previous partner…i had heard that she was his girlfriend before but my husband did not told me about her because he made me believed that i am his first love and first girlfriend…and lately i saw his text messages to the girl saying i love you to her…do you think he really love the girl?or me?he told me that he dont love me anymore and he already forget me…how can he forget me we’ve been 8 yrs and his affair with another is least than a year…do you think he still love me?i want him back…pls help me….we have a 2 year old baby…i want to save my family…

Her Plan: Work it out

Advice For Others: do all what you can do to save your marriage and family…