I found out in December that my partner had slept with a girl at his workplace. It apprently happened early on in the relationship but says he cant remember exactly when. He also says it happened twice, but I dont know if this is true.

They still work in the same place and I am finding it very hard to get rid of the images that float around my head. I can go for days and we are so happy then all of a sudden I get a thought or an image & I wanna lash out at him but I keep it in & it just stews.

The most frustrating thing is he tells me I need to get over it, it happened ages ago, so just move on. But in my head it is still quite fresh & I have questions that are unanswered. But to be honest sometimes I crave the answers, other times I wonder if its best not knowing.

The whole thing is so confusing. We are good together and we love each other and want to move on from this, but I feel he has forgotten too quickly & he feels I have remembered it for too long.

Your Plan: Work it out