I broke up with my Ex 6 months ago, I felt he is not serious & a player so I decided to leave him, in short his attitude was completely strange & unacceptable, I felt I am always under emotional pressure & always confused, simply he was trying to convince me that he is willing to change & be a totally new person ,, but things didn\’t go that way, I felt afterwards that his will to change isn\’t that sincere, he kept relations with many bad girls claiming that nothing abnormal or over limits, he used to disappear, to lie, to spend many hours chatting with girls while blocking me on his chat list(which I discovered later) , & many other unclear & unexplained actions. In short,I trusted my sense & decided to break up with him, he then accused me of not trusting him,& insisted he is a perfect man who never cheated & it is just my problem, which is the same opinion he told others to explain the break up !.. I have been subjected to emotional abuse greatly in this relationship & after it ended, which affected my life, & my self confidence.. It will take me some more time to try to regain my confidence & come back to my previous life….
But now & finally I discovered with clear evidence through his personal emails that while we were together, He was lying to me about many things & the most important is that he was speaking to other girls, & going out & having fun with them , & they are bad & dirty girls. Shall I face him of what I discovered? Is it a good decision to do so even after breaking up??..I know we broke 6 months ago, but he was still contacting me till 1 month ago because of some stuff & insisted that he is straight & that everyone else are sick & liars & that I never understood him & ,till the last minute he is accusing me that I am like stupid to mistrust him !!
But Finally I received mails from his ex girlfriend (which knew about me from him )with his password asking me to check all of the mails & chats to prove to me he was cheating on me while we were together & I was shocked from what I saw !! Of course now everything is clear to me!!, he was such a liar & cheater!!
But I also discovered that he entered a \”New relationship\” now & is starting a new life, so he will not care I think of all of that..What do you think?? Should I send him an email with what I discovered, or ignore?.. I know He might not care at all, especially that he is starting a totally new life,, so I don\’t think he will care even about his image in front of me, But shouldn\’t I just prove (even if he doesn\’t care ) that my decision to leave him was absolutely correct !! & that he has never been a trustworthy person in order to trust him at all!!,..At least for the rest of his life he will be sure of my opinion in him that is not subject to argument or further lies ..! , At the same time, I have the feeling that I should just forgive & forget .. Forgiveness can relieve us as well I think & give me peace of mind, & will allow me to move on as well.. I am really confused..Any Advice?
Thanks in advance..
Your Plan: Ignore it,Confront my partner
I think you are well rid of him. You don’t need a liar and a cheat in your life.
Don’t bother to confront him. He won’t care anyway, and it will just make you unhappy. Forget about him and find a man that will respect you.
Since six months have passed, I think it’s definitely better to let it go. At this point it would just look as if you’re trying to start trouble, and there’s no benefit to you from doing it.
I have been dumped more than a few times but it never becomes easy. There are ways to get better though you have to be clear headed.
There is no way you can get anything useful out of “proving” anything. Don’t try to talk to him, don’t try to prove you were right, just move on.
I almost said “forget all about him” but there is one thing you should remember. Remember how he acted when he was hiding his other girls from you. Maybe it will give you an idea what to look for in your next guy, to make sure he doesn’t do it too.