POSTED BY HURTGIRL– A READER CONTRIBUTED STORY
My boyfriend and me were dating for 6 months. We decided to take a break from the relationship because we had been arguing a lot.During this time I caught him with another girl in his bed.I felt really betrayed because we had both agreed not to date anyone else during our break.
He says it was a big mistake, regrets it and when he did it he felt that I didn\’t want to be with him anymore. I still love him and he loves me but don\’t think it\’s worth giving things another try. Any advice?
Her Plan: Leave my relationship
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Well if you really love him it is always worth giving it another try. So think about it and decide whether you do ‘love’ each other enough to make the effort to work things out.
Technically you weren’t seeing each other at the time, and in a man’s mind it’s not infidelity… I’m not saying it’s right, but that’s how most men think.
Follow your gut instinct. Rule of thumb: if they cheat once, they will do it again.
It sounds as if he has been honest with you now.If you decide to give it another try you need to address the issues that led to arguments previously.
as deltic says… deal with the issues that caused the rows, and then the break up… no point doing it all again if you will end up the same way, another year down the line..
Sometimes it really helps to see a counsellor, it can make it easier to at least to start the communication process off. You will both need to be honest and open with each other.
I agree.. perhaps talking out your issues with an independent listener will help you figure out what you really want…
It is surprising what a difference it can make to have an independent person there to facilitate communication. I really hope things work out well for you.
If I were you. I won’t give it another try. He’ll do it again! Theres alot of fishes out there to catch. Enjoy as you can!
Only you know if you should give him another chance. Ask yourself if you will be able to trust him?
Talk things through with him, if you think he really wants to make it work and if you feel that you could trust him it is probably worth another try.
It is true sometimes about a 3rd party, someone without any vested interest who can be fair and impartial, and just mediate a bit.
They can also help you to stick to the main issues instead of getting side tracked.
That is true, just. That is why there are mediators and counselors out there to assist.
It is important to choose the right one, someone that both people will trust to be fair and objective.