My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other exclusively for 4 months (we dated for a few weeks before) In the beginning we spent a lot of time together, nearly every evening for about a month. Then we started having sex several times a week. Several weeks after, she decided that we should take a break from sex to get to know each other better before continueing. It has now been 2 1/2 months since then and we have not had sex again, nor is the relationship really progressing during this time. She has started making less and less time for me and has been acting really hot and cold, calling me and excitedly asking me to come see her one night and then being conveniently busy,tired,or sick for a day or two and then when we do spend time together after the \”cold spell\” she seems far less affectionate and distracted. Then back to affectionate and \”i miss you, come see me\” It\’s not like its a big deal for me to come see her she lives 10 minutes away. Its like a rollercoaster. This doesn\’t bother me nearly as much as the fact that her sons father comes over sometimes in the evening and stays 1-2 hours past when their son should be asleep. I\’ve expressed my concern about the ex/babys daddy and she reassures me that she is not interested in him at all and only allows him over to spend time with his son. It just seems fishy to me when i add up all the facts. She tells me she loves me but I\’m not sure what to make of it.
His Plan: Confront my partner
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Hi mate, it sounds to me that she wants her cake and to eat it too, you are just a puppet on a string, for when she feels like seeing you. My advice is to make a clean break, you have only been going out a short time and by the sounds of it, most of it she’s just been leading you on for her convenience. Say bye bye and let her screw up someone else’s mind
It sounds to me like she may be jerking you around (I’m sorry to say). I think that it might be time for you to totally back up from her and see what she does. Her reaction might be very revealing.
I see that your plan is to confront… but sounds like you’ve already done that and she has an excuse. My first thought is that the baby’s dad coming over for hours in the evenings doesn’t sound really good. There are dozens of other ways (and times!) that he could spend time with the baby. Much better times.
And she’s calling you on the nights he’s not over there? Hmmmm……
have to say it doesn’t sound good from here..
maybe she isn’t ready for an intense relationship, which it sounds like it was heading towards..
I agree with the others, I would be suspicious, it doesn’t sound quite right to me.
Dating is for finding out if someone is right for you. I think you know the answer to the question here. You just have to come to terms with it and then act appropriately.