Comments on: There Has To Be Trust In A Relationship

By: Amy

Amy — Tue, 19 Oct 2010 17:00:24 +0000

I quite agree with you Stav. I think he showed very little care about her feelings but now he wants to make himself out as the one who has been wronged. If he had talked to her honestly a long time ago all this could have been avoided.

By: deltic

deltic — Sat, 09 Oct 2010 22:18:25 +0000

I wonder if perhaps he has some issues around trust because of something that has happened in a previous relationship?

By: stav

stav — Sat, 02 Oct 2010 15:17:07 +0000

sorry Katharina i was sort of replying to Deltic’s post.. but i think i must have been drinkking… I think it is safe to say we are mostly in agreement.

I don’t think she had anything to hide, I think he has trust issues, and i think he is looking for excuses not to commit to the girl..

By: Katharina

Katharina — Sat, 02 Oct 2010 15:08:01 +0000

Proving once again that there are always two sides, and two POVs and even when they clash, everyone knew what they were thinking and feeling and that makes both views valid.

And Stav, I’m not sure what you’re asking because your question is exactly what I said and the point I made.

By: dahling

dahling — Sat, 02 Oct 2010 07:42:14 +0000

You know what I am going throught the same thing. My bf was and still is acting cold towards me and doesn’t know if he wants to be with me anymore. So I hacked all of his webpages. Even his work email. And the thigs I read were unbeliveable. He is suggestivly flirting with a girl from where we work.(We work at the same place)People also see them together flirting and talking privatly. He is telling her all of our problems. We have been together for 2 years and known eachother for 3 years, he even proposed once, but we didn’t marry. I know that he is being disloyal to me but the proof that I have can be used aginst me. If only I could make him tell me the truth then we could get it all out in the open. I don’t know if I should just leave him without saying why or tell him why or if I should give him sometime to tell me the truth.

By: deltic

deltic — Fri, 01 Oct 2010 22:27:08 +0000

Katharina you make a very important point. If she had trusted him with her password it seems very unlikely that she felt she had anything to hide.

By: stav

stav — Fri, 01 Oct 2010 21:34:30 +0000

well if she trusted him enough to give him her password then he is the one that has a problem don’t you think? if she had something to hide why would she do that?

By: Orrymain

Orrymain — Fri, 01 Oct 2010 18:52:14 +0000

I know what you mean, Katharina. I didn’t choose to pursue that point, but it is a valid one. Everything works two ways, including trust.

By: Katharina

Katharina — Fri, 01 Oct 2010 15:39:32 +0000

So, how’d ya hack her FaceBook? May seem like an odd question, but I’m going somewhere with it. If you literally hacked it… well then UGH.

But if you mean she’d given you her password at some point and you just went snooping, then I’d say she didn’t care if you saw the letter because she considered it innocent. Makes a big difference, eh?

By: Orrymain

Orrymain — Fri, 01 Oct 2010 03:59:32 +0000

Personally, that doesn’t sound bad to me. It could be completely innocent. As I’ve been saying, though, if you don’t have trust, you don’t have anything.