Comments on: There Has To Be Trust In A Relationship

By: justontime

justontime — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 22:40:47 +0000

Trust is so important in a relationship and once lost (by hacking into her account) it will be very hard to rebuild.

By: Taggart

Taggart — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 14:27:54 +0000

I agree that what’s quoted from her letter doesn’t sound very bad at all, and unfortunately you’ve broken her trust by hacking into her account.

By: justontime

justontime — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 21:58:35 +0000

Very well put Stav, I hope he can learn to be honest with himself before he begins another relationship or he is likely to encounter similar problems.

By: stav

stav — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 16:45:06 +0000

I think so too. Now that he has realised she’s probably decided she is wasting her time waiting for him, he is trying to justify himself by saying she couldn’t be trusted. When he betrayed the trust.

By: justontime

justontime — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 22:33:49 +0000

I quite agree with you Stav. I think he showed very little care about her feelings but now he wants to make himself out as the one who has been wronged. If he had talked to her honestly a long time ago all this could have been avoided.

By: stav

stav — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 17:43:10 +0000

Reading it again he says that she is mad because he hasn’t popped the question.. but then says how can he after finding letters etc.. Thing is, he didn’t pop the question and she was ‘mad’ long before he snooped into her facebook account, so using it as an excuse not to commit is just a cop out, imho..

By: debrajean

debrajean — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 10:31:42 +0000

A 1 on 1 conversation might’ve been the ideal way to go. If she wants to commit and you don’t, then why shouldn’t she move on? As a couple you both seem to want different things from the relationship and at this point maybe a break is needed.

By: justontime

justontime — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 19:38:54 +0000

You wrote “I’m drama free and she’s killin that plan”. That is a very odd thing to say, have you had problems in the past that have left you with issues around trust. You certainly don’t speak about her with any warmth, you sound rather self obsessed. I think you would do well to get help with whatever unresolved issues you have.

By: justontime

justontime — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 22:02:55 +0000

You are the one who broke the trust. If I was her I would not be able to trust you again. If you knew she wanted more and you were not willng to offer it, you had a good idea why she was unhappy. Her conversation with an old friend may be innocent. It sounds to me as if she is recognising that you are not right for her and she is trying to gather her thoughts about what to do next.

By: stav

stav — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 17:13:32 +0000

You had clues you say. Could you not have sat down with her and tried to have a serious conversation? Trust seems to be lacking on your part otherwise why hack into her account?

You say she wants you to pop the question, so could it be that she has decided you won’t commit yourself to the relationship and is now considering looking elsewhere?