Comments on: Do all What You Can Do To Save Your Marriage

By: T

Sat, 25 Dec 2010 22:15:12 +0000

Joan, I have to agree with stav and justontime; He is a cheat and is definitely justifying his cheating ways by blaming you, which is what all cheaters do. No that is not love but selfish behavior that you do not deserve. Love yourself and think hard about what you want. No good can come from this as Joan has stated so focus on your child and do what works for you

By: Amy

Amy — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 09:00:31 +0000

I think debrajean has given you good advice. Don’t blame yourself, the blame lies with him. I really hope you can build a good life for you and your child.

By: regret

regret — Wed, 12 May 2010 02:42:29 +0000

The word you said to him were harmful especially to a male Ego. You have to do things you never done before to get him back. what is your limit? You have to show him he means the world to you and then confront the woman who is stealing his time and tell her to stay away from him. He will be impressed and maybe u will have him back. Never say hurtful things that is so hard to take back.

By: justontime

justontime — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 00:35:39 +0000

I think debrajean has given you good advice. Don’t blame yourself, the blame lies with him. I really hope you can build a good life for you and your child.

By: debrajean

debrajean — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 10:46:49 +0000

This man is a typical cheater, liar, and not good husband material. First things first, stop blaming yourself. You’ve done nothing wrong. The real question should be, “what’s wrong with him that he can throw an 8 yr relationship away so easily?” Seek out your closest human services department and apply for all the assistance you can for you and your child. See what avenues you need to take to make yourself self-sufficient and then take the steps you need to in order to provide for you and your child.

By: Taggart

Taggart — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 23:31:02 +0000

Yes, that also makes sense. So I guess he would have to really prove himself to stay in the relationship. I’ve heard of several people who wished they’d stayed with their original spouses… I don’t know if he’s one or not.

And about the texting, that reminds me of a friend of mine who was dumped by email – Twice, I think and she’s back with the guy.

By: deltic

deltic — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 23:26:45 +0000

I agree Stav, that is certainly what would be going through my mind if I was his wife.

By: stav

stav — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 18:15:19 +0000

my problem with that Taggart, is that if he was insincere when he told the other woman by text that he loves her.. then maybe he is being just as insincere when he tells Joan the same thing…

By: Taggart

Taggart — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 23:22:30 +0000

Stav, that is a good point. I suppose a lot of people say that without being sincere, and I think it may be easier to do in a text.

If everyone said how they really felt in this situation all along, I think it would be much easier to resolve.

By: deltic

deltic — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 21:54:49 +0000

Some women put up with cheating men, they have their reasons, I can’t say I fully understand but it is their choice. However this man not only cheated he blamed his wife for making him do it. He will keep on cheating because he has no respect for his wife or family. She has some hard choices to make.