Comments on: His Excuse Just Doesn’t Make Sense – Is He Sleeping with Someone Else?

By: debrajean

debrajean — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 22:51:09 +0000

He may be under a lot pressure at work and is unable to articulate how he feels about that or is going through a certain life change that doesn’t pertain to you. Weed out the possibilities. It’s not always necessarily about cheating, it just may be about how he’s feeling about himself as a man.

By: justontime

justontime — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 14:05:53 +0000

Stav you are right about that, but the biggest challenge that this couple have is at the moment is to communicate honestly. I think she needs to keep an open mind, there is something wrong but it is not really clear what the problem is.

By: stav

stav — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 16:53:20 +0000

You men mostly find expressing your feelings really difficult.. Being brought up to believe that ‘feelings’ are those things girls have and that a real man just gets on with it.

By: Taggart

Taggart — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 01:18:51 +0000

I think the biggest single challenge at the moment is true communication.

I’m sure it can be very difficult to discuss some things with anyone, including a spouse.

It can be very tough to know what’s playing on some people’s minds.

By: Deltic

Deltic — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 22:57:05 +0000

I think Stav is right that many of us struggle to express emotions especially in relation to death. I would be supportive of him up to a point, but if he has said things that he regrets he has to say so and apologise. It isn’t OK to treat his wife like that and move on without even addressing it.

By: stav

stav — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 20:37:25 +0000

A sad story, and you must try to understand that it is very difficult for a lot of men to deal with emotions. It sounds like he has said some things he doesn’t mean, which you must try to forgive him for.

He has an overwhelming sense of guilt that he has let his mother down, and because you are closest to him, you are bearing the brunt of it.

By: T

Sun, 29 Nov 2009 13:16:56 +0000

Justonetime, you are absolutely correct. So I wish this woman the best and hopes that she can pull from this and be there to support him unless there is something that can substantiate her thoughts and feelings of being cheated on. So reader, if you are reading this please be patient with him, be there for him, support him, and he will open up to you but give him the time to work through his own hurt for his mother…he only has one.

By: justontime

justontime — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 00:57:14 +0000

I think T makes a good point. People canreact very oddly when dealing with the death of a close family member. If he feels he has let his mother down in the past it may be bothering him that he doesn’t have the means to put it right.

By: T

Sun, 22 Nov 2009 13:15:17 +0000

Eden, he could be going through a depressive stage and blaming himself because he has not been able to pay back the debt to his parents. His mother is dying and men are usually close to their mothers. When people are depressed, their sex drive diminishes too so I’d wait it out and be there for him in a positive way. Don’t be so quick to jump to conclusions here because like justontime, I’m not convinced that he’s cheating or has cheated. Just be there and support him through this rough time with his mother, that is the best thing you can do for him right now as his wife. It sounds like he is hurting for his mother’s sake not a bimbo. Love him and support him right now, you will come out smelling like more than a dozen of roses.

By: justontime

justontime — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:33:46 +0000

That is an interesting thought Molly, certainly something significant has happened to change his attitude towards her.