Comments on: He Runs To His Ex For Advice On His Marriage

By: Taggart

Taggart — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 14:15:02 +0000

And hopefully the person who submitted the scenario benefits from the different points of view. I’d be interested in hearing how sue has since dealt with her problem.

By: deltic

deltic — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 22:32:51 +0000

I think it will always be that way Stav. We only have limited and one sided information and of course our advice will be coloured by our own experiences.

By: stav

stav — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 18:21:57 +0000

interesting the number of different opinions on the one subject. I guess that is what these places are for, to lay out all the different versions, not to establish that one is ‘right’ over another.

By: justontime

justontime — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 23:04:45 +0000

It seems to me that communication has broken down in this marriage and there are also trust issues. This couple need to communicate with each other, but if they are going to address these issues they may need someone independent to help them to communicate honestly with each other.

By: Deltic

Deltic — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 22:49:38 +0000

I am not sure we can say that the writer is the one with the issues. The long standing problem with trust must have had some basis. He is very foolish to talk to the other woman and then lie about it, that is not the way to build trust. I am a great believer in instinct, if she has suspicions, she should take notice of her feelings. I have my doubts about the other woman’s motivation, I think she is trying to cause trouble and that leads me to wonder why!

By: stav

stav — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 20:30:32 +0000

Counselling always seems to be the offered solution. Personally I think that sometimes you just have to buckle down and work at your marriage. This woman is the one with the issues unless she has proof that her husband is cheating on her. He is wrong to lie about talking to this other woman, if indeed he did, but considering her reactions, it is not surprising.

By: Deltic

Deltic — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 22:07:37 +0000

Stav, I am not sure we can assume the other woman is being upfront with her. The trust issues are deep rooted and they go back years according to the writer. That needs to be addressed and it probably requires some counselling.

By: justontime

justontime — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 22:02:52 +0000

I still think this couple need to be talking to each other. I dont think trust can be achieved without communication and without trust it will not be a strong relationship.

By: T

Mon, 30 Nov 2009 00:52:17 +0000

stav, you are right on with the trust issues but I agree with you that she should wait for more definitive reasons not to trust him. Heretoday makes a great point though…lol.

By: stav

stav — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 22:31:48 +0000

well this woman is being upfront with you about it from the start… i don’t personally think it’s wrong for a man to go to a woamn he knows well for advice… sounds to me like you have other issues…

i’d try trusting him, until you got REAL reasons to distrust him… t