Comments on: Confused About His Girlfriend’s Actions

By: justontime

justontime — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 00:49:57 +0000

Well put debrajean! If he hasn’t got around to making the relationship more formal in 9 years, I don’t think he could have been that serious about a long term future anyway.

By: debrajean

debrajean — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 22:46:20 +0000

To me, it seems like you may have some control issues. You don’t seem to trust her…after nine yrs? And her ability to enjoy another persons company doesn’t seem to bode well with you. If this girl means so much to you, that you would write a word or two about it in a forum, then after all these years you might want to…in the words of Beyonce’, put a ring on it. Although at this point she might refuse it.

By: deltic

deltic — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 01:35:09 +0000

Just from reading it I got the impression that they were living together now but had been ‘going out with’ each other for 9 years. It doesn’t really matter. I think I would find his behaviour suffocating if he was my partner.

By: stav

stav — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 22:44:22 +0000

thats all about his lack of trust in the woman he has been with for 9 years. As far as i can tell she’s not given him real reason to suspect her. Actually, he says ‘going out with’ rather than partner.. so I assume they don’t even live together.

By: deltic

deltic — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 00:07:29 +0000

I think you are right Stav, but also he sounds very controling and he is moaning about things that sound fairly normal.

By: stav

stav — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 15:45:26 +0000

I don’t think the idea that she may be cheating is really the issue at all. I think it is just a trust issue, and the stuff he mentions here is just the fuel that has been added to his suspicious nature…

By: deltic

deltic — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 01:20:51 +0000

Exactly Stav, even if I tried to remember what I laughed at it may not make much sense to someone who wasn’t there at the time.

By: stav

stav — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 18:19:01 +0000

Good point. I often laugh with collegues during the course of the day, it’s that kind of office environment.

I’d be hard put to tell you what we were laughing about half an hour later..

By: deltic

deltic — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 22:22:48 +0000

Reading the article again, he was miffed when he phoned her at work because she was laughing with a colleague. Later when she picked him up he asked what she was laughing about, I am not surprised she couldn’t remember it was probably totally trivial. Making a big deal of it days later is stupid, it really isn’t important. He sounds a bit paranoid.

By: stav

stav — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 18:09:36 +0000

My neighbour’s lad was 22 and was going out with a 16 yr old.. all the usual stuff about marriage etc.. they got engaged.. My neighbour was miffed at me because I said it will never happen.

It didn’t. By the time the girl was 18 and starting University, she was a completely different person, mature and knowing her own mind, and they clashed on everything. He was expecting to take charge of everything the same way as when she was just a sheltered 16 yr old.