Comments on: Sisters In Love With The Same Man

By: deltic

deltic — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 22:02:45 +0000

I think many of us take for granted the good role models around us when we grew up and we assume that the same support is available for everyone. There were several people in my church who took a special interest in me, a family friend who became more than a grandmother to me, aunts and uncles, several really amazing teachers at school and I am sure there were others. People who grow up in families where something is lacking at home need that outside support even more, but they are less likely to have access to the people who could support and encourage them.

By: stav

stav — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 21:23:19 +0000

I agree Deltic. Lots of small positive influences on a child, add up.

I’ve read of things like that happeningmany times Taggart. There is still so much we do not understand.

By: Taggart

Taggart — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 13:40:05 +0000

I’m sure even unborn children are aware of the stress in the voices they hear from inside the womb.

I read of a musician who recognized a piece of music he hadn’t heard since he was born… His mother had been practicing it on a cello while she was carrying him.

By: deltic

deltic — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 00:43:11 +0000

Children benefit form consistent influences in their lives. A neighbour who asks how they are getting on at school (and listens to the answer), admires a new outfit or just has a little chat when they meet in the street, will gradually win the childs trust and the child will benefit even from that small degree of involvement.

By: stav

stav — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 23:26:17 +0000

kids understand a lot more than we realise, and they are also easily affected by drama they see around them. often they have no way to express how they feel about what is going on and bottle up things that cause them problems later on.

By: Taggart

Taggart — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 13:28:54 +0000

I agree with the concept of treating children as persons, including not “talking down” to them the way some people tend to communicate with them.

And presenting a positive example is essential.

By: deltic

deltic — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 21:53:31 +0000

I think justontime is right, I think it is about treating the child as a person, taking an interest in him/her, but it needs to start when the child is young. Just being friendly and having good standards yourself, neighbours and friends can do that and it is even more important when things seem to be lacking at home.

By: Taggart

Taggart — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 19:13:15 +0000

Oh justontime, I see. I guess it’s sort of like the saying “It takes a village to raise a child.”

All children could use good role models to look up to.

By: justontime

justontime — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 15:37:45 +0000

I didn’t necessarily mean getting involved in disputes. These young women must have been raised somewhere, if people had taken an interest in them and set them an example they may not have got into this terrible situation in the first place.

By: Taggart

Taggart — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 12:16:20 +0000

I think in many cases neighbors are reluctant to get involved in family disputes. Sometimes it sounds worse than it is, but then there’s also abuse that isn’t that noisy at all.