Comments on: How Can He Just Move On Like That

By: justontime

justontime — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 21:50:31 +0000

Sara that was excellent advice. I am sorry about the way you were treated but I admire you for sharing your hurt in order to help others.

By: stav

stav — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 20:30:39 +0000

Sara that all sounds awful. I am glad that you ave managed to get through it, sadder, but wiser.

By: Taggart

Taggart — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 23:42:03 +0000

Sara, your experience sounds terrible and I think you’ve probably given some sound advice there. Best of luck to both of you.

By: Sara

Sara — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 11:45:08 +0000

hey hun! so sorry to hear about the jerk. i just went through dating a guy for a year that as it turns out he had another girlfriend for the whole year& i was the woman on the side… amongst many others as i have found out. it just hurts. time will make it better, but my only advice is to think about the opossibility that he may have a mental illness. the harshness of the drop is the same as mine… but i got maced by the girlfriend and given a sprained ankle when he threw me down the stairs when i caught them together.some people are crazy i think and that has to give you comfort somewhat that even thought they say they love you, the may actually really only love what you do for them… and other than that they are just as happy if someone else will look after them. some people are just great con artists&its hard not to believe their words… i know it might hurt to hear, but he was probably already cheating on you but you never caught him. some people are just slime… be grateful you got out of it when you did without a messy divorce… much love and hugs hun! it’ll get easier.

By: chris1203

chris1203 — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 21:07:38 +0000

I think that he has a BIG problem and there’s nothing that YOU can do about it, but move on. He’s not worth your grief.

By: Taggart

Taggart — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 12:19:38 +0000

I know a situation where a child chose to go live with her father, who she hadn’t been seeing much of, and that turned out to be a bad idea. I agree, it would have been better if she’d seen more of him and didn’t build him up to an unrealistic level in her mind.

By: justontime

justontime — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 11:22:52 +0000

Unfortunately waring parents tend to think that the best interests of the children are served by isolating them from the other parent. This is hardly ever the best solution. Children need contact with both parents to know that they are loved (however imperfectly) and`wanted. It will do far more damage to isolate them from the other parent or to alienate them by discussing all the perceived failings of the parent in front of them.

By: heretoday

heretoday — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 20:16:52 +0000

Yes, the kids are the major concern. They trust what people say and they have no choice where they end up. The mother needed to have much more care for her kids than to dump them in such a situation. I’d get some counseling, and hope that can keep the kids from scarring could last their whole lives.

By: Tara Tulips

Tara Tulips — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 01:41:55 +0000

I agree Orrymain if people REALLY stopped and thought of the childrens best interest. This wouldn’t happen. Childrens best interest NEEDS to come first.

By: Orrymain

Orrymain — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 23:45:11 +0000

Hosea, kids are so often the victims. Parents just don’t think about them. I don’t understand how they can be so self-involved, but that’s how many so-called parents are.