28 Responses

• Tara Tulips on October 22nd, 2009 at 11:14 am

  My first response is Those poor kids.Bless their little souls. I hope this doesn’t screw them up to much. Theres no other way to say this but very cut and dry. If he’s cheating on one woman he will always cheat again and be able to move on with no problem,sorry.I hate to say this but he was cheating on you too during those six years too.The only thing wrong with you is believed the lies of a cheater.Good luck and move on.
  If he was a loyal man with integrity that cared about peoples/womens feelings he never would have put his family in this mess and hurt his wife and kids from the beginning,remember they were the FIRST ones who’s lives had fallen apart.If you really disect it,it’s very clear and there’s nothing to be confused about.

• Orrymain on October 22nd, 2009 at 12:43 pm

  It’s not you, it’s him. I’ll never understand how a woman who is dating a cheater thinks that when she gets the guy, he won’t cheat on her, too. Ladies, wake up. If he cheats on the wife with you, when you get him, he’s gonna cheat on you, too. History is full of this. Do not date a cheater unless you are prepared to be cheated on yourself.

  My favorite famous story of this is Michael Landon’s second wife, Lynn. Lynn did you did. She was the other woman. Michael dumped his first wife and married Lynn. Guess what? Yes, eventually, he cheated on Lynn with Cindy. Lynn was like you, distraught — how could he? What I love about Lynn is that she actually had the guts to go to the first wife and apologize because now she knew what she’d done to the first wife.

  I’m not trying to sound harsh, but I don’t get it. If you get together with a proven cheater, and if you’re the other woman then you know he’s a cheater, the odds are 90% or higher that one day, he’ll make you the person he’s cheating on.

  Moral — let him go and move on with your life, and next time, don’t let yourself be ‘the other woman’.

• Tara Tulips on October 22nd, 2009 at 1:46 pm

  My favorite story is Marla Maples and Donald Trump. Marla actually chased Ivana his wife at the time down a ski slope and told her to stay out of her and Donalds buisness. Donald ends up dumping Marla several years later for some hot little model HA!! Just like he did with Ivana. Funny how history repeats itself. Then Marla wants to apologize years later to Ivana, because she knew how it felt,but Ivana’s reponse was “F YOU” Thats the best! Cheaters cheat,and heed the warning ……please don’t take up T’s offer to bang her husband if she comes on here and adds her pearls of wisdom.

• justontime on October 22nd, 2009 at 2:54 pm

  Some men (and some women) will cheat whatever and whoever they have. You had a few clues that should have told you to back off at the beginning of all this, he was married and he had already cheated on his wife! I’m sorry this has happened, you don’t sound like a bad person, he behaved badly because that is what he does. It is a very hard lesson.

• Orrymain on October 23rd, 2009 at 6:17 am

  Tara, I’d never heard that about Marla and Ivana, but I don’t doubt it for a minute. I’m not sure if women are just egotistical or what, but it’s a fatal flaw to think that you’re so special that he won’t cheat on you.

  There are exceptions. Paul Newman cheated on his wife with Joanne Woodward and they had a fairybook romance that continued for decades, so I do want to acknowledge it’s possible, but not probable.

• Hosea on October 23rd, 2009 at 11:21 am

  I agree with Tara’s very first response: I feel sorry for the kids.

• stav on October 23rd, 2009 at 12:35 pm

  It’s not your fault, and there is nothing wrong with you. It’s him… he cheated on his wife over and over, and h e cheated on you, guaranteed he’ll cheat on the new woman too.

  It’s sad about the kids, but depending on how old they are, they can choose to see you even if you and their father are no longer a pair..

  Why not arrange to take them somewhere, some treat or another, just you and them?

• T on October 26th, 2009 at 4:09 pm

  Kelli,

  Like most “other women” it sounds like you got what you deserve too and it’s not sympathy or empathy at all. You got yourself screwed a lot, used as much, and now “you” want to be heartbroken. Hmm, I have to say that you got what you should have gotten, used.

  Tara, feels like you know me well and also sounds like you were once or are still the “other woman” in someone’s marriage. I’m being a realist and that is if you women want to be screwed by someone’s husband then lay down and do what you do best and that is spread your legs or scar your knees. Stephanie Phillips has become great at that and do I dare to say the same about you Tara and the other ones like Kelli?

  I am enjoying hearing what all of you “other women” have to say but from me you get no sympathy. I say you should be used if you allow yourself because it’s all a choice. Just like it’s a choice for me to see Stephanie be used so why should I send the husband to her when he can go do what I don’t want to do with her and other women like you Tara and Kelli? Stop the madness and get your own and please do not bring any children into the madness thinking that will bring him because it won’t. It will only leave the children without a parent they so deserve. Stop the madness ladies!

• Tara on October 26th, 2009 at 5:39 pm

  Kelli, Just ignore the freak above me,as you can see nobody responds to her she’s the site wacko who actually provides much entertainment with her bizarre irrational thinking and spewing her lifetime of anger and frustration onto strangers in cyber space.You’ll see from her other posts she recycles the same insults over and over again. Don’t even acknowledge her…a few peeps on here warned me just to ignore her but by all means laugh at her stupidity and pathetic posts.We all do.

• Tara on October 26th, 2009 at 5:55 pm

  Kelli,it’s safe to say the woman is coming apart like a $3.00 watch and her life couldn’t suck anymore than it already does.

• Taggart on October 27th, 2009 at 8:08 am

  I think Kelli would be well advised to try for a “fresh start” too. I know some people find themselves in extramarital situations who are basically against it, and others just don’t care.

  It would definitely be ideal to avoid being the “other man” or “other woman.”

• T on October 27th, 2009 at 4:13 pm

  Yes Taggart,

  I totally agree with you. Avoid “all” situations where you are just the other person and be good to yourself. Oh Tara, I love you too.

• T on October 29th, 2009 at 3:22 pm

  Oh Tara,

  A woman’s love….I love you too

• Taratwotits on October 29th, 2009 at 7:31 pm

  I’m convinced T wants to have a 3 some with me and drive me home with a strap on why else would another feline be chasing another one around on a message board?

  Whos’ on top in your dreams sugar puff? GEEEEEEZ!

• stav on October 31st, 2009 at 11:31 am

  it is time for Kelli to stand up for herself and to move on from this man who is using her.

  T…are you for real? Sound like a troll to me… being ‘controversial’ just for effect…

• T on October 31st, 2009 at 12:57 pm

  Yes stav,

  The conversations cannot be all straight forward. How can we think if we don’t challenge ourselves. Haven’t you read the Steve Harvey book, Act like a lady and think like a man? This is exactly how a man thinks and thanks to Steve, I have learned. Men are trolls as you have stated about me and that is why I won’t let another get over on me. Yes I am being controversial just for the effects.

  Kelli like many of the others on this site are allowing the men to use them and it’s time we all stand up and reverse this trend. They will only use us if we let them and I be damned if I allow another to use me and that includes my egotistical ass husband who thinks with his lower head instead of the one with the brain attached!

• T on October 31st, 2009 at 1:08 pm

  Yes, he thought he was getting over on me when all alone he was being corrected! Stephenie allowed him to use her and this is the behavior that ALL women must avoid. If he is married, he is not going to leave for them and Stephanie has found out but continues to be the fool she is. We need to be honest with each other if we are going to help each other. Enough with the pitiful stories we are giving and be honest. How can we help if we cannot even be honest!

  I don’t need the pity because I know who I am and that is not a fool. If the other women want to continue to be used then we cannot do anything about that but don’t bring it to me stav, Tara or any of you others if you can’t hold your own. I have learned and I am here to help those who really want to be helped. Don’t use this site for the self pity. Pull yourself up by the boot straps, push that chest out, hold that head up high, and walk on the whores who want to be walked on and walk past that asshole who thinks he is using you.

  He cannot get from you as the respectable woman so he is going out getting it from those of us who choose to be the unrespectable woman…”the other woman.” Why do you want to be second to anyone? That is ludicrous so stop looking for the pity and get yourself out of the situation and treat yourself better.

  Stav, get a grip and understand that I am a woman too but not the woman who will allow myself to be used, abused, and humiliated by any man. Nor will allow the helfa that he is sleeping around with walk over me either and take my self esteem. I have learned to be true to myself now so you can deal with me too because he has learned to deal with a stronger woman now. Learn to be strong and enough with the pitiful stories. If you are going to help these women and me, then tell me something that will help me not further rip my self esteem from under me.

• Tara Tulips on October 31st, 2009 at 3:06 pm

  Stav, ignore her/him it’s an internet troll,jumping on sites and baiting people for drama and a reaction,as you can see most people that have been on here forawhile don’t even respond to her/him. There all over the net on boards.

  I haven’t seen Kelly back here forawhile. She should pop back on.

  Happy Halloween peeps!

• Orrymain on October 31st, 2009 at 4:45 pm

  Hosea, kids are so often the victims. Parents just don’t think about them. I don’t understand how they can be so self-involved, but that’s how many so-called parents are.

• Tara Tulips on October 31st, 2009 at 6:41 pm

  I agree Orrymain if people REALLY stopped and thought of the childrens best interest. This wouldn’t happen. Childrens best interest NEEDS to come first.

• heretoday on November 12th, 2009 at 1:16 pm

  Yes, the kids are the major concern. They trust what people say and they have no choice where they end up. The mother needed to have much more care for her kids than to dump them in such a situation. I’d get some counseling, and hope that can keep the kids from scarring could last their whole lives.

• justontime on November 13th, 2009 at 4:22 am

  Unfortunately waring parents tend to think that the best interests of the children are served by isolating them from the other parent. This is hardly ever the best solution. Children need contact with both parents to know that they are loved (however imperfectly) and`wanted. It will do far more damage to isolate them from the other parent or to alienate them by discussing all the perceived failings of the parent in front of them.

• Taggart on November 13th, 2009 at 5:19 am

  I know a situation where a child chose to go live with her father, who she hadn’t been seeing much of, and that turned out to be a bad idea. I agree, it would have been better if she’d seen more of him and didn’t build him up to an unrealistic level in her mind.

• chris1203 on November 13th, 2009 at 2:07 pm

  I think that he has a BIG problem and there’s nothing that YOU can do about it, but move on. He’s not worth your grief.

• Sara on December 21st, 2009 at 4:45 am

  hey hun! so sorry to hear about the jerk. i just went through dating a guy for a year that as it turns out he had another girlfriend for the whole year& i was the woman on the side… amongst many others as i have found out. it just hurts. time will make it better, but my only advice is to think about the opossibility that he may have a mental illness. the harshness of the drop is the same as mine… but i got maced by the girlfriend and given a sprained ankle when he threw me down the stairs when i caught them together.some people are crazy i think and that has to give you comfort somewhat that even thought they say they love you, the may actually really only love what you do for them… and other than that they are just as happy if someone else will look after them. some people are just great con artists&its hard not to believe their words… i know it might hurt to hear, but he was probably already cheating on you but you never caught him. some people are just slime… be grateful you got out of it when you did without a messy divorce… much love and hugs hun! it’ll get easier.

• Taggart on January 18th, 2010 at 4:42 pm

  Sara, your experience sounds terrible and I think you’ve probably given some sound advice there. Best of luck to both of you.

• stav on February 8th, 2010 at 1:30 pm

  Sara that all sounds awful. I am glad that you ave managed to get through it, sadder, but wiser.

• justontime on February 8th, 2010 at 2:50 pm

  Sara that was excellent advice. I am sorry about the way you were treated but I admire you for sharing your hurt in order to help others.