Comments on: When to Leave a Cheating Spouse: 5 Signs

By: kernow

kernow — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 22:02:52 +0000

justontime, you are right, I hadn’t thought of it in that way before but it is such extreme selfishness that it feels dangerous.

By: justontime

justontime — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 21:59:13 +0000

When you read through the 5 points above you realise that a person who could behave like that cares only about himself. I find it hard to understand how anyone could treat someone they claim to love with such contempt.

By: justontime

justontime — Mon, 08 Feb 2010 01:49:23 +0000

I agree deltic, it is good advice she is not telling you what to do but her questions and comments are well balanced.

By: deltic

deltic — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 22:18:20 +0000

I have just read this article through again and I think this really is good advice. No one can make a decision for you, but this is very balanced well reasoned advice.

By: stav

stav — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 03:24:36 +0000

Those are the ones I would class as the thrill seekers deltic. They just get off on the excitement..

By: deltic

deltic — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 23:34:32 +0000

I think some people cheat just because they can, they want to have their cake and eat it. I don’t think they think it through until but by the time they wise up the damage has been done

By: Taggart

Taggart — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 23:33:51 +0000

Yes stav, and I guess in different cases that’s the way it could be for all involved – The cheater, the cheated on and the third person in the triangle.

By: stav

stav — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 18:18:27 +0000

some cheat for the thrill, or to prove tothemselves they are still attractive and desirable, or because they are unhappy in their relationships. In all the above cases it is a sign that things are not going well, and as Taggart says, they should just leave.

Trouble is though, with child support and alimony and all the other things that go with it, for many, there just isn’t the option to walk away.

By: Taggart

Taggart — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 23:25:07 +0000

I still can’t understand the thinking of people who cheat but don’t care if they get caught. I’d think that they would be happier if they just left the person. Maybe there are financial considerations in play?

By: mollyL

mollyL — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 21:50:42 +0000

The first thing he would have to do is show me a lab report clearing him of any infections, STDs, and/or AIDs. He’d also have to shave, to get rid of any crabs, scabies, etc. Then, I’d tell him he was still a dirty skanks and to get lost!
(As Shakespeare said, “Revenge is a dish best eaten cold.”)