Spouses who cheat can leave a wake of pain and emotional destruction behind them. Being cheated on can feel terrible, and when it happens in a marriage it can feel even worse. And when you are cheated on, it brings up a lot of questions about your future. For example: what should you do about the situation? Should you confront your spouse about it? Should you leave him or her?

These are common questions for people in your situation. If you are sure that your spouse is cheating on you, I have put together some guidelines to help you figure out what to do next. Here are 5 signs for when to leave a cheating spouse:

Married 18 years. 3 beautiful children, beautiful wife, home, etc… Found out 4 weeks ago through my wife’s own admission that she was having an affair for approximately 5 months.

Our initial discussions were angry, some were heart felt and rationalized, most were just trying to understand where the other was coming from and understand. My wife stated she had to get away and think. Went OOT for a few days, and came back stating that she broke it off with the other man, and wanted to work on getting our marriage back in order. First thing I found to disprove her was a separate phone she was using to text, and call him. The next 2 weeks were full of short outburst, and arguments because I found myself questioning everything she did. I didn’t see that she was trying at all, when I was putting in 100% effort, trying to do what she stated she needed from me.

Before I dive right into this article, I should warn you. What you are about to read is a heavy combination of personal experience, astute observation, and unrelenting research.

This list was more or less something of a personal checklist of mine to use when evaluating a potential new female prospect in my life and it has been extremely good and accurate for my friends and I. What I am trying to say is that if you read this, and notice that your girlfriend or wife rates unfavorably in any category, you might start developing a case of paranoia that would ultimately accelerate the end of your relationship. Or worse yet, actually cause the relationship fail when she is just a little weak in one or two categories.