Whatever the reason, if you want to save the relationship you need to take steps to get over being cheated upon. Here are 4 effective tips to help you:
1. Don’t Act The Victim
I know you are hurt and perhaps confused, but sitting back and feeling sorry for yourself is not going to help. The one that cheated is not going to be the one to patch up the relationship. You will help heal your ego more by being the strong one now than if you just waited to let the whole thing blow over.
2. Don’t accuse
The natural tendency when you have been cheated on is to rant and rage. This might take some steam off your chest but it won’t help your relationship. The cheater will just go on the offensive and perhaps be driven to the one he cheated with. No matter how hard it may be, you need to swallow your anger and pride.
Don’t be telling them how badly you are hurt or expect the cheater to come crawling. If you want to save your relationship, all your energy should be pointed in that direction.
3. Get to the bottom of it
If you don’t know the reason for the cheating, you can’t fix it and your relationship will be on shaky ground. This is probably going to hurt, but you must know the reason for the cheating.
You are going to hear some things that you don’t want to hear, but deep down you no doubt suspect what caused the cheating. Don’t accept lame excuses such as ” It just happened”. That won’t help to put it behind you. In order to save your relationship, the real reason must surface so that it can be fixed.
4. Forgive and forget
This might be the hardest part of all, but it is the most necessary step. You must learn to trust your partner again. A relationship cannot survive unless there is trust. Your tendency now will to be suspicious and watchful. Although a certain amount of this will be unavoidable for a time, you must not smother or make your partner feel imprisoned. Doing so will only lead to the partner wanting to escape.
About the Author – H L Archer
There are many things that need be done after an infidelity, and it will take time for the suspicions and hurt to go away. There are also many causes for cheating Fortunately there is an almost certain remedy for it. Find the reason and the remedy.