Comments on: Lack of Trust In A Relationship

By: Deltic

Deltic — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 22:12:00 +0000

I think Stav is right, sorry if that sounds blunt but I think it is time to move on. You may think you have a right to check up on her, but you don’t own her, as Stav says you are no longer part of her life.

By: stav

stav — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 21:54:18 +0000

The trust issues are obviously Jeff’s issues, and his wife has left him, moved to another town and he is still checking up on her.

Seems to me that if she makes the effort to switch cities to get away from you, then she pretty much thinks it’s over.

Leave her alone, get on with your own life.

By: chris1203

chris1203 — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 15:49:59 +0000

I agree with Sagemother about the nonsense of “trial separations.” I think such trials allow one or both of the parties to be able to hedge on making a firm commitment, and that’s not good for either of the parties.

By: heretoday

heretoday — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 19:52:07 +0000

When you get right down to it, without trust, there is no real relationship of any kind, and especially not a romantic one. You can’t lose what you never had.

By: justontime

justontime — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 15:51:34 +0000

I am with Orrymain on this one, they had separated because of trust issues. He had no right to spy on her. It sounds as if separating was the right decision.

By: Taggart

Taggart — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 13:36:24 +0000

And I think heretoday brings us back to the point that they were separated because of lack of trust, but we don’t seem to have details of how the situation became that way.

By: heretoday

heretoday — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 22:38:21 +0000

Trust isn’t just a word, it’s a very important, essential THING…if you don’t have it you know it. Don’t trust someone because you want to…do it because you can trust them.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 03:00:13 +0000

sounds like a lie.
Doesn’t matter where the car came from, she had to get it some how and why would a ex be so trusting of her to take the car? unless they are very good friends, it;s unlikely that any ex would offer their ex a car.
Would your ex lend you their car to drive around?

By: Orrymain

Orrymain — Tue, 20 Oct 2009 21:29:53 +0000

Trust is a very difficult thing, and once it’s lost, it’s very hard to get it back. You’re separated, and that means she has certain freedoms, regardless. It sounds like the separation needs to continue.

By: diva

diva — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 19:49:44 +0000

go with your gut…if you love her trust what she say in try