If your ex is showing you a little bit of interest, or seems more interested in going out and spending time with you than before, or if you notice signs that your ex is trying to flirt with you, then it’s okay to be a little hopeful but you need to avoid jumping the gun. The problem is that you are still in love with your ex but you have no way of knowing whether your ex might still be in love with you.
Its often an uncertain time when a relationship breaks down, whether you caused it or your ex or whether it was mutual and the longer the relationship,the tougher it can be. There are all those shared times together, all those memories. There will be other passions around as well, regret, bitterness to name just two. You may still be thinking I’m still in love with my ex, are they still in love with me and its entirely possible your ex is thinking the same.
You arent on your own. It is all too common for an ex partner to insist that the relationship is finished but act exactly the opposite. Sometimes there are clear messages that your ex might still be in love with you, such as making it clear they want to see you,getting close to you again, just seeming more interested than they were. There are things to consider though even if you think you are still in love with the ex and think they still love you. Dont overreact for one. Playing a bit hard can make the chase jsut that little bit more interesting. If you seem too easy then chances are that they will lose interest just as quickly. If there are signs that your ex might still be in love with you, its very possible that it was you playing just a little hard to get that sparked the interest in the first place.
If the original decison to end was taken by both of you, but you have now changed your mind and think that you are still in love with your ex, then think about why you agreed to the break up in the first place? Whats changed? Your ex partner, you, the condition that led to the original breakup? Could that have been a mistake or was it? Is it perhaps better to accept the pain and get on with your life?
But what if you know for a fact that the answer to the question, “I’m still in love with my ex. Do they still love me?” is a clear “yes”, HOLD ON. Unless a miracle has happened overnight, the original reasons for the break up are still there, aren’t they? If these aren’t tackled then you know what YOU WILL BREAK UP AGAIN, it’s almost a certainty.
You need help to put a stop to that. If you are going to meet the same old hurdles, you need to find a way to jump over them. Counselling can be successful, though expensive. There is a cheaper much more efficient way of helping yourself. Its been used by literally thousand of couples to get back together after a break up, whatever the reasons and you can read about it below.
About the Author – Sarah Sutton writes on relationship issues.
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Are minor children in this family, and does the husband pay child support? If so, the husband has realised that paying maintenance and child support is much more expensive than living at home.
I don’t understand “flirting” with a man who, if I’m understanding correctly, left and divorced the wife? This would be the last jerk I would want to flirt,or reestablish contact with.
The best policy is to leave and ex, “ex’d”.
There no greater obstacle to moving forward, then returning to the same people hoping for a new relationship.
Heretoday and SageMother are right this man belongs firmly in the past, don’t allow him to ruin your future too.
I agree that in most cases, an ex should remain and ex. I suppose there may be exceptions, but of the people in my circle of friends, a divorce or separation has usually been a step in the right direction.
Separation and divorce are big steps and they don’t happen suddenly. Usually a combination of events have led to that point. I think in most cases it would be a mistake to go back. It is better to move on and build a new life.
I really can’t think of many cases where it would be a good idea to go back to an ex. I think in most cases it would just lead to more sadness.
I agree with everyone else that there are very few occasions when it would be wise to get back with an ex.
Well, I can think of one example where the person breaking up the marriage may have learned in the next couple years that things were actually better in his marriage than in his new relationship. I don’t know what he thinks about getting back together, but I can imagine that his former wife may be willing to try if he was.