One mistake people make is when a partner has been cheating on them.They feel they must dump the guilty party There is no written law that says you must now end this relationship. “But they cheated on me!” This problem can be worked out and it has many times in the past and will in the future. Friends will tell you to dump them not truly knowing your relationship with your ex, your feelings towards them. They say dump them, as if your partner is an old sofa. You have emotions and history involved with that person, It is not that easy.
Talking and listening are the two most important things you can do in a relationship. The hardest thing of all is to truly listen and here what your ex is saying and not what you think they are saying. What people think the other is thinking has broken up more relationships than any thing else, because thoughts can become demons and demons do nothing but destroy.
Have you ever watched a politician being questioned on the TV? Do they ever answer the question being asked to them, or do they give the answer they want? They avoid difficult questions by giving us the comfortable answer. This is what it is like when two people in a relationship can not talk to one another because they are not listening and avoiding the questions they find uncomfortable. Listening is the key. If you knew what your partner wanted or needed you might still be with them. Playing guessing games is no way to run a relationship.
Ask yourself. Did we talk? Did I listen? Did we listen to each other? If you have answered no to all these questions then it really is time to move on, a relationship can not survive or grow if nobody is listening. Just the simple thing of not listening could be the reason your ex looked for somebody who would.
Michael Quain
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I agree that ending a relationship due to cheating isn’t always necessary. One’s personal investment in the relationship is also important.
Even if you decide to end it, asking the questions mentioned in this article will help you grow from the experience and, hopefully, build tools and communication strategies for the next relationship.
Of course communication is important, we all know that, but knowing it and achieving it are very different things. If your other half can’t or won’t communicate openly it can be extremely difficult to make progress however willing you are to listen.
That is a good point justontime, good communication depends on both people speaking honestly and listening carefully.You can’t force someone to communicate openly.
That’s a good point about politicians and I can think of examples of people I know communicating like that as well, or rather not communicating properly like that.
I think good communication from the beginning could avoid some problems like the ones mentioned above.
That is right Taggart, but good communication needs to be nurtured, it is surprising how quickly problems can set in.
Good communication should never be taken for granted, it needs attention from both of you. Things can son go wrong.
If you don’t put effort into good communication you will wake up one morning and find that things have slipped so much that there is no meaningful communication at all.
Great advice. I think a lot of people (myself included) hang onto a relationship well after it has died. These are good tips to sort out whether or not it is best to “move on.”
I’m not sure about that Chris, marriages are not intended to be disposable, I think we are meant to do everything possible to make it work.
Deltic, you are right that we have to try, but if the other partner will not try too, there is no future for the relationship