Comments on: Dating A Married Man With Kids

By: deltic

deltic — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 21:16:54 +0000

I would be interested to know how this worked out. I hope Kristine understands that he is absolutely right to put his children first. Would you really want to be with a man who couldn’t make time fore his kids.

By: stav

stav — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 18:27:52 +0000

His children will always come first with him, so you will have to get used to it.

Instead of staying at home and festering resentment… why not go with him sometimes? He surely won’t object in you taking an interest in his children, and who knows, you might enjoy it!

By: T

Tue, 20 Oct 2009 01:20:46 +0000

I don’t know why any woman would want to take any man over their children. What can this man have that is more important other than sleeping with you and making a fool out of you. Do not sacrifice the relationship with your children for this man.

By: Hosea

Hosea — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 13:12:51 +0000

Hate to sound like a broken record with everybody else, but yeah … the kids come first. The new relationship comes second. Sorry.

By: deltic

deltic — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 11:30:48 +0000

It seems that this man is trying to be a good dad and he and his ex seem to be putting the child’s needs first, please don’t ruin that.

By: justontime

justontime — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 11:27:45 +0000

That is good advice Kernow, I think perhaps you need to be a parent yourself to really understand how important these things are to a child.

By: kernow

kernow — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 10:58:37 +0000

You can’t fit good parenting in to a timetable. If the child wants his dad there to support him in his sports activities, don’t stand in his way and don’t make him choose between you and his child. Even if he chose you, which I doubt, he would resent you forever.

By: chris1203

chris1203 — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 03:39:30 +0000

I agree that his children must come first and you need to either find some way to accept that or move on to someone else. Would you really respect him if he “dumped” his kids because of you?

By: deltic

deltic — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 18:22:36 +0000

I think the parent would be very wise to wait until they are sure that the relationship will be a lasting one before gradually introducing the new partner. It is unfair to play with children’s feelings. The new partner would be wise to take things very slowly and ensure that the parent still has plenty of time with just him or her and the kids.

By: Taggart

Taggart — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 13:11:33 +0000

I think some people make the mistake of trying too hard initially after being introduced as the new love interest. I’ve seen children become distant with their parents as a new significant other was introduced into the family mix.