What motivates them to do so? People of both genders are known to have extramarital affairs, but the circumstances that drive men into infidelity are different from those that turn women unfaithful.
Is the Woman Responsible for Spousal Extramarital Affairs?
When apprehended, an adulterous man stoutly denies the affair or blames his spouse for driving him into committing such an act. Do women really drive their men into extra marital affairs? Some people agree that men are driven into seeking love outside marital boundaries, when it is non-existent in their marriage. Their spouse can partly be blamed for the loveless marriage.
Love and affection are vital not only for the survival of a relationship but also for making human existence happy. When it is repudiated, these lonely people stray outside marital confines seeking self-validation.
Denial of Love Makes a Man Vulnerable
Denial of spousal love makes people feel worthless and rejected and these feelings commonly turn them defenceless and they turn infidel.
Though marital unhappiness makes people susceptible, it is wrong to believe that every infidel person emerges from an unhappy home. Quite a few happily married men are also adulterous. It is individual thinking that makes them so. Men tend to draw a strict demarcating line between love and sex. Though they love their wife, they engage in illicit relationships to spice up life. Basically, it’s the cultural upbringing that determines whether adultery is perceived to be wrong or accepted.
Upbringing and Individual Attitude
Men are known to stray more than women in patriarchal households where the philandering men in the family are responsible for nurturing generations of infidel men down the line. The socio-economic conditions at the home front have a deep impact on the attitudes of the family members. It is heredity in such a lineage, to be strict with the women and encourage men to turn adventurous. As infidelity is forbidden by society and religion, the prohibition incites these adventurous men. The associated excitement of it makes adultery desirable.
These could be the general reasons that promote adultery. However, it is not right to blame anyone, and infidelity is usually individual responsibility.
Infidel Individual at Places of Work
Individuals, holding liberal views on adultery, are more inclined to have affairs in the office. Attraction between men and women is common while working in close proximity. If the physical relationship is followed by emotional attachment, the alliance turns stronger than the marital bond.
Once the extramarital relationship proves pleasurable and goes unnoticed by family, the man begins craving for more of such experiences. Such an excitement induces changes in the brain chemistry that makes adultery addictive. Addiction to adultery then becomes a problem that has to be handled by professional experts. However, it is not the work place alone where extramarital liaisons are developed; affairs can be developed at home too.
Online Affairs Developed at Home
In families where both the spouses are working, the wife spends all her free time with the children. The subsequent lack of attention induces the man to engage in other activities. It is at such leisure times that online relationships get developed. (Cyber affairs are alluring for the secrecy and privacy they offer.)
Developments of such affairs are usually accidental. Though the people concerned lack physical contact, they are deeply attached to their online partner. Such emotional bonding gives rise to intense crisis in the family. The good news is that, after enduring such distressing circumstances, marriages are turning stronger. The spouse of the infidel person wakes up and pays attention to marital problems by redressing them with remedial measures.
‘Adultery’ in a marriage, is a complex issue. Reasons as to what drives spouses to become unfaithful vary greatly and the factors leading to it differ according to gender. 9 out of 10 people disapprove infidelity, yet more than 3 out of 10 men develop extramarital relationships. Human heart is designed to love, and adultery is an offshoot of this characteristic.
About The Author – James Walsh is a freelance writer and copy editor. If you want to find out more about a solicitor managed divorce see http://www.managed-divorce.co.uk
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This is very good information for the “other women.” I know many are high on their horses to blame the wife for not doing what they think they should at home to prevent him from straying. Well think about it, men usually go for the other women because their standards are below the woman they have at home. They know the woman at home will not indulge herself or disrespect herself by being with another man. The other woman on the other hand, well they strive to be with married or committed men because they have no or very low standards. The connection is exciting initially and they just keep going back. The intent is to never leave his wife or family and as long as the other woman keeps the “door” open to him, he will come. It’s not about what is going on at the home because the marriage will be great and they still want more.
Ladies, they can’t get it if we don’t be the low life and allow it to happen to us. Crying after the fact is worthless because we knew going in as a real woman that he was married. Don’t sit idle by believing the BS that he loves your or will be leaving his wife soon because he’s going no where. He knows that you are really the fool he spotted and canvased and knows he he has you hooked with the “great sex” and lovely time. He is going no where and you’re just simply being his paid prostitute even though you think he loves you. Why are you other women so weak to the words “I love you and want to spend my life with you” cause you have to know he is lying. When the real deal shows then you want to cry and run and tell the wife. Well, most wives already know, they just don’t what the hooker looks like nor who she is. You must know she is going nowhere, which is why you run and tell. Just sad but know this is the reason it happens and it’s not the wife’s fault…it’s the idea that he wants more and yours is AVAILABLE so he goes for what he wants. Men are natural hunters and they will hunt until they get their prey….oops, I mean their whore.
Stop the madness, ladies….be real women and not the other woman. Come on!!!
What a lot of nonsense, the writer of this article doesn’t have a clue. He makes huge assumptions based on sexual stereotypes. Life is not like that all people are different and ALL people have to take responsibility for their actions. Blaming it on someone else is stupid. If there are problems in the relationship the ‘neglected’ person should communicate their feelings to their partner instead of straying.
Here, here Justontime.
SageMother, I think it’s natural for us women to think of covering our tracks if we do something sneaky.
I just find that some men get a little bit over confident that their actions won’t be challenged or that they feel that any excuse will be okay.
I don’t know if this just applies to men, possibly not, but I have noticed that the more they get away with the bolder they get, and they always seem to be able to find reasons to justify their actions.
Ladies,
And the other woman gets just as bold as the man if they are not challenged. It’s amusing for them to think that he will leave his wife and family for them and when he doesn’t, they get crazy.
This Steve McNair is a prime example of the “other woman” gone bad. She just knew he would leave his wife and family and he didn’t but she could not handle that rejection. The “unfair relationship” that she should not have been in anyway but he paid dearly for his cheating and that was with his life. Totally unfortunate and really embarrassing for his wife and children. But this stupid woman could not understand that she never had him and could not deal with not having him. Unreal but a tragic ending for this man and his wife and children.