Comments on: Hurt Because She Can’t Find Her Man

By: justontime

justontime — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 17:37:33 +0000

I just re-read this post. It really does show how cautious you need to be. I think internet relationships can work, but without actually meeting someone you can not be sure that they are what they say they are. It sounds as if this chap could be leading a double life, maybe he is married.

By: stav

stav — Sun, 17 Jan 2010 18:37:44 +0000

Sadly too many people fail to follow even basic plans for their security. Such as meeting for the first time in a public place, telling people where you are going to be, and who with. Not exchanging too much personal information etc.

By: deltic

deltic — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 22:36:00 +0000

I agree with you Stav, I am not convinced they are doomed to fail either. You are right that people must be extra cautious, even photos may not be real. People should be very careful not to put themselves at risk.

By: stav

stav — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 18:25:13 +0000

As in all relationships, online ones need honesty. The ing is that with the internet you can be whoever youwant,and say anything you want with little chance of being found out. Anyone embarking on an online relationship should be very cautious about information they give out, promises that are made etc.

I don’t agree that online relationships are mostly doomed to fail though. I think it’s no more or less likely than any other kind.

By: justontime

justontime — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 23:09:12 +0000

Thanks for that recommendation heretoday, it sounds like a very helpful book.
I wonder how things have worked out for Anita.

By: heretoday

heretoday — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 04:40:37 +0000

I read a book that was recently published called “Meeting Your Match Online” by Tamsen Butler. It’s a very common sense approach to keeping your wits about you while investigating online relationships. It was recommended to me by a friend who had read it and she was right, it’s very good.

By: heretoday

heretoday — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 22:35:14 +0000

There are too many horror stories about computer matchmaking for someone to let a guy move in without meeting him! This guy sounds like a user:do you have your engagement ring yet? Kick him out fast.

By: justontime

justontime — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 19:16:21 +0000

Orrymain, I am not sure I agree with you on that. I am sure there ia a likelyhood of relationship failure, but if people are cautious and use their common sense I don’t see why the internet should not be used to make friends.

By: Orrymain

Orrymain — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 10:26:19 +0000

Relationships born on the internet are 90% doomed to failure. People just aren’t who they seem. You may want to rethink it and go for plan B.

By: Taggart

Taggart — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 13:36:34 +0000

I tend to agree with the advice to move on, and at the same time I guess in the back of your mind there still may be the thought that there’s a legitimate reason you haven’t heard from him. So moving on may be tough, but I think it’s the thing to do.