POSTED BY REBECCA – A READER CONTRIBUTED STORY
I’ve been dating a married man for ten years now.He won’t leave his wife,and his wife still styas with him despite the fact I arranged it she caught us in a hotel room. I had the message sent to her and left the hotel door unlocked,but she took him back. He still tells me it’s a short while until one of his handicapped daughters finishes the special olympics. How can I scare this old fat grey haired wife and his retarded kids out of the picture? Any suggestions? I only want the experienced mistesses opinons please,no wifes
Her Plan: Revenge
Advice For Others: How can I scare the hagard old wife away and her retarted daughter?
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You need serious help, lady. It is because of whores like you my marriage could be ending. YOu come in destroy a family then walk away. His wife took him back because she probaly still loves him. And how dare you call his daughter retarded!YOu never tell a parent to throw their children out of their lives. YOU are a selfish, disgusting, repulsive bitch! Remember, what goes around come around.
I think you played your trump card when you arranged to be caught, but it didn’t seem to work. I’d suggest moving on to another relationship that doesn’t involve an obstacle like that.
It sounds like the wife is in control, here. She understands how difficult her life would be without the income and has made peace with the husband’s behavior.
He knows that leaving his wife will cost him dearly, financially, and he won’t have the same freedoms he enjoys now, in another marriage.
I am really sorry that you have reached this point with the relationship, because it sounds like you have spend some of the best years of your life with this man, and expected to build a much different life with this man.
Short answer: you can’t *make* anyone do anything. Sorry.
I think that looking at your story, you probably don’t want a relationship with his kids, and I’m not sure that wouldn’t keep coming up in the future… So maybe that’s another reason to not pursue the relationship.
I think that you are entirely too obsessed with taking him from his wife. My advice? Move on. He obviously has a strong relationship (despite his cheating) with his wife.
Hey Rebecca, I’d be curious on an update on your situation if you have one. Hopefully there’s a positive resolution. I think most of our suggestions were on the same page.
I have to assume that this problem has resolved itself and, with summer ahead, Rebeca isn’t wasting anymore time pining away for another woman’s lapdog.
It’s time to get the hottest fashions in your closet, and to take advantage of warm weather and warmer nights.
Lots of single guys out there.
Hey, you should probably form a social support group call “The Other Women” and see what they have to say. I’m pretty sure they will say the exact same thing you are saying now…he won’t leave his wife and that they have arranged for him to be caught by the wife and she is still there…lol. That is the story of the other woman so what is the problem here? I’m sure you have many just like you just as sad as you and probably will never learn until you get your husband and another woman pleasures him and set you up to find them…IN BED…lol. Sad state of affairs with the caliper of young women we have in this world today who claim to be followers of God.
Katie makes an interesting point, maybe with a tongue in cheek?
I tend to agree with her – I think that the experiences of the “other women” who hope to end up with the husbands are probably similar.
Taggart,
You are right, they are similar and the funny part about it all is that they won’t see it even after he leaves them standing feeling used…of course they are being used. I think Rebecca wanted to hear from the wives and not the “other women” who like her are similar. She’s hoping that a wife would be outraged at her and curse her out just like she wants the husband that has been using her to continue using her. She is definitely comfortable where she is in that “unfair relationship” because she really knows that she is being used. Hence, setting the wife up to find them in hope the wife leaves him so that she can stake the claim to him. That is the story of every “other woman” out there. That is why we are hearing so much about them these days. The husbands know they have a low caliber female because their only love is home. He knows ladies that is why she wants to hear from the “other women.” They are all the same and can relate. Very sad position to be in for you and all the “other women” who like you lay in bed each time with him thinking of ways to “show” the wife hoping she leaves. Then asking, why does she stay? So sad for you all, he’s never going to come to you cause he knows you will settle for anything cause you are allowing him to “use” you in the place of his love when she’s not there. I hope you get better!
Rebecca,
I just posted this in another place but I thought it fitting for you here too so enjoy…
This is very good information for the “other women.” I know many are high on their horses to blame the wife for not doing what they think they should at home to prevent him from straying. Well think about it, men usually go for the other women because their standards are below the woman they have at home. They know the woman at home will not indulge herself or disrespect herself by being with another man. The other woman on the other hand, well they strive to be with married or committed men because they have no or very low standards. The connection is exciting initially and they just keep going back. The intent is to never leave his wife or family and as long as the other woman keeps the “door” open to him, he will come. It’s not about what is going on at the home because the marriage will be great and they still want more.
Ladies, they can’t get it if we don’t be the low life and allow it to happen to us. Crying after the fact is worthless because we knew going in as a real woman that he was married. Don’t sit idle by believing the BS that he loves your or will be leaving his wife soon because he’s going no where. He knows that you are really the fool he spotted and canvased and knows he he has you hooked with the “great sex” and lovely time. He is going no where and you’re just simply being his paid prostitute even though you think he loves you. Why are you other women so weak to the words “I love you and want to spend my life with you” cause you have to know he is lying. When the real deal shows then you want to cry and run and tell the wife. Well, most wives already know, they just don’t what the hooker looks like nor who she is. You must know she is going nowhere, which is why you run and tell. Just sad but know this is the reason it happens and it’s not the wife’s fault…it’s the idea that he wants more and yours is AVAILABLE so he goes for what he wants. Men are natural hunters and they will hunt until they get their prey….oops, I mean their whore.
Stop the madness, ladies….be real women and not the other woman. Come on!!!
My dear, i think you should come to Africa where we have a thing called polygamy. Everybody who is in that state of affairs wants to be there.Here in kenya you would be recognized as a wife after only a year or two and then the guy can just go on cheating; this time on you or on both the wives.So theres quite a network of cheaters and y dont you also cheat on the bsd. aaaaaaaat least you will feel better.
Rispah,
I think this is the place for the other women,lol. At least they will be in company and doing great at what they do..allowing themselves to be used for a good reason…lol.
Polygamy is probably the best way to keep a group of women powerless and poor.
Isn’t there a tribe in Africa where each woman can have several husbands?
That makes a lot more sense to me on many levels!
Sagemother,
I doubt that because can’t deal with being the other men. Their egos will be shattered so they do well keeping the women down and again, it’s because those who allow it don’t have the self-esteem or self-respect to know better and not let it happen. They are not being kept down but making the choice to be down. Men only take what they can get and if they can get a woman who will allow herself to be used until he is told no more then he will continue.
Every woman who is cheating with a married man already know that he is not going to leave his family for her. They know she is there basically to do what the wife will not respectfully allow him to do with or to her, that is their job as the other woman. That is not powerless and poor from this perspective. In Africa, yes because they truly have no other place to and is expected by their society to be that way. Not here in America, it’s a choice to be powerless and poor and used.
You want a man that thinks he’s entitled to have sex with two women every day and doesn’t care what either woman wants? You need some self esteem work.
Sage Mother I loved your comment! Rebecca, you have been used by this man. He has always offered you something cheap and second best and you made the mistake of accepting that. You need to have a very serious rethink.
It sounds as if you went into this with your eyes open. He wasn’t free to have a relationship and he is still not free. He has made it abundantly clear that he is not going to leave his wife for you. He has used you and he will continue to use you. As Kernow said you need to have a serious rethink.
The truth is that when it came to it he chose his wife and his family. His wife may be old, fat and grey haired but he wants her and his children and not you. He has made it very clear that he is not yours to take, he has just used you. You need to step back and take a long hard look at your life. You should take note of that old saying, you reap what you sew.
I have been with a married man for the past five years. I did not chase or beg him to be with me. I have never wanted his wife to discover the relationship. I have moved, ended the relationship, and changed my number. He somehow always finds me.
His wife does know about the relationship, but she continues to stay with him. It lets me know that she agrees with it. I have met his children and we all spend time together at least twice a month. I spend at least 5 out of 7 days a week with him. His wife calls me nasty names and plays childish games, but yet she continues to stay with him. She does not bother her husband about his actions, just me.
She thinks that I am a whore, trashy, and a home wrecker. He pays half of my mortgage, in-house bill, and has purchased me a car as well as left a life insurance policy in my name. I do not ask for these things; he says he does it because he genuinely cares for me and he feels good doing it. His wife says he does it because I am a prostitute (LOL). Well if I were, I must be their pimp.
I tell him all the time to go home and sort out his marriage. He says his wife does not want a divorce and will continue to stay with him even though she knows that he is cheating. She also said that if he divorced her she would take his children away. I guess they have an open marriage or something. I do not think he wants a divorce either. But what still amazes me is the fact that she constantly harasses me and not him.
At this point, the relationship is what it is. I have not and will not ask him to leave his wife. I benefit more from the relationship as it stands. Honestly, I have often thought of calling her and telling her more. There is no need to waste my time and hurt her any more than they are hurting each other. By the way, I have not tried to contact her or set up a surprise meeting. I have no need to because he has given me every tool (cell, work, home numbers, emails, and home & work address, work schedule, etc.) I need to communicate with her.
Many married women will be outraged at this post. There are many women in relationships just like this one. In many cases it is not all the other woman’s fault. Yes, I could walk from him, but I do not have a reason now that his wife agrees to the relationship. I look at it this way- I am single and this is no different from me dating other single men. Obviously, the marriage does not mean anything to either of them. A marriage is more than a piece of paper or two people that share the same last name.
If he decides that he wants to go home he can, but I will miss the silly things his wife does. It has kept me very entertained and I now know what true power is over someone’s life.
Jessica,
You are really a “great” person and it seems that you are really proud of yourself. I commend you for being the great woman that you are; you are a role model for the other women, a great mother I’m sure if you have kids; a great lover as you are and who could not be happy to have you as their friend, I’d love to have you.
Would you be the other woman for my husband and be sexually available to him when he wants it; let him get you an insurance policy and when you croak, I will get the money; be available to baby sit for us when we go out of town? I’d love to have you as the third leg for the marriage that I don’t care about either.
Hell, I’ll pay the other half of your mortgage if you can be the standby for my husband. Would you consider that? You are single and it will be just like you are dating another single man. I will give you my cell phone, email, home number, work address, work schedule and I’ll even have regular dinner with you to update you how happy he will be screwing you. I’ll even pay you, since you are already a paid prostitute, why not be to more than one married man.
Hell, I’ll even pay for an add for you and I promise not to be mad with you.
What about it?
Hey,
Any takers from the other women for my husband? I don’t mind and won’t care if you are the other woman, he pays your bills, screw you, and still stay in the house. Your presence in his life will make mine wonderful. I know this site is geared to the other women and I’m open to you being the other woman in my marriage. He can probably use someone like you all. I see names in the postings so who is going to jump to the front of things now. Wives, we should all be okay with other women being screwed by our husbands but the stipulation for the other women is to keep your p***Y clean so they don’t bring STDs home to us; if you get pregnant, keep your brat at your house because they sure the hell won’t be coming to mine (lol); don’t get kicked out your places cause you can’t move to mine, and keep a job so that you can help him pay our bills like he helps pays yours when he can.
Now I don’t have a problem with this, any of you do?
By the way, I do have a cheating husband and he knows that I know, the bitches know that I know and I’m fine. However, he won’t leave me the hell alone and I wish he would and I’d be happy for him and the other bitches, lol. Not like I can’t and won’t get someone else, I just don’t have the time right now to deal with another whining ass man. He can stick around for now and keep paying the bills but the moment he stopes, he will be with the other women for sure. I wonder if screwing them gets their bills paid? Other women, do you have to screw him to get money and what would happen if you told him that you are no longer going to allow him to lay you on your backs? If you stop giving it to him then that means you were really the prostitute that you were in denial for and then you may finally realize that all the lines he told you about loving you and always thinking of you were really lies. They were really emotional tag lines to get you to continue to do what you have been doing and that is spreading your legs and getting on your knees like he said. I love you for what you do, keep it up with mine and he stays happy enough for us here to keep things going. I for one as a wife am definitely grateful for your services. Hell I will even pay you if I knew who you were. Send me your names and I will send you a monthly payment for the services rendered….lol. I love this site and thank my girlfriend for pointing it out to me.
I was the other woman for a year until the point when it came to him leaving his wife and he couldnt do it. I left him and told his wife exactly what he was doing. I dont think the other woman can take all the blame as these men are liars and they manipulate woman into believing what they are saying. Its up to the mistress to take charge of the situation and dump there sorry asses.
Cathy,
You are right, these men are liars and they do manipulate women into believing what they say but what does that make the woman who first gets involved with him knowing he is married? What does that make the woman who believes the lies she already knows he is going to tell and how does that equate to manipulation if you get involved with him in the first place? Yes it is up to the mistress to take charge of herself because she took charge to get involved with him in the first place knowing he was married and hopefully knowing that he was going to lie to her anyway as he did before sleeping with you.
They are not sorry because they are getting what they want and that is what you are giving him when he wants it. I like the other woman being involved with my husband now and she doesn’t know that I do so telling me won’t make any difference because I can tell her that I already know more about her than she would ever want me to know.
Did you not know that he would not leave his wife before you even got involved with him? Mistress, that’s a very cute word for such a disgusting act so don’t be mad at him and tell his wife. Why didn’t you tell her before you became involved with him getting to the point that you think he was going to leave his wife. You didn’t tell her then, did you?
I love this site and especially now? I am learning so much about other women in marriages. Thank you to all the other women on the site.
T
At the risk of sounding like a broken record Rebecca. I second what everyone else says,that saved me some typing.
I too second what everyone is saying and has said. Poor thing and that’s all the women who believe he will leave his wife for them. Keep the music playing and wives if you want to be like me, let him be cause he is not going to stop until he’s ready no matter what you do. As stupid as it sounds, join him and he will think you are as crazy as the other woman. Enjoy your day and don’t let this tie you up any longer. Be free in your thoughts and let her deal with the anguish. Wives, have fun! You will not regret it, I promise you. Hell, go on the vacation like I did and enjoy yourself. Bring him back home so he can continue using her for his needs. It works, trust me.
Rebecca my dear, the wife is not going anywhere anyway because he don’t want her to go. He just want you to be on standby when the wife will not serve his needs at that moment. That is your job so stop spending too much of your time trying to get his wife and daughter out of the way cause they are not going anywhere. All you can do is just keep being there for him to lay like he want and accept the dollars for your service. Sorry but that is the way it is. Enjoy your cute life being the wonderful mistress you are. She knows already so don’t waste your time trying to give her clues. We know, some of us just make the decision to allow him to have his fantasies and when that gets old they just come on back home like they were and take the ass whipping they will get until things get back to normal, if ever.
Keep it girly!
This is all craziness, for the “other women” and the wives as well. These men are given to much validation by both parties. The only way the “other woman” can exist is if the wife stays. If the wife leaves her cheating husband, he will be the single old divorced guy looking for a fix and that will be apparent to all women. If you’re in a marriage and a man is not cutting it for you or can’t make a commitment to you, you need to leave and gain respect and independence for yourself (and your kids if applicable). The “other women” need to leave these men to tend to their situations. If for some stupid reason you get involved don’t try to go to the wife to tell, simply leave and work on you and realize why you are okay with being someone’s second choice. If somehow you manage to validate that, act accordingly. Acting accordingly doesn’t involve trying to get the guy to be with you or trying to ruin his situation. You’re only further depreciating your worth by looking like a second rate psycho. Ladies wake up! Let’s all take control of these manipulating liars and let them know they can’t have their cake and eat it to with either of us.
Here, here Carol. Manipulating liars the men are and the “other women” are just as bad because they are trying to manipulate the situation by blackmailing him that they will tell the wife. What a sad act on their part to try to get him. They are now at a point that the second choice is not enough and they think they can get him all to themselves by telling the wife. The other women are no better than the cheating husband but he got it right, he gets what he wants by “feeding” them the lies they truly believe and does get to eat his cake and have it too. They like it and so does he.
You’ll find no sympathy here,either. Women who knowingly have an affair with a married man are the lowest of the low. I wouldn’t want your karma, lady. Why would you want a man who is a cheater, and who will wind up cheating on you eventually, anyway?
I would have sympathy with someone who had made a huge mistake but then recognised it and acted accordingly. However from the way this question is worded this person does not understand that what she did was wrong. The man was wrong too of course, but going all out for revenge is just going to hurt her more and show her up as a bitter and twisted woman. The best thing for her would be to wise up and walk away from the situation.
or you could always mask your pain,denial rage and hurt and start inviting the other womanto “do” your husband and support the affair.
to be honest i think you are flogging a dead horse.. His wife probably knows him much better than you do, and you are probably not his first (or last) ‘bit on the side’.
I have no sympathy with home wreckers anyway.. but it seems to me you could do much better for yourself than this cheat…
Yes Tara, I think the affair should be supported because the other women support him being married and still mess around. Hi I am Nic, and yes I cheated on my wife and not proud of it now that I know how much it hurt her. I cheated with the women who knew I was married like I did and made it easy for me to be with them. I knew I could do with them what I did not want to do to or with my wife because I respect her. When women like you allow us to do this, we are happy although we know it is WRONG.
I’m not happy that I hurt her or the other woman but as men, we are hunters in nature. Yes we cheat but women like you and some of the others are just as happy being with us as we are being with you. It is bad but we can’t do what is not allowed of us. Call me a dog, a liar or whatever but it is true…the other women let us do to them what we choose not to do to our wives. Mine is working on forgiving me for being with someone without her knowledge and I am thankful for that.
I am still involved with the other woman and my wife knows and that happens more than you know. So don’t be so quick to judge because it is what we want and agree to have in our marriage. I don’t have to sneak anymore and being with the other woman is not that exciting anymore either. It was truly the thrill as it is for most men. I’m not shame to say but this is why we cheat and the same reason for why the women cheat. They want us to leave our wives and give in when we say we do, which is why we say the stuff like we love you…we don’t. We just love what you allow us to do with you.
Confession of a cheating husband…
“Yawn”
Nic, I think that’s valuable insight into one situation. I think there are many different scenarios. I’ve seen some people who seem to value affairs with attached people because it gives them a kind of built-in distance from the person, compared to a relationship with someone unattached. And then there are those who are hoping for the affair to result in the cheating couple becoming an open, monogamous couple.
I think Stav gave a very sensible comment, on this. You would do well to follow her advice.
Taggart,
This is Nicholi again and I thank you for understanding or better yet, hearing what I am saying. I have to say that what I have done “cheating” is not and was not right and I’m learning from that. This was my first time but still not right. However, I had an equal part in the process but the woman did not make it hard for me to be involved with her or continue. We both knew I was married because I often spoke of my wife and I continued to wear my ring.
I did willingly participate and cannot blame all on Stephanie. She did and has asked me on several occasions to leave my wife because she is happy to get the “things” that I give her. She also is happy to hear the “I love and miss yous” even though the words do not mean anything to me but a lot to her. She often speaks crazy of my wife but I use those moments to get the sex from her when I want it. Yes, I do tell her that I love her but I know it is what she wants to hear. She don’t care that I sleep with her as long as I buy her and I find this to be true of women who want the connections with married men.
Yes it is wrong to have cheated but what do you do when the women want to cheat with you. Men can only resist for so long and finally some give in and get what those women want to give up and “get.” Nope, it is not right but the women need to treat themselves better than they do and stop making it easy for us to get the sex because that really is all it is about for the men….the sex.
I think for someone trying to stop cheating, analyzing and building their self-esteem may be helpful. I think the situation as described above is different than someone who cheats, but doesn’t think it’s wrong.
So maybe more importance should be put on self esteem gained from doing what a person believes to be right, rather than instant gratification attached to words said without personal meaning.
T what you do is say no and mean it! You chose to cheat, no one made you do it. You were the married one, you cheated! Take rsponsibility and face up to what you did. What were you thinking of giving a woman like that a second look? You must have known how much hurt it would cause.
Justontime,
T’s the crazy woman claiming to support her husbands infidelity but takes her anger out on the women,and lashes out at the them instead of him like a bimbo,she’s now trying to write a post preptending to be her husband who she is calling Nicholi.ROTFLMAO This board is hysterical and I leave here with tears in my eyes from laughter sometimes. To funny!
She should have named her phamtom husband “ecoli” since he probably is very diseae ridden.LAMO
T and Ecoli. I love it.
Hi justontime, Nicholi is my husband and you are right…he should take responsibility and he will or he can go to whomever he wants. I can’t stop him from cheating because he’s the man and will have to live up to the pain he caused. I have learned that I cannot hold on to the pain he caused and if he wants to be out there then he will do just that. We all have to realize that at some point. He knows what he has done and he will live with it but without me.
Justontime, I don’t most cheaters, including the women who cheat understand the pain they can cause because they do not think they will ever get caught. When they do get caught then they expect the other spouse to forgive them right away and move on like it did not happen. I guess it’s human nature to be idiots sometimes but what can we do about that? Move on I guess but excellent points you make and they are heard.
It takes two…the wife loves the lifestyle so she lets the husband cheat. Why should he leave her? He can do whatever he wants..see you on the side, whatever he chooses. If he left her to be with you, then he’d be stuck with just you. He’s keeping his options open. DO NOT EVER EXPECT A MARRIED MAN TO LEAVE HIS WIFE FOR YOU!!
I can’t believe that every schoolgirl doesn’t know this maxim by heart:
“If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat with someone else”. Otherwise known as: karma.
I think Chandra makes a very valid point that some people know what’s going on but for whatever reason continue to be part of it. There are many different kinds of people out there.
Good point Molly, there is something in all of us that makes us think we can change people, we have to learn the hard way that we can’t.
Hi Tara sweety, just what is your story if you don’t mind sharing with us here? I love your humor…it’s contagious.
Hi T Sweety,just what is your story if you don’t mind sharing with us here? I love your humor…it’s contagious.
Okay here’s my story. It’s simple really and please don’t judge. I have a husband who cheats with a whore named Stephanie. I’m really enjoying it though because he just tells her what she wants to hear.She will never be the first woman,only the other woman like the rest of these whores on this site. You see I’m the one who’s laughing she will never have what I have. I sometimes like to come on here posing as my husband,leaving silly ramblings and justifying my bizarre,irrational thinking.My husband has 9 inches and a long tongue….any one interested? End of story.
The point of view represented by Tara’s post above is a good example of someone who’s apparently not devastated by being in an “open” relationship. I think it’s very interesting to hear that point of view, but hard to know what to believe partly because the poster’s admitted to posing as someone else.
I don’t think we need to get too involved in the rights and wrongs of an individual situation, that will just generate more heat than light. However Taggart makes a good point, there are open relationships that seem to work. To me there is a big difference between starting out with a clear agreement to have an open relationship, and finding that that your spouse is cheating and feeling forced to accept it because for some reason divorce is not an option.
LOL Taggart I was being sarcastic and repeating our friend T’s infamous story. I would NEVER be in that situation. LOL
as far as posting as someone else I was refering what I believe several posts above is suppose to be T’s husband but I think it’s her. I have only posted as Tara Tulips here,sorry for the humor turned confusion…I hope thats not contagious LOL
I guess there maybe some open relationships that work but were does one create boundaries with these? It seems it’s just a free for all. I couldn’t share a mate with anyone.
Tara Tulips I agree, I couldn’t deal with an open relationship. There are people who say it works, but I think that one person often ends up hurt.
All, as justontime has stated let’s not judge. My husband and I are in agreement with open relationships and it fits our lifestyle. I don’t have to pose as anyone and I don’t mind sharing because it works for us. Justonetime, open relationships are not for everyone and no one should participate and feel forced to be there. I enjoy it and my husband enjoys it and it is a free for all but you just have to be picky for those you are involved with it. We just chose one couple and that has been our choice for the years that we have been doing it. Stephanie was an addition that I didn’t know about and that is why that part won’t work. When you know and discuss then we do not classify as cheating because we agreed. Stephanie is whore Tara because she sneaks and the other involved party didn’t know about her. Now, aren’t you on here because you cheated or got cheated on?
I don’t know those who have not been involved in either situation being here so I would guess that all is not roses in the castle. You do make a great point that open relationships are not for everyone but let’s not be so hasty to judge those who choose. Thanks for sharing your story with the board.
And Tara sweety, I’m sorry if I remind you of someone but I’m not trying to be difficult just trying to be honest here and have fun. Let’s keep it light and see what we have to offer each other. You guys help me a lot that’s for sure and I enjoy each and every post, even yours because they have such great humor in them.
Justontime, there are some who do get hurt in the open relationships. Those who are in it and for some reason the feelings for the other person involved changes. When they do not get what they want then they do become angry and hostile. I’ve seen it happen and it was not very cute at all but they all got over it and decided that the open relationships were not for them and that’s okay to do.
Okay thats it, I’m ending this now. I apologize in advance to the rest of you posters,this will be the last time I jump off topic,but this is over due for her. I’m going to read her up and down like a Jackie Collins novel and be done with it!
I’ll say this once T, and I’m going to end this now with you, and please stop calling me sweetie you condescending ,insincere feline.
You don’t remind me of anyone, except an annoying nat that won’t stop buzzing.You’re the one who’s completely obsessed with me following me all over the boards and adding,my name to your posts with your digs/comments, like an Internet stalker and,asking me questions. Obsess Much?
It’s quit obvious my strong, no-non sense personality with healthy boundaries rubbed you the wrong way from the start,probably because you’re a spineless subservient wimp in real life who masks her true feeling and passive aggressively takes them out on strangers in cyber space like a coward hiding behind her key board. I’m sure you’re one of those women who walks around with a fake smile on your face in front of your husband after he’s been with another woman,it’s so fake it actually hurts the sides of your face after it’s plastered on your face to long, I hate to tell you this but you’re more transparent than you know,just can’t get in touch with your real feelings,can you T? So you have to dump on people who haven’t done anything to you.If you were truly okay with the situation you wouldn’t be lashing out here and writing these posts riddled with sarcasm and anger and trying to bait people. Admit it, Your husband is okay with it,you’re not!
I tried to tell you kindly on the homewrecker page awhile ago “farewell and good” luck in your ventures,but you chose to ignore the kind gesture and only want to fight and respond to the negative. Obviously “I’M” the one who reminds you of someone, and that stirs something up in you,well I’m not them so please with all due respect leave me the fuk alone now and stop addressing me on these boards! Obviously you just want to fight and vent.
For the last time I have NEVER seen a married man, or been a “other woman” nor would I ever condone the actions of one. I simply read the funny drama on the “homewrecker” post months ago and responded with several arguments that BOTH parties are to blame,but NEVER defending homewreckers actions, that hit a nerve with you, you haven’t been able to let it go and now you’re assuming that I’m a “other woman”,nothing could be further from the truth,for some reason you really got that in your head and want to believe that which is hysterical. I’ve had four boyfriends my entire life which is a little past 30.
This site just isn’t about cheating ,it has great dating and relationship articles and the link was sent to me through a friend,that’s how I found it,as I scanned the articles I came across the Homewrecker blog and read all the funny drama on there,and that’s were you first saw me and started in. That doesn’t mean one is a homewrecker because they replied to a few threads and arguments about cheating dumb ass! How ignorant and short sighted you are.
Now here’s my most important statement so let this SINK into your head,and if you take anything away from this post ,take only this!
To me…You’re in a disturbing situation but if it works for you fine.AGAIN, several months back I wished you luck and fun with all this. If you want to share your husband go ahead but STOP being pissed off and lashing out at female strangers on the boards about it, To me you’re not okay with this at all ,and to me and others on this board you have allot of frustration and anger about it taking it out on the female party in general and wanting to throw them into the “whore category” but all the while patting you’re husband on the back, If anything thing displays a “bimbo mentality” it’s this kind of thinking! Now from this point on I’m COMPLETELY ignoring you, please find someone else to use as your target for frustration and anger your lucky you got this from me,so blather on with your 500 paragraph ramblings and go ahead with pretending you didn’t read anything I said here. I’m done with you now! You’re dismissed!
Okay y’all back to the topic
Okay maybe that post was a bit harsh.I took a truth syrum and couldn’t control myself. I just took some hormone pills so I should be better.I’ll keep up the funny.
this ‘open relationship’ thing.. is it because you are not satisfied withthe partner you have? I can’t get my head round it to be honest… if you love someone an commit the rest of your life to him/her then how can you share them with someone else?
no stav, it’s because we talked about it. He wanted to try something new and after long days of thinking I agreed. It works for us and we still love each other. I share him with someone that I know and it works well.
if someone chooses to be open in their relationship isn’t it their choice? None of us have the right to judge how we run our relationship. Many if not all on this page are posting as someone else I believe. So Tara Tulips as it seems, all is not roses in your relationship or you would not be here like the rest of us.
SG, You missed allot of my point and if you follow some of T’s posts you’ll see she is baiting me in allot of her entires to start drama here first. I have no problem with anyone being in a open relationship and AGAIN I first wished T well,good luck and fun with all of that but it turned into something else with her and I constatly following me from post to post trying start a arguement. I simply FINALLY spoke up and defended myself for once asking her to stop being an internet bully and leave me alone. I also NEVER said my relationship was perfect and I will repeat what I wrote on top. I found the site through a link that was given to me through a friend,as we can all see there’s tons of different relationship articles on here which peeked my interest and have found the dialog useful and entertaining since. I’m here to enjoy and share. AGAIN If someone wants a open relationship great but please stop coming here and bashing me who has nothing to do with it was my point to her. I hope that is clearer here ,as I really don’t want to contimue this back and forth. Peace peeps!
SG, I think you did a great job getting the point across. See, the discussion is not about any one in particular but about our lives in general. Yes, we all post as someone else or we won’t be so reluctant to post our real names and email addresses in our posts. I’m okay sharing my information and feel fine with the criticism however it comes. I’m okay with any attacks that may come from anyone because we are posting on these sites for a reason. For this one, we’ve either cheated or been cheated on. It would be hard to believe that anyone is on this site and neither of these instances have happened so hats off to you all and keep the information coming.
Yeah,hats off everyone and thanks for your thoughts,now lets have a group sex…I mean a group hug!
Who wants my email address?
Guys, we are here as support from both sides. Tara I get your point but I also get T’s point and we all should respect each other’s point regardless if we like it or not. Again, the point of this discussion is related to Rebecca who seems to think that it was okay to date a married man. She is now crying because the same thing that she did is now being done to her. I say that’s Karma at it’s best. Eve, you hit it right on the head…she is a selfish, disgusting, and repulsive bitch!
I’m sorry Tara, I don’t mind taking your email and we can correspond privately when we feel the need to vent.
Tara, are you on hi5? Why don’t you look me up there and we can stay away from the fun-filled conversations and unwind? I’m there as Sean German if you want to talk more in private. Hope to see you
Interesting nobody has posted anything on this site since SG or no new threads?
Thats way to weird
hell for her
Were did eveyone go? LOL
You are possibly one of the most ugly people on the inside possible. What ever you look like on the outside … something is seriously a miss with you. You should never ever be left alone with children.. they are all little angels .. disabled or not.. I hope you NEVER become a mother.. and if so,,, please inform social services immediately.. you are scarey. Poor children.. what a witch.. one day you will look like the witch you are anyway.. then what?? probabily bitter and child-less.. hopefully….