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My boyfriend is very sneaky with his computer, when I\’m over there he will log in under his son\’s name. He has been caught up in a lie about a dating site. In one conversation that I had discovered he wanted to meet up with a woman and go out for a drink. What is up with this? Should I leave him?
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This might sound harsh so apologies in advance…..
I’m wondering why you are still with him.
Yes, you should leave hem. Each time he does this, he spits in your face.
Only you know if you should leave him (I would!) but if you choose to stay you can be sure that whatever he is doing now will continue and get worse. Is this the sort of man you want? If you can’t trust him what is left?
Duh,
should u leave him? He’s already sneaking around behind your back. R u waiting to get pregnant or catch a disease before u dump him? Smarten up and lose the loser. He doesn’t love u. He’s using u.
Some men never seem to be able to leave this sort of thing alone. It makes him unreliable, unsuitable as a long term partner, dishonest even, but I think it is important that you shouldn’t take it as a personal rejection. He is doing it because that is what he does, it is unlikely to be because of anything you have done or faled to do. This sort of man will make you a lot of promises but he will carry on doing the same old thing.
Unless this is a very casual relationship, I think you should leave him. I don’t get the impression that it is casual for you though.
I’d say if his activities were harmless, he wouldn’t need to lie about them.
I absolutely think that you should leave him but, of course, this must be your decision. But I think that, at the very least, he is disrespecting you.
Taggart says that if his activities were harmless he wouldn’t need to lie about it. That sounds totally logical to a femail, but some men will lie about the silliest things. He may not see any of the online stuff as real. I think this is all about him, not a rejection of you, but he really dosn’t sound like someone worth bothering with.
Anytime someone is straying it’s pretty obvious that they aren’t as invested in the relationship as you are so yeah, it’s time to move on and find someone who devotes themselves just to you.
Why on earth would you question this?
He’s obvously not interested in you as a partner anymore.
Leave. it’s time to find someone who wants a lasting relationship.
It looks as if we are all giving the same advice, this man is not someone to plan your future with
What do you want with a lying sneak? If he does this online, what does he do when your back is turned? Lose him.
Sounds like his son has access to some pretty inappropriate stuff on the computer if this loser uses his son’s name to find women, and probably worse! Doesn’t sound like father material to me…dump him.
Deltic makes a point that I think is valid – Everyone should be on the same page in terms of what is considered “real” regarding online activities. What some view as harmless can have serious affects to others.
That is right Taggart. It involves good communication early on in the relationship to address things like this and set the ground rules.
Ditch the slime and find a man that will respect you more.
Does he really think you are so dumb that you won’t question why he usues his son’s login when you are around? (Molly he signs in as his boy so his girlfriend can’t view HIS history.)
You have such a way with words Stav! I have to agree with you, slime seems to sum up his behaviour.
Whatever he is doing he finds it necessary to hide it and to lie about it. Why waste time on a man like that
Some men just cnt help it they r angry inside or hv unsolved issues n cheating is there way of acting out. He was missing nothing at home. He did take me for stupid tho n for granted.
So now he’s srry because I know everything. He’s trying to keep me. But when I look at him I feel sick. I still have a hard time walking away. I hvnt gotten to the I hate you point. Friends isn’t working because I still have love for him. I need some advice on how to let go. Without being drawn back in
So I kept digging n I found that he hasn’t just been talking he’s been hving sex also. I got a bad bacteria infection he blamed it on me. He’s been hell. I find myself now looking back saying what is wrong with me why did I deal. He always says he srry n that he will change. I believed him. He is always home. The only time we r apart is when we r at work n we hv 3 kids. So whoevers home has them. He’s been leavin work to do this crap. So I called one # on his phone for the last 6months this girl thought she had a new man was happy till she talked to me. He says the same things to both of us that makes me sick. He gave both of us infections yeast uti bladder n now pid. I’m waiting on the rest of my test results. This girl was a hoe alls she cared was that she mmm him she told every detail. We ended up fighting because she was outtaline when I found out who she was.she works at the gas station we go to all the time. She had to of known about me we was in there with our kids together. So he claims it was a game when a cute girl would b seen he would say I can get that n then he would. The online thin is a sick addiction. Most of the girls on there r actually men.
My man has been doing the online thing for 3 yrs. Then I found out he’s doing txting on his phone. He lied about everything so I went threw the comp n phone. Won’t do that again I thought I wanted to know. He has been cheating now for 3 yrs n making me feel crazy like I was pyscho n making things up. I am now struggling with the anxiety pain n anger. I made him tell me why he said I dnt know huh I made a username n caught him. He begged the girl to. Come n mmm him. He dnt even know her wtf right