Comments on: Ex-Wife Wants To Reconcile

By: Orrymain

Orrymain — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 11:59:07 +0000

I’m curious how things have worked out as well. Rebound relationships rarely work, though, and I’m for people working to resolve their differences. He’s still married, or was at that point. I’d probably wait to get involved until after the divorce is finalized.

By: Taggart

Taggart — Sun, 25 Oct 2009 14:43:01 +0000

I see it’s been a while since you posted this… Hopefully the relationship has worked out in a good way for you, one way or another. I know it can be difficult for some people to move on from a bad relationship.

By: Taggart

Taggart — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 11:52:23 +0000

I think in some cases the person involved at the beginning of a separation may not be intentionally misleading anyone about how easy it will be to separate. Sometimes people get to know their spouse much better when lawyers become involved.

By: deltic

deltic — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 11:49:16 +0000

That is true, but the separated partner can be very convincing about things being all over, so I can see why some people do get involved.

By: justontime

justontime — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 11:24:40 +0000

I think I would agree with you on that Kernow, I think getting involved with someone who is not yet divorced leaves you open to a lot of heartache.

By: kernow

kernow — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 10:54:14 +0000

I am an old fashioned sort of person and for many reasons I would not consider a person free to date and get involved until after a divorce. Then it would be up to me if I wanted to bother with someone with a lot of baggage.

By: chris1203

chris1203 — Sat, 15 Aug 2009 03:35:20 +0000

I agree, kernow. Even couples that are actually divorced can have unresolved baggage between them that can get in the way of them forming good relationships with other people.

By: kernow

kernow — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 06:44:01 +0000

I think Sage Mother summed up your situation very well, it seems very hard on you. Perhaps the lesson for all of us is to recocognise that people who are separated but not divorced have a lot of unresolved issues and they are not yet free to commit to a new relationship.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 23:47:05 +0000

This happened to me to. i got involved with a separated man. before we started anything i told him just let me know if you are going to try to work things out with your ex. i wish i hadn’t uttered those word because that is of course what he did.. he has been back with his wife for three months and i know hes not happy i have to see him every day.. i work with the jerk. point is i wish it was that easy to forget.. he still calls me all the time asking to secretly meet up-stars.. i was stupid for meeting him..although i would let anything too serious happen every kiss and touch brings that feeling of love back. i some times wish i had never met him.. point is at least make it look like you have moved on and have no more feelings for him so at least this way you don’t feel like a huge idiot…. its almost four months and i haven’t moved on yet.. just hang is there.. it will be irrelevant when you look back in year.. or at least that’s what i tell myself!

By: SageMother

SageMother — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 19:58:02 +0000

The insult must be incredibly difficult to swallow. Somehow, it seems that he’s not willing to make a decision based on your relationship.

In addition to your feelings about being pushed aside, the scene is set for him to continue to see his “soon to be ex”, and you, without making any commitment to you.

It sounds like it’s time to set him aside, telling him that, when he can present the divorce decree to you, he will be living without you in his life.