Comments on: Ex-Wife Wants To Reconcile http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/05/ex-wife-wants-to-reconcile.html Real Cheating and Infidelity - Stories and Advice Tue, 07 Feb 2012 00:32:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: jada http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/05/ex-wife-wants-to-reconcile.html/comment-page-1#comment-363287 jada Sat, 17 Dec 2011 20:42:24 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=896#comment-363287 A few years too late .. but hopefully you are happy! A few years too late .. but hopefully you are happy!

]]> By: jada http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/05/ex-wife-wants-to-reconcile.html/comment-page-1#comment-363286 jada Sat, 10 Dec 2011 19:20:17 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=896#comment-363286 Men are confused creatures. They want what they want when they want it. There wives are there stability and everyone else is the added fun. Why pay for the milk if he can have the cow? He is totally unfair to mislead you and you are being unfair to yourself. You deserve better and to sit around waiting for him to make a decision ... especially knowing he may sleep with her, isn't healthy. Men are confused creatures. They want what they want when they want it. There wives are there stability and everyone else is the added fun. Why pay for the milk if he can have the cow?

He is totally unfair to mislead you and you are being unfair to yourself. You deserve better and to sit around waiting for him to make a decision … especially knowing he may sleep with her, isn’t healthy.

]]> By: Zoozoo http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/05/ex-wife-wants-to-reconcile.html/comment-page-1#comment-168606 Zoozoo Wed, 15 Dec 2010 04:45:24 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=896#comment-168606 I understand what you are going through. I began dating a guy 3 years ago and after only a few dates, he told me he was considering reconciliation with his ex-wife. I told him no problem since I only met him and I wasn't attached to him at that point. The same day I left him and he told me this news, he called me and wanted to see me again. Strangely I wondered why he changed his mind so quickly in the same day. The answer to that is because I didn't care he broke things off with me, I reacted that it didn't matter and basically I rejected him back. He didn't want to be rejected. We dated again, and over this 3 year period, he seemed to often consider recondciliation with his ex which upset me. But he also wanted to date other girls or women too and this became a pattern. There were times breaking up didn't bother me so much and other times it did bother me. What I came to realize was though, that if I reacted mad or angry, I only pushed him further away. If I acted like it didn't matter, he couldnt stand the idea that I didn't care if i had him or not. Three years later, he has begun to visit his ex who lives two hours away, often, and spend the night with her and kids. This bothered me drastically. I became mad, jealous, envious, and did all the stupid things people do when they are this way. After 6 months of him going back and forth from her to me, I got up enough nerve to tell him I wasn't going to see him anymore because it wasn't good for my kids to see what he was doing and me to put up with it was even worse. He was fine with my breakup, and seemed to not be bothered by it, and even went on to say he was definately reconciling with his ex and agreed with the break. I was devastated because I did love him. After I went crazy, I realized that I was acting crazy and foolish and this wasn't the best for me to be with him and I needed to move on. So into two weeks of the breakup, me still calling hiim, him still calling me, I told him I wasn't going to see him anymore. He was coy and basically said Great! But the second day went by and I didn't call or text him. Day 3 no calls or texts. He was calling me and texting me I wasn't answering either. I was busy with my life. Finally I did talk to him and he openly asked me if I was ignoring him on purpose? I said yes, for him and me. He immediately wanted to see me the next day, wanted to know if I would see him, he was jealous and it was amazing he cared so much. At this point I realized I needed to take care of me, and that over the 3 year period, I really hadnt been that happy, but miserable. In a day or two, I was transforming my thoughts, actions, and it felt good to do what I wanted He called and wanted to see me, but I gave no promise and was aloof. Always take care of yourself. If they see us taking care of ourselves, they will respect us more and we will have self-respect as well. Always put you first and make positive changes in your life to make you happy and not him. You will feel good about it and maybe you wont even want him back! Check out this website: www.magicofmakwingup.com I understand what you are going through. I began dating a guy 3 years ago and after only a few dates, he told me he was considering reconciliation with his ex-wife. I told him no problem since I only met him and I wasn’t attached to him at that point. The same day I left him and he told me this news, he called me and wanted to see me again. Strangely I wondered why he changed his mind so quickly in the same day. The answer to that is because I didn’t care he broke things off with me, I reacted that it didn’t matter and basically I rejected him back. He didn’t want to be rejected. We dated again, and over this 3 year period, he seemed to often consider recondciliation with his ex which upset me. But he also wanted to date other girls or women too and this became a pattern. There were times breaking up didn’t bother me so much and other times it did bother me. What I came to realize was though, that if I reacted mad or angry, I only pushed him further away. If I acted like it didn’t matter, he couldnt stand the idea that I didn’t care if i had him or not. Three years later, he has begun to visit his ex who lives two hours away, often, and spend the night with her and kids. This bothered me drastically. I became mad, jealous, envious, and did all the stupid things people do when they are this way. After 6 months of him going back and forth from her to me, I got up enough nerve to tell him I wasn’t going to see him anymore because it wasn’t good for my kids to see what he was doing and me to put up with it was even worse. He was fine with my breakup, and seemed to not be bothered by it, and even went on to say he was definately reconciling with his ex and agreed with the break. I was devastated because I did love him. After I went crazy, I realized that I was acting crazy and foolish and this wasn’t the best for me to be with him and I needed to move on. So into two weeks of the breakup, me still calling hiim, him still calling me, I told him I wasn’t going to see him anymore. He was coy and basically said Great! But the second day went by and I didn’t call or text him. Day 3 no calls or texts. He was calling me and texting me I wasn’t answering either. I was busy with my life. Finally I did talk to him and he openly asked me if I was ignoring him on purpose? I said yes, for him and me. He immediately wanted to see me the next day, wanted to know if I would see him, he was jealous and it was amazing he cared so much. At this point I realized I needed to take care of me, and that over the 3 year period, I really hadnt been that happy, but miserable. In a day or two, I was transforming my thoughts, actions, and it felt good to do what I wanted He called and wanted to see me, but I gave no promise and was aloof. Always take care of yourself. If they see us taking care of ourselves, they will respect us more and we will have self-respect as well. Always put you first and make positive changes in your life to make you happy and not him. You will feel good about it and maybe you wont even want him back! Check out this website: http://www.magicofmakwingup.com

]]> By: Orrymain http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/05/ex-wife-wants-to-reconcile.html/comment-page-1#comment-158828 Orrymain Thu, 29 Oct 2009 11:59:07 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=896#comment-158828 I'm curious how things have worked out as well. Rebound relationships rarely work, though, and I'm for people working to resolve their differences. He's still married, or was at that point. I'd probably wait to get involved until after the divorce is finalized. I’m curious how things have worked out as well. Rebound relationships rarely work, though, and I’m for people working to resolve their differences. He’s still married, or was at that point. I’d probably wait to get involved until after the divorce is finalized.

]]> By: Taggart http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/05/ex-wife-wants-to-reconcile.html/comment-page-1#comment-158231 Taggart Sun, 25 Oct 2009 14:43:01 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=896#comment-158231 I see it's been a while since you posted this... Hopefully the relationship has worked out in a good way for you, one way or another. I know it can be difficult for some people to move on from a bad relationship. I see it’s been a while since you posted this… Hopefully the relationship has worked out in a good way for you, one way or another. I know it can be difficult for some people to move on from a bad relationship.

]]> By: Taggart http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/05/ex-wife-wants-to-reconcile.html/comment-page-1#comment-152514 Taggart Sat, 15 Aug 2009 11:52:23 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=896#comment-152514 I think in some cases the person involved at the beginning of a separation may not be intentionally misleading anyone about how easy it will be to separate. Sometimes people get to know their spouse much better when lawyers become involved. I think in some cases the person involved at the beginning of a separation may not be intentionally misleading anyone about how easy it will be to separate. Sometimes people get to know their spouse much better when lawyers become involved.

]]> By: deltic http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/05/ex-wife-wants-to-reconcile.html/comment-page-1#comment-152512 deltic Sat, 15 Aug 2009 11:49:16 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=896#comment-152512 That is true, but the separated partner can be very convincing about things being all over, so I can see why some people do get involved. That is true, but the separated partner can be very convincing about things being all over, so I can see why some people do get involved.

]]> By: justontime http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/05/ex-wife-wants-to-reconcile.html/comment-page-1#comment-152503 justontime Sat, 15 Aug 2009 11:24:40 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=896#comment-152503 I think I would agree with you on that Kernow, I think getting involved with someone who is not yet divorced leaves you open to a lot of heartache. I think I would agree with you on that Kernow, I think getting involved with someone who is not yet divorced leaves you open to a lot of heartache.

]]> By: kernow http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/05/ex-wife-wants-to-reconcile.html/comment-page-1#comment-152495 kernow Sat, 15 Aug 2009 10:54:14 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=896#comment-152495 I am an old fashioned sort of person and for many reasons I would not consider a person free to date and get involved until after a divorce. Then it would be up to me if I wanted to bother with someone with a lot of baggage. I am an old fashioned sort of person and for many reasons I would not consider a person free to date and get involved until after a divorce. Then it would be up to me if I wanted to bother with someone with a lot of baggage.

]]> By: chris1203 http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/05/ex-wife-wants-to-reconcile.html/comment-page-1#comment-152445 chris1203 Sat, 15 Aug 2009 03:35:20 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=896#comment-152445 I agree, kernow. Even couples that are actually divorced can have unresolved baggage between them that can get in the way of them forming good relationships with other people. I agree, kernow. Even couples that are actually divorced can have unresolved baggage between them that can get in the way of them forming good relationships with other people.

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