14 Responses

• chris1203 on May 27th, 2009 at 8:44 am

  I can understand “making nice” with your soon to be ex, especially when you are the one that is ending it. (Been there, done that.) The guilt you feel can lead you into giving your ex just about everything!

• Taggart on May 28th, 2009 at 5:30 am

  Those are some interesting statistics. I think it’s in the best interest of all parties, including children for things to be divided fairly.

  Coming to an agreement on that may well be a challenge, but to feel as if either side’s been taken advantage of is very unfortunate.

• poster25 on June 5th, 2009 at 8:39 am

  This is why divorce is so nasty. No wants to be fair at the time. Everyone is hurting or upset so its hard.

• Taggart on June 6th, 2009 at 6:48 am

  There are plenty of nasty experiences, but every now and then you hear about a very positive settlement of property and arrangements.

  I must say that the title of the book seems predisposed to a nasty settlement. I’m sure that there are cases where that approach makes sense.

• chris1203 on August 14th, 2009 at 8:32 pm

  You make a good point, Taggart. The title of the book is pretty negative. I think that if you approach anything with a negative attitude negative will come out of it.

• kernow on August 15th, 2009 at 3:50 am

  The title is negative and that would put me off, but where one partner is being unreasonable or one partner is more vulnerable in some way, it is important not to be crushed by the system and you need to know how things work.

• justontime on August 15th, 2009 at 4:21 am

  Having information about how things should work and what you should expect is empowering, but I agree the title is negative and offputting.

• deltic on August 15th, 2009 at 4:41 am

  That is true knowledge is power, so it is important to know what you should expect in terms of a settlement.

• Taggart on August 15th, 2009 at 4:50 am

  I think the title doesn’t suggest closure to me somehow. I think everyone should go for what should be coming to them in a divorce, unless you voluntarily concede something, perhaps in consideration of receiving something else in return that may be more valuable to you than simply splitting things up.

• mollyL on November 9th, 2009 at 10:34 pm

  The major part of a marriage’s assets should go to the raising and welfare of any children. Whichever spouse winds up making support payments should never accuse the other parent of partying on the money. How do you think that makes the child feel, to be in the middle of that?

• justontime on November 10th, 2009 at 1:01 am

  I disagree Molly, the money should be split and the parents should share care of the children. That is in the best interest of the children, women have been making mens lives a misery for too long re child custody matters. The children must come first.

• Taggart on November 10th, 2009 at 6:55 am

  I think if a spouse is mishandling money allotted for the care and raising of the children, it should be addressed responsibly. I’d rather children become aware of disputes than have insufficient care because of poor handling of money.

• stav on November 10th, 2009 at 11:26 am

  sadly, ‘awarding child support’ is not quite the same as actually receiving the promised child support. Many custodial parents find themselves living on the breadline when the one supposedly making the support payments fails to do so. Lets address that!

• heretoday on November 24th, 2009 at 1:47 pm

  I’m not sure how it is in other countries, but there are states in the US that are “community property” states, which means that everything is to be split 50-50 in the event of divorce.