Is it unethical to conduct a background check on that new guy or girl in your life or is the action justified with the what if obsession that may save your life if you are right in conducting such action.

A woman or man in search of love thinks they have just found the perfect person that they think they may want to spend the rest of their life with. It is that feeling in your gut that you get when that special someone touches all your good buttons making you go into total disarray because you just can’t believe how much he or she dots your “I” and crosses your “T”. This is the one, so often we find ourselves saying as we mentally check off our mental checklist of those things we told ourselves a long time ago that we wanted in a significant other.

The number one reason for divorce is financial problems, so why does it make sense for counselors to charge from $75-$200 per hour to help you save your marriage? This is a hurdle that far too many couples are faced with? I have dedicated myself to showing couples that there ARE other choices! Even if finances are not the problem your marriage is facing, there is something in this article to help you save or improve it.

I would never, ever tell someone “Don’t get a counselor, you don’t need one”. In fact counseling is the first thing I would suggest to anyone. However I do realize that in some situations it can’t or wont be done, so this article is for those in that situation.

After running into my own marital problems and friends and family doing the same, I’ve spent years doing a LOT of research in libraries and online for ways to help relationships no matter what the issue is. What I found is there are basic rules to have in place for a strong marriage. You MUST have these basic “ingredients” to have a healthy, happy marriage, and almost all marital problems come from missing one (or more)of these ingredients.

Hit Him Where It Hurts: The Take-No Prisoners Guide to Divorce–Alimony, Child Support, Custody, and More

2.5 million people divorce each year; wives begin those proceedings 85 percent of the time- Author is a child of divorce, has been divorced twice herself, and has been handling divorce cases for twenty years- Written by the matrimonial counsel to New York City’s chapter of the National Organization of Women (NOW)Eighty-five percent of the time, women are the ones who initiate the divorce. They want out, and to get out they often bend over backward to make nice with their soon-to-be exes.

The fifth affair I outline in my book, “Break Free From The Affair” is called: “I Want to Get Back at Him/Her.” This is the revenge affair.

It occurs in a marriage in which one feels slighted in some manner and seeks revenge by engaging in infidelity. It is less a movement toward the other person and more a movement away from one’s spouse.

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POSTED BY RUBE – A READER CONTRIBUTED STORY

After being married for 18 years, fathering 4 kids, and thinking our marriage was above normal, the wife tells me she wants a divorce on Friday the 13th (LOL). She says I’m too controlling, I have a temper and I told her to ‘either get a job or get out of the house’.

Well I’m not controlling, she simply does not know what to do half the time. My temper (screaming) may flare if you push my buttons and you mess with my head for 6 years: I seldom blow up and it takes a lot to get me there. Did I tell her to get a job. YES. I was working 60-80 hours a week while she was off screwing around; anyway she was looking for a job to begin with.