Comments on: Crucial – Please Save My Relationship

By: justontime

justontime — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 22:42:17 +0000

A relationship requires respect and effort from both partners. If the woman has to keep the man happy without the man making any effort, it will be a very unhappy and unfulfilling relationship.

By: stav

stav — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 01:40:24 +0000

i find that sort of thing really annoying justontime. the article just goes on about what the woman should do to make sure the man was happy.

By: justontime

justontime — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 22:45:13 +0000

Stav I am glad you see it that way, I was starting to wonder why other people didn’t notice the dated attitude in the article.

By: stav

stav — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 00:50:31 +0000

I bet you a million dollars this was written by a man! (yes I know it is a woman’s name as author)

Probably around 1932..

The days when a woman had to defer to the man all the time, and take all manner of abuse because he is ‘the man of the house’ are gone. Always assuming the woman is at fault doesn’t work any more.

By: justontime

justontime — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 22:05:23 +0000

To be fair I think the article raises some valid points, but it is so dated. It makes old fashioned assumptions about what men want and what a woman to do to be a good little wife. The world is not like that now and trying to be like that would make most women very unhappy.

By: justontime

justontime — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 07:03:57 +0000

They are not great tips, they demonstrate lazy thinking. I agree that relationships need care and attention, but this article is saying be a good wife, especially in relation to the physical aspects and you will get your ex back. What about communication?

By: chris1203

chris1203 — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 20:31:41 +0000

These are great tips. It is so easy to become lazy and compacent and just let the good relationship you had slip away.

By: Taggart

Taggart — Fri, 29 May 2009 12:11:35 +0000

I think it’s probably easier for people who’ve been in other relationships to recognize that the intitial passion with someone won’t remain exactly the same over time.

By: poster25

poster25 — Fri, 29 May 2009 05:14:11 +0000

I think this article has valuable information.

Love each other. Respect each other. When things are not working out, explain your feelings,but do not beg. Keep some self dignity. Don’t beg out of shear desparation.

Do some serious thinking to determine if both parties have valid points. Also give the other person time to think things through as well. I think that this is what the author meant by a so called “trial separation.” Do not push or rush this person.

This strategy works if both parties had good communication prior to when the problems begin. If this was not the case, then reconciliation may not be possible….in this case.

A person may think that they want to leave, but due to miscommunication it may be for the wrong reasons. A reconcilation is still possible.

By: Taggart

Taggart — Sun, 17 May 2009 13:10:10 +0000

I’m not sure that most troubled relationships can be salvaged, but I think it’s a very positive approach to try to reconcile them.

I think it’s helpful to realize that the specific excitement experienced early in a relationship will most likely not sustain indefinitely, and in the successful cases will be replaced by something equally valuable and rewarding. That’s not to say that passion leaves for good – Just that some of that passion will be replaced by something else that had yet to be experienced at the beginning of the relationship, most likely based on shared experience with the spouse over time.