Comments on: Has Your Boyfriend Cheated On You? Is He a Cheat – How Other Girls Handled their Cheating Partner?

By: justontime

justontime — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 20:20:42 +0000

I agree with the very first response by kernow. This article made me furious too, it is a shame because there are some very good points made, but it is never ever OK for a person to stray and blame it on the partner for not meeting their needs.

By: Taggart

Taggart — Sun, 24 May 2009 13:00:15 +0000

Poster25 makes a very valid point. Throughout history people in general and certainly men have risked much for sexual gratification.

In many people the sex drive is very strong, and perhaps that’s not immediately easy to understand by people who don’t feel those same strong urges.

By: poster25

poster25 — Fri, 15 May 2009 16:03:57 +0000

Cheating is downright wrong and hurtful. I have a different viewpoint of people who do cheat. This is why I can’t stand Brad Pitt to this day.

I have had friends who cry when their husbands cheat, but these same husbands gave them plenty of warning that they were not happy. When husbands say that you are going to sleep at night instead of taking care of their needs, listen to them.

These husbands should have never strayed, but these wives should not have been shocked. I have one friend in which her husband is extremely caring and understanding, but she just does not think that sex is important.

Yes, he should have left her first. When two people have difference priorities, it is time to suggest possible compromises or even end the relationship.

By: tater03

tater03 — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 18:19:22 +0000

You’re probably right in that they are not planning on leaving. They want the best of both worlds and don’t care who gets hurt in the process.

By: kernow

kernow — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 22:01:14 +0000

You are right it is selfish. I suspect many cheats don’t end their marriage/relationship because they have no intention of leaving the spouse.

By: tater03

tater03 — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 18:10:58 +0000

Cheating to me is just selfish. I mean leave or fix the relationship first. I mean I am married and can understand how a relationship might not change or work but I would never think to cheat without doing something about the relationship I’m in first. I have to much respect for myself and the person that I love.

By: justontime

justontime — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 20:57:47 +0000

kernow, you may be right, they certainly don’t seem to think through the long term implications of cheating.

By: Kernow

Kernow — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 11:49:52 +0000

I don’t think they necessarily want to end the first relationship, the just think they can get away with a bit of extra excitement.

By: deltic

deltic — Thu, 26 Mar 2009 11:37:14 +0000

They don’t end one relationship first because they want to have their cake and eat it! Partly I think it is because they just don’t want to face up to conflict.

By: riskey58

riskey58 — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 15:00:10 +0000

In the end I just never will understand why you cannot end one relationship first? I mean I know ending one may not be easy but it just is the decent thing to do.