Comments on: 10 Pieces of Advice to Win Custody of your Child http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/03/10-pieces-of-advice-to-win-custody-of-your-child.html Real Cheating and Infidelity - Stories and Advice Mon, 05 Jul 2010 10:48:39 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Katharina http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/03/10-pieces-of-advice-to-win-custody-of-your-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-141147 Katharina Sun, 05 Apr 2009 20:33:57 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=843#comment-141147 Sounds like an ideal solution, kernow, but I can't for the life of me imagine what type of thing that would be. There doesn't seem to be an easy or better way. Sounds like an ideal solution, kernow, but I can’t for the life of me imagine what type of thing that would be. There doesn’t seem to be an easy or better way.

]]> By: kernow http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/03/10-pieces-of-advice-to-win-custody-of-your-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-141028 kernow Sat, 04 Apr 2009 13:51:23 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=843#comment-141028 Considering that so many people get divorced and so many children are involved in divorce it its about time we found a more civilised and less confrontational way of dealing with it by now. Considering that so many people get divorced and so many children are involved in divorce it its about time we found a more civilised and less confrontational way of dealing with it by now.

]]> By: tater03 http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/03/10-pieces-of-advice-to-win-custody-of-your-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-140956 tater03 Fri, 03 Apr 2009 18:23:44 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=843#comment-140956 I would have to agree that it comes out of being hurt and almost like a way to get revenge. It's just sad. I would have to agree that it comes out of being hurt and almost like a way to get revenge. It’s just sad.

]]> By: Katharina http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/03/10-pieces-of-advice-to-win-custody-of-your-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-140946 Katharina Fri, 03 Apr 2009 15:08:54 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=843#comment-140946 I watched the divorce of an acquaintance a number of years ago... and many of these things came up. I hate to say it, but a judge does NOT always have the best interest of the children in mind. In the case I know, the mother was an abuser and was in police records and CPS records as being an abuser. The dad was a medical professional and did everything he could for the kids. Unfortunately the judge went by the old "always better with the mother" thing... even after the court appointed *guardian* for the children recommended they live with the dad! Ludicrous, but people just can't control these things very often and a list of "how to win custody" may not work the way you intend it to work. I watched the divorce of an acquaintance a number of years ago… and many of these things came up.

I hate to say it, but a judge does NOT always have the best interest of the children in mind. In the case I know, the mother was an abuser and was in police records and CPS records as being an abuser. The dad was a medical professional and did everything he could for the kids.

Unfortunately the judge went by the old “always better with the mother” thing… even after the court appointed *guardian* for the children recommended they live with the dad!

Ludicrous, but people just can’t control these things very often and a list of “how to win custody” may not work the way you intend it to work.

]]> By: justontime http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/03/10-pieces-of-advice-to-win-custody-of-your-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-140569 justontime Fri, 27 Mar 2009 20:26:12 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=843#comment-140569 Yes, it seems to be about power and about coming out on top. I really don't know how to avoid it when the people involved are both feeling hurt and angry. Yes, it seems to be about power and about coming out on top. I really don’t know how to avoid it when the people involved are both feeling hurt and angry.

]]> By: deltic http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/03/10-pieces-of-advice-to-win-custody-of-your-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-138021 deltic Thu, 26 Mar 2009 11:40:36 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=843#comment-138021 Money is a big issue, but to some extent I think it becomes all about power and about punishing the other person. Somewhere along the line they lose sight of the children's needs. Money is a big issue, but to some extent I think it becomes all about power and about punishing the other person. Somewhere along the line they lose sight of the children’s needs.

]]> By: riskey58 http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/03/10-pieces-of-advice-to-win-custody-of-your-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-135128 riskey58 Wed, 25 Mar 2009 15:04:47 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=843#comment-135128 I think it the end some divorces bring out such bitterness and money aspects that everything else gets lost. I think it the end some divorces bring out such bitterness and money aspects that everything else gets lost.

]]> By: deltic http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/03/10-pieces-of-advice-to-win-custody-of-your-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-134559 deltic Wed, 25 Mar 2009 09:04:14 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=843#comment-134559 riskey58 you make a very good point about children's feelings being lost in all the argument. I know we have mediation etc but I think as soon as solicitors get involved it is about winning and there is no incentive to resolve things quickly (the longer it takes the more they earn). They may pay lip service to the needs of the children, but so often the children are emotionally damaged by what is happening riskey58 you make a very good point about children’s feelings being lost in all the argument. I know we have mediation etc but I think as soon as solicitors get involved it is about winning and there is no incentive to resolve things quickly (the longer it takes the more they earn). They may pay lip service to the needs of the children, but so often the children are emotionally damaged by what is happening

]]> By: justontime http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/03/10-pieces-of-advice-to-win-custody-of-your-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-127421 justontime Sun, 22 Mar 2009 19:48:35 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=843#comment-127421 The children's experiences during and after divorce can do lasting damage to their self esteem and can cause them problems long into the future. The need to know that their parents love them even if they do not love each other anymore. The children’s experiences during and after divorce can do lasting damage to their self esteem and can cause them problems long into the future. The need to know that their parents love them even if they do not love each other anymore.

]]> By: riskey58 http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/03/10-pieces-of-advice-to-win-custody-of-your-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-127029 riskey58 Sun, 22 Mar 2009 17:04:57 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=843#comment-127029 I find it sad that the parents forget that the children are experiencing their own feelings concerning a divorce and then the parents go and add more by fighting about them like they are pawns. I find it sad that the parents forget that the children are experiencing their own feelings concerning a divorce and then the parents go and add more by fighting about them like they are pawns.

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