Comments on: Announcing “How To Marry Smart, A Divorce Attorney’s Advice On How To Tell The Winners From The Losers When Choosing Your Spouse” http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/02/announcing-how-to-marry-smart-a-divorce-attorneys-advice-on-how-to-tell-the-winners-from-the-losers-when-choosing-your-spouse.html Real Cheating and Infidelity - Stories and Advice Thu, 26 Aug 2010 20:54:23 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: deltic http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/02/announcing-how-to-marry-smart-a-divorce-attorneys-advice-on-how-to-tell-the-winners-from-the-losers-when-choosing-your-spouse.html/comment-page-1#comment-142270 deltic Fri, 17 Apr 2009 15:13:30 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=815#comment-142270 I think the attitude of the children will depend on how well their parents handled divorce. I think the attitude of the children will depend on how well their parents handled divorce.

]]> By: justontime http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/02/announcing-how-to-marry-smart-a-divorce-attorneys-advice-on-how-to-tell-the-winners-from-the-losers-when-choosing-your-spouse.html/comment-page-1#comment-142266 justontime Fri, 17 Apr 2009 14:48:49 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=815#comment-142266 Katharina, you raise an interesting question. I think children can grow up well adjusted with divorced parents or with a single parent. I think the damage is really done when parents involve their kids in their arguments and use the children to hurt each other. Katharina, you raise an interesting question. I think children can grow up well adjusted with divorced parents or with a single parent. I think the damage is really done when parents involve their kids in their arguments and use the children to hurt each other.

]]> By: Katharina http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/02/announcing-how-to-marry-smart-a-divorce-attorneys-advice-on-how-to-tell-the-winners-from-the-losers-when-choosing-your-spouse.html/comment-page-1#comment-142254 Katharina Fri, 17 Apr 2009 12:04:51 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=815#comment-142254 Reading this article and the responses, I found myself wondering something... with all the heartache and divorces kids see these days... well, it's almost like "the norm" and I wonder if they subconsciously PLAN for a failed marriage somehow when they tie the knot. If the thought is "oh, we'll most likely divorce in a few years" then wouldn't the incentive to try hard to make it work be lessened? Reading this article and the responses, I found myself wondering something… with all the heartache and divorces kids see these days… well, it’s almost like “the norm” and I wonder if they subconsciously PLAN for a failed marriage somehow when they tie the knot.

If the thought is “oh, we’ll most likely divorce in a few years” then wouldn’t the incentive to try hard to make it work be lessened?

]]> By: tater03 http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/02/announcing-how-to-marry-smart-a-divorce-attorneys-advice-on-how-to-tell-the-winners-from-the-losers-when-choosing-your-spouse.html/comment-page-1#comment-142208 tater03 Thu, 16 Apr 2009 22:56:36 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=815#comment-142208 I guess that is why after the first year of marriage and the newlywed period ends they have a harder time adjusting. I guess that is why after the first year of marriage and the newlywed period ends they have a harder time adjusting.

]]> By: kernow http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/02/announcing-how-to-marry-smart-a-divorce-attorneys-advice-on-how-to-tell-the-winners-from-the-losers-when-choosing-your-spouse.html/comment-page-1#comment-140717 kernow Mon, 30 Mar 2009 09:53:59 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=815#comment-140717 Somehow we need to help young people in their early teens understand this, hopefully it could help them to avoid a lot of unhappiness. Somehow we need to help young people in their early teens understand this, hopefully it could help them to avoid a lot of unhappiness.

]]> By: justontime http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/02/announcing-how-to-marry-smart-a-divorce-attorneys-advice-on-how-to-tell-the-winners-from-the-losers-when-choosing-your-spouse.html/comment-page-1#comment-140713 justontime Mon, 30 Mar 2009 09:41:34 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=815#comment-140713 Yes, they have bought into the fairy tale wedding and all the trimmings, but they have't understood that married life is not a fairy tale. It is a real committment and the relationship needs time and effort to thrive. Yes, they have bought into the fairy tale wedding and all the trimmings, but they have’t understood that married life is not a fairy tale. It is a real committment and the relationship needs time and effort to thrive.

]]> By: riskey58 http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/02/announcing-how-to-marry-smart-a-divorce-attorneys-advice-on-how-to-tell-the-winners-from-the-losers-when-choosing-your-spouse.html/comment-page-1#comment-140681 riskey58 Sun, 29 Mar 2009 20:55:45 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=815#comment-140681 I think that some are just not ready for when the marriage loses the newlywed stage and are not prepared to have to make it work. I think that some are just not ready for when the marriage loses the newlywed stage and are not prepared to have to make it work.

]]> By: justontime http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/02/announcing-how-to-marry-smart-a-divorce-attorneys-advice-on-how-to-tell-the-winners-from-the-losers-when-choosing-your-spouse.html/comment-page-1#comment-132727 justontime Tue, 24 Mar 2009 14:29:53 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=815#comment-132727 Don't you think that some people get so fixed on planning the wedding, the dress, the venue, the catering etc that they don't ever look beyond it to the reality of ordinary married life. I think that is where a lot of problems start. Don’t you think that some people get so fixed on planning the wedding, the dress, the venue, the catering etc that they don’t ever look beyond it to the reality of ordinary married life. I think that is where a lot of problems start.

]]> By: riskey58 http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/02/announcing-how-to-marry-smart-a-divorce-attorneys-advice-on-how-to-tell-the-winners-from-the-losers-when-choosing-your-spouse.html/comment-page-1#comment-127091 riskey58 Sun, 22 Mar 2009 17:32:24 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=815#comment-127091 I agree that in today's world children don't get to see a stable and loving relationship a lot of the time. I agree that in today’s world children don’t get to see a stable and loving relationship a lot of the time.

]]> By: deltic http://www.idcheaters.com/2009/02/announcing-how-to-marry-smart-a-divorce-attorneys-advice-on-how-to-tell-the-winners-from-the-losers-when-choosing-your-spouse.html/comment-page-1#comment-92125 deltic Wed, 11 Mar 2009 14:58:21 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=815#comment-92125 That is a good point, if children haven't grown up observing the normal give and take of marriage they may have unrealistic expectations when they are of an age to consider marriage. That is a good point, if children haven’t grown up observing the normal give and take of marriage they may have unrealistic expectations when they are of an age to consider marriage.

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