Bob and Nina, married 23 years, still look at each other with respect and love. Their dates are filled with outdoor activities like hiking and camping on Mount Rainer.
I asked Bob and Nina one simple question. \”What is the bond that keeps you together?\”
Bob grinned and looked at Nina as he spoke. \”We\’ve been through so much together. Nina is my rock. She\’s always there for me. Why would I ever give that up for something frivolous?\”
I turned to Nina. \”When I married Bob I made a covenant,\” she said. \”Years ago I went out with girlfriends. They always griped about their husbands. I never took part. I met with them again. They were still complaining about their husbands. I thought to myself, \’Why live like that?\’\”
Next Nina laced her fingers with Bob\’s. \”When we have problems we solve them together.\” Then Nina raised their clasped hands saying, \”This is my covenant.\”
Love Secret Number 1 for Parents Resolving to Be Lovers:
Choose to give up frivolous fantasies about others. Avoid flirting with others too. Focus on your partner. Go through the hard and happy times together. Appreciate the good in your spouse and in your relationship. When you each focus on and appreciate each other, you create an unbreakable bond. That bond includes a deep and abiding trust. You know you can rely on the other for support, help, and the love you need. Trust is the rock on which you build your marriage. Love Secret Number 2 for Parents Resolving to Be Lovers:
Be loyal. Avoid talking against your partner, even with close friends. If you have problems in your marriage work them out together. Make your relationship your covenant.
Knowing that your spouse talks well of you opens up a well of good will between you. It\’s a relief to feel that your partner is solidly with you, for you, and beside you.
One more thing, your children know when you love each other. They listen to your words. They sense how you feel toward each other. They watch how you act. Why not give them the security and joy of knowing their parents are in love?
Conclusion: 2 Simple Secrets for Parents Resolving to Love Each Other
The above story is an excerpt from my book, \”Parents in Love – 121 Dating Ideas.\” Like Bob and Nina, focus on each other with loyalty and love. If you do, you\’ll be creating a rock solid marriage. Your children will know it. And you\’ll create a meaningful life that lasts.
About the Author – Jean Tracy, MSS shares stories, tips, and the secret formula all lovers need in her eBook, \”Parents in Love.\” With 121 low to no-cost dating ideas and 89 dating coupons, you can laugh, play, and cherish each other forever. Find out more at http://www.kidsdiscuss.com/parents_in_love.asp and become parents in love today.
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Those were very wise words, sometimes the simple advice is the best, I would like to read this book.
I love your advice, I must say, I am very encouraged to speak positively of my husband at ALL times.
This is some good advice. I don’t think enough married couples follow this advice. If they did, there would be less misery and divorce.
It really is easier said than done, but if an individual purpose in their heart that they will love in spite of, then it can be done.
Chris1203 I don’t think many couples fully understand how much having children will change things. I think sometimes tiredness and responsibility leads them to let things drift, then in time this leads to more problems.
I think this could help many couples with kids, that can´t find the time to be with each other, so one of them (or both) cheat. It is not an easy thing, but if there is love, it is worth to work things out.
One of the biggest problems in marriages is that lack of loyalty.
Trashing your partner behind their back is almost as bad as having an affair.
I had no idea how having a child would affect my marital relationship, but I am learning as I go along.
These are wonderful words of advice. Your book sounds inspirational and well worth a read.
Liza, people should really be told how children change a relationship, before they decide to have children.
I have talked to many older people who, thought they love their offspring, wouldn’t have had them.
They say they would have remained childless to preserve the relationship they had, instead.
Having kids changes your self and your priorities in a very radical way! I don’t have kids, because I know how selfish I am, and I prefer to have nephews whom I adore to death, but they have their parents and I don’t have other responsibility than spoil them and teach them to be good people.
I think I would still have kids, but I would probably have ensured other things were in place before.
His “affair”is a pain in your heart forever… Although the pieces of your heart, Although you love him, he does not value you, Although you pay so much, but did not return.