ok well i\’ve known this guy for about 4 months. my friend introduced me to him saying he needs a new girlfriend. so we start talking and later i find out that my friend had already introduced him to some other girl, which they messed around a few times. this girls sister added me on myspace but i didn\’t accept her.. oh by the way their twinz. so that was a shock for me. then his ex girlfriend starts writting me on myspace.. telling me that they\’re KINDA back together. but i was like whatever and i told him bout it. me and him would talk everyday for alot of hours, i would see him almost every weekend and i snuck him into my house.. WHILE MY DAD WAS SLEEPING lol. now he hardly ever calls me and when he does im wondering why do u call me now?! and then he asks me why im being a bitch its like are u serious right now? we went to the movies in the middle of november.. about 4 days later i find out he went to the movies with the girl from before, and i heard they were all over eachother. and now on him myspace its saying i love\”his ex\” i miss her like crazy. and its not like he didn\’t mean it because its been on his page for over a week and hes gone on multiple times. he asked me to kiss him if i cared about him, and i do care about him but its not that easy i told him. and i told him everything i was feeling. i really just don\’t know what to do. i already confronted him but he doesn\’t seem to care.
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I am going to be frank, this guy is up to no good, he needs to straighten out himself. I see no future.
This fellow sounds like he’s out for a good time, and that’s all.
Did he talk you into sneaking him into your parent’s home?
You remind me of my daughter when she went through this w/an ex. I’ll give you the same advice I gave her…DUMP HIM! And have no further contact w/him. Of course, doing so will only make him want to be w/you again…but don’t do it. He wants the chase, but not the meal. Give him neither. You deserve better. A real relationship w/real feelings and respect. This guy has no respect for anyone and respect should be at the top of your list of what’s great in a boyfriend. Good luck!
Frankly you don’t need that kind of drama, the fact that he is sleeping with other girls tells you that he does not respect you the way he ought to.
I have a feeling that this fellow is a misogynist.
Over time, he will probably make unreasonable demands, then manipulate you into meeting them, even when it is against your best interest.
The title says it all! It is a waste of time!!! Try to find someone new that is not all over, sharing himself thinking he is the last Coke in the desert! Forget about him! You deserve better.
I am sorry to say this but you have had to learn a hard lesson. He is a waste of space, he has treated you badly and will continue to do so. Take control of your life and get rid of him, you deserve better.
This man has used you, he really is a waste of time. Learn from it, move on and be cautious about who you choose in future.
He is only out for a good time. Dump him and find someone else.
the guy is playing …you are just wasting your time…find another guy that is serious in a relationship…how can you love a man like that???
I think you pretty much stated your verdict in the title of your story. I agree with the people above.
I’d suggest turning the page, and possibly not getting as personal on myspace – That just would be my preference, anyway.
This guy does sound like a liar, a cheater, and a “player” and you are better off without him!
He only calls you for sex and an ego boost. Run as far away from him as you can.
Guys,
This is the role of the other woman, to be there for his deposit in a sexual relationship. They know, we know that, and you know that so why tell them to run. I say stay there and let him screw you senseless cause it keeps him from wanting to screw us senseless. Just keep your regular appointments at the doctor’s office so that he doesn’t bring home the STDs. If you have the babies, then too damn bad for that too cause the poor child is going to be fatherless and I hope that is what you want. To have the child to get a few extra pennies in child support and no love or emotional support but that is again the role of the other woman. It’s just sad that you don’t know your role, I think we wives should create a job description for the other woman and post for her to know and hold her accountable when she is not doing her job. When he wakes at 4 am tapping for love, send him to the other woman for sex. That is my sentiment on this whole thing, let us use them like he is to help us in our role as the beautiful women we have been entrusted by God to be, which is the WIFE.
I’m sorry to say he has been using you. Be strong and have nothing more to do with him. You are worth more than that, don’t sell yourself short.
I think T has some emotional issues to deal with from the sound of the above post. I’d be very curious to hear other responses to that post.
I’m not saying there’s absolutely no truth to it…
Taggart I agree with you about T. It is hard to respond to an incoherent rant, I have read it three times and I still can’t make sense of it. I think T’s attitude is a million miles away from anything I recognise or understand. Surely marriage is an equal partnership, not ownership! T. I am sorry that something in your life has hurt you so badly, but you need to take a step back because you are not seeing things clearly.
I can’t answer T’s comment because it really doesn’t make any sense. I am not sure it was helpful to bring God into the argument, but I would have thought that if you made your marriage vows before God,it would be even more important for the husband (and wife) to observe them. I would not tolerate a husband who had so little respect for me that he couldn’t be faithful.
kernow
I agree with your statement. It appears that T is a wife that is totally fine with a cheating husband. Maybe T is dealing with issues because the comment made absolutely no sense.
I agree with Kernow too. I don’t know why T. is so hurt and apparently unable to think straight, but I am sorry she is hurting so much. None of us know what is around the corner, I may think I know how I would react in her situation, but that is not the same as actually living through it. I just hope T finds the courage and strength to get through this and not end up bitter, angry and all alone.
Yes I guess we all have different stating points and different reactions. It makes me sad to think that people like T are being so badly used by their husbands, nobody deserves that and it will not get better while the women involved put up with it. It must be a very sad and lonely existance.