Comments on: How Do You Handle A Relationship With A Man And His Kids?

By: kernow

kernow — Tue, 28 Jul 2009 14:14:38 +0000

Yes there are examples of it working, but I think if she is resentful at this early stage that is a clue that it is unlikely to work in this case.

By: justontime

justontime — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 14:12:47 +0000

It can work, but only if you are willing to accept that the childern will always have the first call on his love, time and finances at least until they are 25! Having said all that, if you can accept the children the step parent relationship can be very rewarding but it is hard work.

By: Taggart

Taggart — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 13:43:22 +0000

I have some relatives that have dealt with children from other relationships and I’d say that it’s a constant issue to deal with for some people. So I agree with poster25.

I think it may be easier for people who’ve had children themselves in some cases, but that’s not the case with everyone.

By: poster25

poster25 — Sun, 17 May 2009 15:56:05 +0000

The children come with the package. If you can’t deal with it now, you won’t be able to deal with it later either.

You have to have the right mindset to date a man who has children that are not yours. You will never come first in his life. His children will always be first.

You say that his ex doesn’t bring any dates to the game. This may be a problem as well. If she wants him back, chances are she will use the kids as bait.

You have to decide if you want to deal with the drama. Are you mature enough to handle this? Is he really worth it?

By: Taggart

Taggart — Sat, 16 May 2009 12:14:04 +0000

I tend to agree that he’s being a good father in trying to attend his son’s games. I think that’s a positive trait.

I can also see why you’d like to have some quality time alone with him. I think in this case as in many others, hopefully you can find a satisfactory balance.

By: deltic

deltic — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 16:06:15 +0000

I’m sorry, but kernow is right. If you resent the time he spends with his child then you have the wrong man. He must put his child first.

By: kernow

kernow — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 21:27:28 +0000

the needs of the children have to come first, if you can’t cope with that then you are in the wrong relationship. You should be proud of him for playing an active part in his son’s life.

By: Rosa

Rosa — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 01:02:56 +0000

I have been in a relationship for 4 years, with a men that loved so much. At the time that we met , he had only one child. He then stated that he needs to be involved in his son life, And icompletely agreed with him. And we decided that it was ok. I mean i am a mother of 2 children, and for me not to allow that,i thought that i was being selfish. But i guess I was worng. He Ended up getting his ex-girlfriend pregnant again. And Some other women that he met while he was with me pregnant as well

By: chris1203

chris1203 — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 21:48:38 +0000

Dating a man with children can be difficult, but it does not have to ruin your relationship. Find a way to include his children in your life, so that you don’t look at it as if the kids are taking him away from you.

By: Sagemother

Sagemother — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 18:11:34 +0000

I have yet to see an ex with kids, who ever becomes truly “ex”. The kids tie the man to the ex wife as long as those kids are under 18, he pays child support, and has to constantly arrange visitation.