18 Responses

• Imaginary Diva on January 1st, 2009 at 2:05 am

  Thanks for dropping by!

• Liza on January 1st, 2009 at 4:43 pm

  That’s a great attitude you have about giving him a second chance, I hope he makes the best use of it.

• berlinlife06 on January 2nd, 2009 at 7:34 am

  Well, I guess your love is a lot more stronger than his cheating. You have a much bigger heart than I would ever have.

• Lina M on January 2nd, 2009 at 9:07 am

  20 years is a long time. The question is, “Can she trust him?” When the trust is betrayed you may forgive but you will never forget..If her husband is honestly and sincerely willing to regain her trust than maybe they can work things out. But if not than cut your losses and remember the good times.

• justontime on January 2nd, 2009 at 10:30 am

  Does he really wants another chance and he is willing to try hard to rebuild trust and respect in the relationship? It takes two to rebuild a relationship.

• chris1203 on January 2nd, 2009 at 12:28 pm

  It’s good that you want to give him another change, but you also have to decide if your relationship is workable. Can you ever really trust him again?

• berlinlife06 on January 6th, 2009 at 6:33 am

  How can you trust him again? I keep thinking about this, but I don´t think I could trust someone that cheated again. It is too hard for me.

• Sagemother on January 10th, 2009 at 12:37 pm

  Have you made sure that he has stopped using your money for this?

  It is good to try to work things out, but what new rules will be instituted to curb his behavior?

• Liza on January 22nd, 2009 at 7:42 pm

  I am sure it will take sometime to start trusting fully again, and it would be good if the real issues are addressed.

• justontime on January 23rd, 2009 at 2:05 am

  Sagemother makes a good point about setting out new rules to protect your money and to limit his behaviour.

• deltic on March 6th, 2009 at 4:20 pm

  I was just wondering how things worked out. Did you give him another chance? I hope things are working out for you.

• kernow on April 6th, 2009 at 1:53 pm

  I hope things worked out for you. Don’t blame the woman she was a victim of his lies too.

• poster25 on May 17th, 2009 at 9:02 am

  Giving my money to another woman. Those are fighting words.

  Is he even aware that you know what is going on? If you are willing to forgive his bad judgement, then you need to setup some new rules which include getting a better handle on where and how the household funds are being spent.

• Taggart on May 19th, 2009 at 6:46 am

  Is he sending money to someone he’s never met in real life? I wonder how often that happens?

  If you love him and want to give him a second chance, I hope it works out for you. I think it would take time for him to get over his interest in the other woman, if he is successful at that.

• Me on May 31st, 2009 at 3:43 pm

  Poster25 my sentiments exactly. Its one thing to have an interest in another woman, but to give my money away, Im kicking his butt. All hell would break loose.

• Taggart on June 1st, 2009 at 5:24 am

  I’m curious Serena – Since you have her contact information, are you planning to get in touch with her?

  That could be difficult and kind of scary, but I think it may help resolve your situation. You’d have to be comfortable with it, of course.

• chris1203 on June 5th, 2009 at 9:10 am

  In a way, I envy you, because I don’t think that I would be able to even say that I loved him at this point. You may give him a second chance, but it’s obvious to me that he is treating you with blatant disrespect.

• Taggart on June 11th, 2009 at 5:39 am

  Chris1203 makes a good point – You must be quite strong. Maybe you have what it takes to patch up this relationship.

  Best of luck to you.