Comments on: JT Wants To Confront Him and The Other Woman http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/12/jt-wants-to-confront-him-and-the-other-woman.html Real Cheating and Infidelity - Stories and Advice Mon, 05 Jul 2010 10:48:39 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: mollyL http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/12/jt-wants-to-confront-him-and-the-other-woman.html/comment-page-1#comment-161277 mollyL Tue, 24 Nov 2009 21:36:31 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=680#comment-161277 Are you positive that your husband has never cheated on you before? Policemen rate pretty high on the infidelity list. They also have handguns; I'd think twice before confronting him. Are you positive that your husband has never cheated on you before? Policemen rate pretty high on the infidelity list. They also have handguns; I’d think twice before confronting him.

]]> By: Taggart http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/12/jt-wants-to-confront-him-and-the-other-woman.html/comment-page-1#comment-145896 Taggart Mon, 01 Jun 2009 12:26:48 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=680#comment-145896 I share the others' concerns about confronting her at her house. I think that could be potentially dangerous, depending on the type of person you're dealing with. I share the others’ concerns about confronting her at her house. I think that could be potentially dangerous, depending on the type of person you’re dealing with.

]]> By: chris1203 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/12/jt-wants-to-confront-him-and-the-other-woman.html/comment-page-1#comment-145680 chris1203 Fri, 29 May 2009 16:19:42 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=680#comment-145680 I think that confronting him at HER house will do no good and may well be dangerous. You never know what high emotions can do for a situation until your smack dab in the middle of it. I think that confronting him at HER house will do no good and may well be dangerous. You never know what high emotions can do for a situation until your smack dab in the middle of it.

]]> By: poster25 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/12/jt-wants-to-confront-him-and-the-other-woman.html/comment-page-1#comment-144429 poster25 Wed, 13 May 2009 17:07:01 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=680#comment-144429 I have to say that I agree with DebraJean, SageMother and Tara. They all make interesting points. Do you really want to continue this marriage? You have to decide what is good for you. If you confront this woman, it will only provide temporary satisfaction. (Also, you don't know what he has told her. She might be just as innocent as you.) But all in all, you have to make the decision. You know that you want him to stop the affair, but then what? Are you going to take him back? If so, demand that he stops the affair and present YOUR TERMS to continue the marriage. If you don't want him back, get a lawyer, mark your assets and get a divorce. You have to make the choice! I have to say that I agree with DebraJean, SageMother and Tara. They all make interesting points.

Do you really want to continue this marriage? You have to decide what is good for you. If you confront this woman, it will only provide temporary satisfaction. (Also, you don’t know what he has told her. She might be just as innocent as you.)

But all in all, you have to make the decision. You know that you want him to stop the affair, but then what?

Are you going to take him back? If so, demand that he stops the affair and present YOUR TERMS to continue the marriage.

If you don’t want him back, get a lawyer, mark your assets and get a divorce.

You have to make the choice!

]]> By: Tara http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/12/jt-wants-to-confront-him-and-the-other-woman.html/comment-page-1#comment-143829 Tara Wed, 06 May 2009 06:43:21 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=680#comment-143829 Fisrt of all you have no idea what he told her. For all she knows he could be single Don't forget HE is the snake who broke the vows. Guys that cheat don't just lie to their wife BUT to anyone their banging to maybe make it seem not as bad.Whats the point in confronting her? She doesn't owe you anything and he owes you everything! You want to see her. Oh thats good so if you decide to take him back you now have a face to imagine him fucking. I wrote about this on another entry homewrecker section I for the love of god will never get why the women always want to confron the other woman. I can see if she KNOWINGLY has been with him and she KNOWS about you or if it's someone who smiles in your face daily,yes tell them their scum but SO IS HE!!! Women get so caught up and hell bent on blaming her only,for some reason I find this REALLY annoying. Hers what to do ,hire an investigator to take photos,don't do it yourself becasue your to emotional and will blow it. Hire a lawyer after the proof is their and he owes you everything!! Leave him,if he cheats he'll cheat again but please don't be one of thee Jerry Springer mentality borads who take him back but continue to lash out at her!!! Fisrt of all you have no idea what he told her. For all she knows he could be single Don’t forget HE is the snake who broke the vows. Guys that cheat don’t just lie to their wife BUT to anyone their banging to maybe make it seem not as bad.Whats the point in confronting her? She doesn’t owe you anything and he owes you everything!
You want to see her. Oh thats good so if you decide to take him back you now have a face to imagine him fucking.
I wrote about this on another entry homewrecker section I for the love of god will never get why the women always want to confron the other woman. I can see if she KNOWINGLY has been with him and she KNOWS about you or if it’s someone who smiles in your face daily,yes tell them their scum but SO IS HE!!! Women get so caught up and hell bent on blaming her only,for some reason I find this REALLY annoying.
Hers what to do ,hire an investigator to take photos,don’t do it yourself becasue your to emotional and will blow it. Hire a lawyer after the proof is their and he owes you everything!! Leave him,if he cheats he’ll cheat again but please don’t be one of thee Jerry Springer mentality borads who take him back but continue to lash out at her!!!

]]> By: Sagemother http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/12/jt-wants-to-confront-him-and-the-other-woman.html/comment-page-1#comment-20466 Sagemother Sun, 11 Jan 2009 01:31:19 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=680#comment-20466 Liza, I bet he feels that something is up, but doesn't want to find out what it is. It sounds like he thinks he has everything under control, which is another good reason to check with an attorney and get everything in place for a divorce, before confronting him. Liza,

I bet he feels that something is up, but doesn’t want to find out what it is. It sounds like he thinks he has everything under control, which is another good reason to check with an attorney and get everything in place for a divorce, before confronting him.

]]> By: Greg http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/12/jt-wants-to-confront-him-and-the-other-woman.html/comment-page-1#comment-19997 Greg Mon, 05 Jan 2009 16:06:14 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=680#comment-19997 My wife was cheating. I found out and she was supposed to tell him it was over and I knew. See told him that the affair was over but did nto tell him I knew, so he kept hitting on her. Maybe she wanted it. Maybe sje continued I do not know. I regret confronting him and telling his wife, but stay non violent, I came close to ruining my life and my children because he came very very close twice to having his head blown clean off with a 45 automatic with a hollow point explosive charge. I only mention it because the affair almost made me go out of control. It has been years but I must say I still have the desire that he knows I knew, how close he came to ruining lives more than he did (my wife too)and ley him deal with all the pain I did with his wife. I suggest if you think you will want out to slowly shift money, get control of the house, assets slowly, do something to throw him out with nothing. Then tell him why he is where he is. I divorced my wife as she wanted to stay but I would only let her if she agreed to sign everything over to me, she kept he secret with the kids and family and pretend she is the model mother and wife. She knows if she does something now she will be on the street and all the people she knows will knwo why. Too controling, ys probably buyt she did nto keep the vows or even keep the agreement to tell him I knew and one of them get a differnt job. We bot have paid dearly and it was a non christian way to go but it ws they only way we would stay together. And no, the relationship is still damaged but it was her choice as after seeing 3 therapists she would not do the work to make it work as it should have. Sad but it is my story. Find another path than confronting. "If keeping dignity" does not quite get it, find another way as I did. My wife was cheating. I found out and she was supposed to tell him it was over and I knew. See told him that the affair was over but did nto tell him I knew, so he kept hitting on her. Maybe she wanted it. Maybe sje continued I do not know. I regret confronting him and telling his wife, but stay non violent, I came close to ruining my life and my children because he came very very close twice to having his head blown clean off with a 45 automatic with a hollow point explosive charge. I only mention it because the affair almost made me go out of control. It has been years but I must say I still have the desire that he knows I knew, how close he came to ruining lives more than he did (my wife too)and ley him deal with all the pain I did with his wife. I suggest if you think you will want out to slowly shift money, get control of the house, assets slowly, do something to throw him out with nothing. Then tell him why he is where he is. I divorced my wife as she wanted to stay but I would only let her if she agreed to sign everything over to me, she kept he secret with the kids and family and pretend she is the model mother and wife. She knows if she does something now she will be on the street and all the people she knows will knwo why. Too controling, ys probably buyt she did nto keep the vows or even keep the agreement to tell him I knew and one of them get a differnt job. We bot have paid dearly and it was a non christian way to go but it ws they only way we would stay together. And no, the relationship is still damaged but it was her choice as after seeing 3 therapists she would not do the work to make it work as it should have. Sad but it is my story. Find another path than confronting. “If keeping dignity” does not quite get it, find another way as I did.

]]> By: Liza http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/12/jt-wants-to-confront-him-and-the-other-woman.html/comment-page-1#comment-19843 Liza Thu, 01 Jan 2009 23:47:13 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=680#comment-19843 It must be hard for her, knowing that he is touching annother woman and lying (by not coming clean)to her about it. And basically pretending things are normal. It must be hard for her, knowing that he is touching annother woman and lying (by not coming clean)to her about it. And basically pretending things are normal.

]]> By: Sagemother http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/12/jt-wants-to-confront-him-and-the-other-woman.html/comment-page-1#comment-19794 Sagemother Wed, 31 Dec 2008 17:12:25 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=680#comment-19794 Do you think confrontation can be instrumental in changing how the wayward spouse views the offended spouse? I could see where, in some circumstances, the shock that the offended spouse has actually discovered the infidelity would cause the cheater to rethink his disrespectful attitude. Could that be another reason for the confrontation? To let him know that you aren't stupid, regardless of what happens with the marriage in the end? Do you think confrontation can be instrumental in changing how the wayward spouse views the offended spouse?

I could see where, in some circumstances, the shock that the offended spouse has actually discovered the infidelity would cause the cheater to rethink his disrespectful attitude.

Could that be another reason for the confrontation? To let him know that you aren’t stupid, regardless of what happens with the marriage in the end?

]]> By: berlinlife06 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/12/jt-wants-to-confront-him-and-the-other-woman.html/comment-page-1#comment-19792 berlinlife06 Wed, 31 Dec 2008 15:06:02 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=680#comment-19792 I didn´t think of the divorce laws being different for every state... I guess that changes many things to consider. I didn´t think of the divorce laws being different for every state… I guess that changes many things to consider.

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