Comments on: Angry At Girlfriend Kissing Another Man

By: stav

stav — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 15:08:57 +0000

That’sa good point too.. If she was maybe drunk, and did something she later regretted, it is down to you to decide whether you can forgive her, and if she is genuinely remorseful.

Otherwise you should be calling the police.

By: justontime

justontime — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 10:58:23 +0000

I wonder if alcohol played a part in this? Did she get drunk and make a decision that she now regrets? As Stav said it is very hard to induce another adult to do something against their will unless force of some kind is used. If that is the case it is a crime.

By: stav

stav — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 02:46:42 +0000

I’m not sure i understand this..

‘he indced her and made her sleep with him’ That sounds like rape to me????

By: justontime

justontime — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 11:53:35 +0000

I have just read this again. I agree with my previous comment, your issue is with the girlfriend not the man. You need to ask yourself why she didn’t tell you. Is she afraid of you? If so that is not a good basis for a lasting relationship.

By: deltic

deltic — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 21:20:30 +0000

I wonder why he was angry with the man, surely it was the girlfriend who let him down (assuming there was an agreement to be exclusive).

By: Taggart

Taggart — Fri, 22 May 2009 12:19:17 +0000

There’s an interesting point made in a post above about the level of commitment. I got the impression that Kumar was understanding that there was a commitment.

I think it may be advisable to move on if he wants to, but I don’t think revenge is a good idea. I don’t think he can have piece of mind if he’s plotting a revenge.

By: poster25

poster25 — Tue, 19 May 2009 14:31:34 +0000

Katharina…..you are so right. I missed that. That really creeps me out.

That answers everything if this is his expectations of a relationship. But on the other hand, his girlfriend should have ended the relationship if she was not willing to live up to his creepy expectations. She should not have cheated on him.

Also, even if a relationship is not exclusive, the two people involved should not be lying to each other or cheating on one another. Communicate the parameters of the relationship.

Also, it appears that both people in this relationship have issues.

By: Katharina

Katharina — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 12:00:32 +0000

That “advice” you ended this with that said “Advice For Others: Keep your lover under your control. Don’t give too much of freedom” is really out of line, I feel.

We do not control other people or try to dominate over them. That’s just creepily wrong. She cheated on you and will do it again most likely if she did it once.

I suppose some people would say that trying to dominate her and “control” her might be one of the reasons why she strayed.

If she is your wife or fiancee, as others here have said, you’d have more of a right to be so indignant.

By: justontime

justontime — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 17:26:40 +0000

Deltic is right, and Sage Mother makes a good point too, if you expect your girlfriend to be exclusive what are you offering her in return?

By: deltic

deltic — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 21:15:24 +0000

Why are you angry with him? It was your girlfriend who cheated not him. Forget revenge, look at your relationship, do you trust her? why did it happen? does she care about you? You can’t “keep her under control” and you have no right to restrict her freedom. You can’t force her to love you!