Comments on: Messed Up By His Ex – Can Love Heal All The Hurt?

By: Tara Tulips

Tara Tulips — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 08:00:42 +0000

Aaa baggage,we all have it. My boyfriend of two years has a great philosphy but not everyone can share. Everyone deserves a clean slate. I couldn’t agree more. I ha some trust issues when we got together and he eventually told me. I love you but I won’t pay for his mistakes. I deserve a get a clean slate with you if you can’t get past it them I’m sorry.

I think you should step back a bit too.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 00:48:13 +0000

Debrajean, that is such a great insight.

Think about the kids too….. Do you really want them growing up with the same complex?

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 20:03:36 +0000

SageMother, six months definitely is not enough.

Artemis, if he hasn’t decided that he wants to be with you after a few months of being togheter then there is a bigger problem than what you are understanding. Some men like the control of emotional play. And, he’s not interested in getting serious. If he doesn’t want to be your boyfriend by now, then he’s really not into you.

By: chris1203

chris1203 — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 14:57:00 +0000

It sounds like he has not had enough time to mourn his previous relationship. I think that you should either back off slightly and give him some space or try to get him into counsling.

By: Taggart

Taggart — Sun, 31 May 2009 21:21:01 +0000

I think it’s really hard to say what kind of a road you’d be in for just from the description above – I mean relationships can be very complex. I’m sure many people could be healed by a caring partner, while others may have lingering issues that get in the way, even though they should be moving on.

Best of luck in your situation.

By: poster25

poster25 — Tue, 19 May 2009 14:06:40 +0000

It has only been 6 months. He still needs time to get over his ex girlfriend.

Unfortunately, she still has the control over their relationship. Because of his present feelings, it will be very easy for her to get him back if she changes her mind about their relationship. Be prepared for this possibility.

If there isn’t any chance of their reconciling, then he has to accept this and move on. Give him some time to realize this.

Be his friend. Do not rush him. When he is ready to move on, hopefully he will see that you were a great comfort and be ready to start a wonderful relationship with you.

By: deltic

deltic — Thu, 07 May 2009 23:28:29 +0000

I wonere why more people don’t take a bit of timeto get themselves together after a bad relationship before getting into anything else.

By: kernow

kernow — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 20:31:22 +0000

Maybe he really wasn’t ready for another relationship, or maybe he was scared of getting himself involved in another relationship. I think it would be a very slow process for him to feel ready for a serious relationship.

By: berlinlife06

berlinlife06 — Sat, 06 Dec 2008 01:20:32 +0000

Have you thought that maybe his former relationship is an excuse not to enter into a new one? Maybe he is not ready yet to get himself into something that might make him feel uncomfortable.

By: SageMother

SageMother — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 18:05:38 +0000

Liza, this is true. It isn’t easy, but I think that most people would find the exercise worthwhile, even if they never shared the information with anyone else.

Sometimes, it is revealing these things to others that is the most difficult part of the exercise.