Comments on: Honey, I’m Cheating On You

By: Taggart

Taggart — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 11:23:43 +0000

There are some excellent points in the article.

I think there’s also a tone that should be interpreted, because if we take it literally, when the writer refers to herself as a “gullible moron” at one point, I think that’s still a reaction that doesn’t reflect healthy self-esteem.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 03:06:10 +0000

SageMother, I think I would rather have friends that try to make me confront the truth, rather than friends that try to generalize why it is okay.

You know, there are some friends out there like that. Have you ever seen the movie “He’s just not into you”? It’s brutal how we try to keep the truth away from each other.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Sat, 06 Jun 2009 06:41:46 +0000

SageMother, I still think that love is a good foundation for marriage. However, couples don’t talk enough about their expectations before they get married. Having common goals and needs really does make a big difference in making that *love* last.

By: deltic

deltic — Thu, 16 Apr 2009 13:06:59 +0000

Sage mother, I take your point and I agree that marriage problems are not a spectator sport. I found it harder to understand your comment that there is nothing wrong with choosing to accept a lie, but having thought about it I can see that in circumstances you are right.

By: deltic

deltic — Thu, 16 Apr 2009 13:05:40 +0000

By: SageMother

SageMother — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 05:18:29 +0000

They may very well know what is going on, but they are not obligated to display this knowledge for others to see, or enjoy, as the case may be.

By: justontime

justontime — Sat, 22 Nov 2008 20:14:00 +0000

You are right it is their choice but they must know or at least suspect they are accepting a lie, I don’t think I could do that.

By: SageMother

SageMother — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 23:40:32 +0000

Well there’s nothing wrong with choosing to accept a lie.

What is horrible is when “well meaning” friends try to force the victim to confront their choice “for their own good”.

By: justontime

justontime — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 18:24:05 +0000

I think that is right, some partners choose to accept the lies. The truth can be incredibly painful, but it is not as bad as the constant doubt.

By: Liza

Liza — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 00:12:13 +0000

Some women choose to be lied to, there was a song sometime ago that went ‘tell me lie’, the truth was too painful, and they preferred to be comfortable.