Comments on: He’s Heartbroken – Can They Work It Out?

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 04:40:55 +0000

SageMother, I’m not really sure if most couples really do respect each other’s obligations.

This is where the emotional response comes in and it’s never rational at the heat of the moment. There are times I feel unappreciated because my husband decided to do something else that was important even for both of us.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 18:49:26 +0000

State of mind about settling down is really a very personal thing…. It goes right in there with personal goals.

When a person is not ready, he or she will not be ready. Sometimes forcing the issue can lead to a lot more hurt on your end.

Good luck and I hope it works out.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 21:30:44 +0000

Oma_Nam, how did things go? Did you have a chat with him?

By: Taggart

Taggart — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 12:00:46 +0000

I agree that you should do what you can to put your exams in high priority.

Obviously many people struggle with monogamy, and it can be especially tough for some people in their early twenties, which is not to say that failed relationships aren’t painful at any age.

I think she’s sincerely torn between her feelings for you and for a desire to not give up her former lifestyle just yet.

By: poster25

poster25 — Fri, 15 May 2009 16:11:37 +0000

Study and concentrate on your exams. You need your education for your future.

As far as your girlfriend, she needs her space. She is not happy. You have seen this and she even told you this. She doesn’t know what she wants at this point. But, don’t let her selfishness ruin your chances of having a great life.

You are only 21. Within a few months, you will look back and decide that it was not worth it.

By: kernow

kernow — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 08:22:41 +0000

I wonder how this turned out, clearly the girlfriend was feeling very low. I think it is significant that she confessed what had happened when she could easily have kept it hidden.

By: SageMother

SageMother — Sat, 29 Nov 2008 17:20:18 +0000

Something else to consider here.

Your placing your exams first and telling her the relationship issues will be dealt with once they are done, gives her the firm message that there will obligations to be fulfilled, regardless of your relationship status. She cannot insist you ignore these.

She can decide to leave the relationship if this isn’t satisfactory, but she cannot interfere with your obligations.

By: justontime

justontime — Sat, 29 Nov 2008 12:41:14 +0000

SageMother is right that you have to focus on the exams first. Doing that will also give hera chance to have a good think about what she wants. After the exams you need to have a serious talk with her and you need to listen to her reasons for being depressed and discontent recently. I think you will have to face the fact that she is not ready to settle down.

By: Liza

Liza — Fri, 28 Nov 2008 19:47:00 +0000

Just spend a few hours speaking with her and telling how you feel, let her know you are very disappointed in her actions. Study hard for the exams and I wish you all the best.

By: flowerhorn08

flowerhorn08 — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 03:22:47 +0000

It seems that you can let go for your girlfriend. By all means, go and see her and have a good talk with her.

If you don’t do this, you won’t be able to concentrate on your exams!