I hired a PI to find out everything about her. I literally know everything about her and haven’t stopped obsessing about her for four years now since the divorce,at first I just wanted a few details and maybe to write her a nasty letter telling her she’s scum . I was expecting her to be a disease ridden junkie by the side of the road living out of a motel or something but the more I followed her and learned all about her life I’ve become angrier and more obsessed. She’s now a late thirties pretty redhead with big green eyes and a beautiful smile.She no longer does that and is a bartender nights,an actress and does some writing now. I have followed her to auditions,work,sat at the bar and had conversations with her,looked into her windows,she’s finishing up college for her BFA degree and I even followed her to her school a few times. I can’t stop,I actually sat at her bar she worked at I actually sat there and talked to her about regular stuff for an hour and she actually has a facebook page and I’ve tried to send her an invite but hasn’t accepted. I even found her on line blog and read it daily about her life,she has a cat she loves and adores and lately I’ve had horrible thoughts of poising it, killing it or doing something destructive to her to really hurt her.She even has a mother that she’s close to and friends who she does social things with.How could she just have a normal life and have done something so evil as prostitution? This doesn’t make sense she can have a regualr life. Does she know what pain she has caused me? I even fantasized about going into her class room and telling her entire class she use to be a whore four years ago.I want to destroy her. I’m scarring myself with my dark thoughts. The worst was when I went to her worked and posed a bar bar patron.I was so shocked that she was very friendly,effervecent and sweet joking and laughing with me. This is so disturbing to me because I do not want to see her like this as a human being. I wanted her to be a bionic subhuman homewreking scum with no family or life so it would be easier for me to destroy her life and soul. Does this woman walking around with family and friends who care about her know she destroyed my marriage. I get physcially sick knowing she had sex with my husband for money. I have had mixed thoughts after I walked out of the bar I was so enraged she is so happy and moved on that I thought about taking a tire iron and smashing her face in how dare she smiles to me, would she even dare if she knew who I was?The rage has been scary is this normal for me to hate her like this? Two weeks ago I thought of having a friend pose as a “former john” and offer her several thousand dollars. He would get her in a hotel room and I would walk in and reveal myself an and tell her what I thought of her.Would this be a good idea? I would have a friend there so I don’t hurt her or scratch her eyes out. He told me I was a nuts and needed to get a grip and that I should have taken this kind of anger out on my ex husband not her.He also said if I didn’t leave her alone he would tell the police for the ex hookers protection. I suppose this sounds a bit crazy but I have to confront her and try to move on. How can I make her pay equal to what she has done to me without getting in trouble or scarring her for life. The other side of me actually likes her and thinks she’s a sweet person after talking to her for an hour at the bar. She’s like a regular person like me.The other part of me see’s she made an effort to get he her life on track and she’s trying in life despite having ruined marriages in the past and I’ve made it worse by seeing her because I can only imagine my husband falling for her beauty and personality. I’m so conflicted about her. How should I confront her can anyone help? and from that point how do I move on? How would you wives or girlfriends make her pay?

Only time he may change is if he is wearing trainers, but he rarely does. Hmmm.. i better watch out for him buying Nike Air trainers as well then..

My hubby bought himself a large number of pairs of new socks recently..

And, we all have the option to walk away because we shouldn’t take abuse from our partners – emotional or physical.

Just because you can’t see the bruises doesn’t mean that there aren’t long term effects.

Sure a lot of women might stay for financial reasons but there are also a lot of women who are much more stronger than that and have a good group of supporters.