The Sexless Marriage
Sometimes this can be cured with a change in your relationship and how you communicate and approach sex that can bring out the primal instincts in men and women. Try the following to try to ignite some passion:
* If you are a man try to remember women take a lot longer than males to get aroused and if they are not in the right emotional state of mind it will not happen at all. Try being a romantic with baths, massages, candles, and a nice cooked meal. Make then feel like a princess for a night and it can stir the fires of passion once more.
* If you are a woman remember men like to feel like kings when it comes to sex. While men are lampooned as simple when it comes to sex their emotive state is very important if their sex drives seems to have gone out, make sure they know they are masculine to you and powerful. Praise them and make them feel appreciated for their hard work in life and the bedroom and you can start their testosterone pumping again.
* If this sounds all to familiar and has not worked for you before the problem may be a lot deeper and a lower sex drive may not cured by simple gestures and words, instead the lack of physical intimacy in marriage may be caused by some emotional or psychological problem that you may not even know about. In this case a level of sensitivity, compassion and communication is needed to discover and fix this underlying problem.
* With either of the above methods there is one thing you must never do lest it make situations worse and that is trying to force the issue, becoming angry and aggressive or petulant and sulky will simply make communication impossible and make damage things further so that you will close off the possibility of reconciliation and a resolutions to a sexless relationship.
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Yep, it is very easy to get into a sexless marriage life after you have been married for a long time. I mean everything looks and feels so common; there are simply no new discoveries to be made with your partners! Hmmm, perhaps these sexy lingeries will do the tricks!
I think it is more likely to happen when children come along. At first pain and exhaustion are a factor, then you can never have time without interruption and before you know it you are in a rut.
My husband and I have had little to no sex life for the past couple of years. I think the longer you’re married the less you want to with that same person.
I think that, as we age, physical intimacy becomes less important.
It is the life built together that brings meaning. The truest “intimacy” is that which develops between people outside of the bedroom. The trust and common history brings comfort that isn’t possible when the physical aspect of a relationship is its overriding drive.
I think persons lose an interest in sex when they have been married because they start taking each other for granted.
I have a friend who lost interest in sex when viagara hit the market.
Her resentment that something similar for women should have been brought to market at the same time as viagara. That resentment has had a bad affect on how she views sex, now, because the implications of her husband’s having viagara insults her sensibilities.
I wonder if other women have experienced this yet?
That’s just sad, I don’t know how much a kind of ‘viagra’ will help most women since women are turned on differently from men and a lot of it has to do with how she feels about the person.
Chris, I think when you are together for a while, the woman doing most of the house chores, not getting a chance to really relax and recuperate and feel sexy again. That causes a loss of interest, because when you are really tired, the last thing you want to do is ‘work’ again.
Speaking personally I resented my husband being unwilling to take responsibility for birth control when our family was complete and it did impact on our sex life. I felt I had done my bit and I didnt want to shove more chemicals into my body. The ’snip’ was the best thing that ever happened to us and he wishes he had done it sooner.
“That’s just sad, I don’t know how much a kind of ‘viagra’ will help most women since women are turned on differently from men and a lot of it has to do with how she feels about the person.”
Viagara facilitates blood flow. It is a vasodilator and with that dilation come physical arousal. They go hand in hand for men AND women. It addresses the physical, not romance.
Something like this would work for women as it draw attention to the nerves in the genital region, which is what it does for men.
Sagemother, what are you saying? Are you implying that women can also take Viagra? If that is indeed what you meant, then I think it will hit the headline!
Since it is a vasodilator, there should be at least some women it would work for.
Take a look at this article from 2004:
http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/news/20040107/viagra-improves-sex-for-some-women
or….try a search using “women taking Viagra.
I DOES work for some women, just as it works for some men, as Viagra doesn’t work for all men.
Funny that it isn’t marketed to women, when you read some of the studies!
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