Comments on: How To Makeup After Lovers Fight

By: berlinlife06

berlinlife06 — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 00:26:53 +0000

For me the rule is not get into bed mad with your partner. Solve things that are not clear, talk about it. It is not worth to have a fight unresolved.

By: chris1203

chris1203 — Sun, 19 Oct 2008 20:10:26 +0000

Very good advice. It is so hard for me to apologize after a fight with my husband, even when I know it is my fault.

By: Green-Moo

Green-Moo — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 12:04:51 +0000

Most of the ‘fights’ I have with my partner are due to the fact that we’re tired / stressed at the time. If we were feeling up to par when the situation occurred the fight would probably be dealt with more sensibly and just be a ‘disagreement’.

By: justontime

justontime — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 11:18:40 +0000

I’m not sure I agree, I would say that no fighting (I prefer the term disagreement rather than fighting) indicates a lack of communication. Communication is vital to a healthy relationship.

By: flowerhorn08

flowerhorn08 — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 02:47:58 +0000

Liza, I fully agree with you that fighting is better than no fighting at all as I don’t believe a relationship can be such a smooth sailing journey. No fighting also indicates that one or both partners have given up hope in patching up the relationship.

By: Liza

Liza — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 03:10:47 +0000

“And any way, fighting sometimes can be healthy than not fighting at all.”

I think about this and I realize it’s so true, there are persons who are suffering quietly because they want no part of the cursing and fighting. So they are afraid to disagree.

By: Justontime

Justontime — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 15:03:36 +0000

Sage Mother, thank you, you put that so clearly and you certainly made me think. I would say that most of our arguments are disagreements rather than fights.

By: Liza

Liza — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 02:47:14 +0000

Thanks for clearing that up SageMother. I understand and agree with you. I can safely say I have had both. lol

By: SageMother

SageMother — Sun, 07 Sep 2008 20:27:31 +0000

Liza,
There is a HUGE difference between disagreeing and fighting. A disagreement can usually be handled with respect for the other person’s right to sovereignty. There is no drive to convince one that he other is right.

Fights are that drive to be right, and to have the one person see the error of their sovereignty, leaving it behind to agree with the loudest voice or the most manipulative set of words.

A fight is a personal struggle to win. A disagreement is a civil discussion that adds balance and greater understanding.

By: Justontime

Justontime — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 19:20:33 +0000

We argue fairly often, If I have something to say, I don’t brood on it, I have my say but then it’s finished, I don’t hold grudges. My husband is the same. It works for us – and making up can be fun!