Comments on: After the Affair – Marriage Rebuilding

By: justontime

justontime — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 10:41:33 +0000

I think saying sorry is the start of a long process. Showing that you are sorry requires a change in behaviour that in time will hopefully enable a degree of trust to be established.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 00:11:18 +0000

Liza, lol… And some people have pretty long antennaes…. I don’t think the mistrust will ever go away… the antennaes just get shorter in time.

By: kernow

kernow — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 12:17:19 +0000

I think with time and commitment from both partners a betrayal can be overcome. But it takes time and effort to rebuild trust.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 09:33:00 +0000

berlin06, that’s a very good way of seeing reconciliation. We can’t live for the past and you just need to move forward with today.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 00:55:46 +0000

Liza, time can heal all the pain. It’s just a matter of whether we want to give a cheater a second chance to do right.

By: SageMother

SageMother — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 08:15:45 +0000

While I understand what you are saying, Diva, there are those women who would derive some satisfaction from creating new rules, even if it didn’t solve the underlying problem.

It might not be ideal, but sometimes it is that temporary satisfaction that allows someone to let go of a relationship that isn’t working.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 07:16:44 +0000

SageMother, that’s just it… would making new rules to the advantage of the person who has been wronged heal the sadness? I don’t think so, I think it will just create more bitterness in a relationship.

Whether we like it or not, for most part, when cheating happens, there is a cause and an effect. Cheating might be the effect, so we need to see in an individual instance what was the cause in order to heal.

By: justontime

justontime — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 17:06:16 +0000

I think there are a few women who are so angry and hurt when thy find out that they feel quite capable of action drastic enough to put a more lasting stop to such things.

By: SageMother

SageMother — Sun, 07 Dec 2008 18:54:00 +0000

Well, justontime, I think some women need an outward signal that a cheating spouse can’t perform the act again.

A chastity device, with the wife having the key, would definitely slow down any physical infidelities!

By: justontime

justontime — Sat, 06 Dec 2008 13:00:31 +0000

Sage what an interesting thought, you have my imagination working overtime – chastity devices for men!