Love is a big temptation which has brought great men down. I wonder why they told me that i give love a bad name when all it does is lead people to commit sins. If you are good at public relations, you will be more likely meet with singles and married people in your daily activities. Attraction is natural but many people confuse it for something as strong as love. Every idea comes from the mind and so if you perceive it to be love you will definitely develop an infatuation. These are some of the things which are the so called love relationships. Some are extra marital affairs and others unwanted relationships. Love is so annoying because once you have the perception that you are in love you are prone to very queer behavior.
The extramarital affairs affect the marriage in a great way. The wife gets hurt and the children usually feel the decrease in care and attention. Unwanted love relationships breed a lot of bad things. They encourage divorce and result into unwanted pregnancies all these in the name of love. Nobody should say that i give love a bad name because everything is judged by its fruits. The repercussions of love are bad and they beat every advice or knowledge. People who engage with public relations are usually beaten by love bugs when it is least expected. A teenager that was restricted to only the home compound faces problems when she faces the world. For instance a relationship between a bus conductor and an intelligent girl is quite abnormal but they call it love.
Most players in the love field win the hearts of many. If love was logical and genuine someone should be able to identify a player and desist from being cheated. A teenage girl is soon jilted by the conductor because he was a player. They usually prey on the innocence of the girls. There is lot of fooling in the love field. Even the highly achieving professional people are fooled by love. I do not love to give love a bad name but i sincerely think that love is an instrument that many use to achieve their malicious goals. Con men and women have even picked it as a tool to rob people off their belongings. It is not bad to believe in love but be very careful when indulging in love relationships during your public relations.
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First of all, what many people call love is really no love at all, it’s just lust. Secondly, it’s to love and lose than not love at all.
The word love is often used to describe lesser feelings such as lust or desire and it is used to excuse behaviour that can not be justified. Love is a strong emotion but if someone genuinely loves you they will put your needs first and they will not take advantage of you or betray you. Personally I believe some people are incapable of loving anyone
People must be able to understand and recognise the difference between love, lust, infatuation, and desire,or they will keep hurting themselves.
Even though it is different, there is really a thin line between them all. When someone truly loves another then they want to more much more than they receive.
“Love” is a verb. It is what you DO.
If people could stop seeing it a s a feeling and more like an “occupation” the chances that one would dishonor their spouse would be greatly decreased.
The first thought would be “if I do this, am I loving my spouse?”, and remove most of that tendency to lump all those other feelings of lust, boredom, and what have you, from the equation.
Is that affair part of the job description associated with love?
Like the old saying goes…there is truly a thin line between love and hate. I think, because we invest so much into our love partner, we are terribly hurt when things go bad.
Liza, that’s really great insight.
Most people confuse lust with love and then there are some that take advantage of people who can’t see quite clearly as to what the differences are between the two.
justontime, I just think love is really becoming a generational concept.
For example, I think today’s society breeds selfishness and it’s always about what you can get for yourself. It’s hard to even think about putting someone else’s needs first. We seriously have issues.
mollyL, it’s confusing though isn’t it? It’s so hard to keep these separate.
Liza, why can’t we all just be content? We always want more than our partner can give us.
I think many people are content, but they just get on with their lives and they don’t make headlines, so we only become aware of the ones who are hurt or behaving badly.
Imaginary Diva said “I just think love is really becoming a generational concept.
For example, I think today’s society breeds selfishness and it’s always about what you can get for yourself. It’s hard to even think about putting someone else’s needs first. We seriously have issues.”
People have been desparing about the selfishness and bad behaviour of the younger generation since the time of the ancient Greeks. The majority of people still care about others and consider their needs, it is just that the badly behaved people get noticed. I think perhaps people are more open about bad behaviour these days. It has always happened, but in the past it was hidden.
The media play up bad behaviour as it makes for better headlines. I’m sure there are just as many bad behavioured people as there ever were, they are just better documented.
“Liza, why can’t we all just be content? We always want more than our partner can give us.”
I think being content is a better goal than seeking happiness, which an extreme that cannot be fueled forever.
The need to be “happy” denies the value of having a partner that you are comfortable with, work well with, and is committed to the relationship.
Marriages aren’t intended to have the same energy as amusement parks and flings, yet people seem to want that sort of stimulus in their long term relationships.
Expecting something that is so unnatural is a cruelty that most people never notice.
As I said in another post that many enter marriage without a clue as to what it will take.
For a lot of people, it’s all about how the person makes them feel, how they look, etc. It takes a mature person to use love as an action word.
Liza, I think many people get so tied up in planning the fairytale wedding and all the fuss that goes with it that they don’t look beyond the big day to the reality of marriage.
I know that many feel our society breeds selfishness, but I feel that selfishness was even greater when divorces were almost impossible for women to get, but men could get them at the drop of a hat.
What we are seeing is a shift in paradigm where one segment of society is no longer forced to marry, and then remain married to someone who treats them poorly, to have food, housing, and clothing.
All evolution has its messy phases.
SageMother you are right about that. But don’t you think that people seem to give up so easily on marriage sometimes. Nobody expects someone to tolerate being bullied or harmed in marriage, but I really don’t think some people understand about compromise and give and take. They just storm off when they encounter problems.
I think this is too generic. Giving love a bad name depends on the circumstances. Besides, when someone loves, they know how they feel and for them is the deepest sentiment that moves them to do “whatever” they feel for it. Not an easy thing to judge.
berlinlife I think you are right, motivation is a very personal thing and it is very hard to judge.