Comments on: This Can\’t Be Happening To Me!

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 07:55:17 +0000

flowerhorn08, it’s not only attittude. I think understanding and listening are two components of a successful relationship.

I must admit that there have been times when I’ve “sort of” listen to what my husband says. And, this is where it all sometimes starts.

By: deltic

deltic — Tue, 05 May 2009 20:10:19 +0000

I think it is a pity that some peope don’t really give enough thought to what is involved before they get married.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Thu, 30 Apr 2009 00:33:28 +0000

justontime, you are right. There is really no excuse for cheating. Marriage is for better or for worse. People should be thinking twice about making the problems worse.

By: justontime

justontime — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 21:05:07 +0000

Well put Deltic, it is hard to face up to that, but if you don’t you will just have more heartache ahead of you.

By: deltic

deltic — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 21:02:07 +0000

A cheater who is still not accepting the responsibility for his/her decisions is not mentally ready to work at saving their relationship. You have to accept that it is a lost cause.

By: kernow

kernow — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 20:48:16 +0000

Liza you are right about the cheater justifying their behaviour by blaming the other spouse. The way I see it there is no excuse, if there are issues in the relationship the right thing to do is to address them with the other partner rather than looking elsewhere.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 19:35:46 +0000

Liza, it’s a total abuse of your trust. I think though, the sooner you accept, the sooner you can move forward to either forgive or forget.

The sad thing about it is even if they get back together, that memory will never ever be forgotten.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 23:56:46 +0000

mollyL, isn’t that just a big dilemma – communicating better.

I’ve discovered that in some instances, some relationships just can’t be helped by communication because each part of the “we” are too different from each other that it’s hard to find a common ground.

By: flowerhorn08

flowerhorn08 — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 03:34:38 +0000

It is just in one attitude. If we are responsible and understand the consequence of our unfaithfulness, unfaithfulness and divorce will never get in the picture.

Please don’t ever blame your partner if it ever get into such a stage especially when you are the one who is unfaithful!

By: justontime

justontime — Sat, 11 Oct 2008 13:22:08 +0000

It is that person’s fault that they were unfaithful, because they made that decision. However it is likely that there were unresolved issues within the relationship before the cheating happened. That does not in any way excuse the person who was unfaithful.