If you’re one of the many psychologists churning out relationships books today, you’ll want to steer clear of marriage maestro Tim Kellis.
Kellis, an author himself and a radio talk show host, might just tell you where to get off. He feels strongly that too many psychologists are clueless about helping couples stay married. In fact, he believes they’re contributing to the divorce debacle.
Our culture of divorce is spiraling out of control like the price of fuel at the pump, he laments. A whole divorce industry has sprung up
cheering couples on to disengage and go their separate merry ways, but divorce is far from a “happy ending.”
“This tragic trend can easily reverse if couples would follow my advice,” says Kellis, a one-time Wall Street analyst who brings his
analytical skills and common sense mindset to what has become his crusade to save marriage.
Far from helping to bring down the 50% divorce rate, psychologist authors led by charming pied pipers like Dr. Phil may be actually
exacerbating it, charges Kellis, who reveals in media interviews that he has solved the marriage crisis.
How to keep couples together is an objective he has studied, researched and modeled on the brilliant insights of psychologist Carl Jung, the one-time heir apparent of Sigmund Freud.
In his new book, Equality: The Quest for the Happy Marriage, and as co-host of the “Men on Marriage” radio show, Kellis presents radically new, but remarkably simple solutions to end the cycle of divorce and achieve long lasting happiness and personal fulfillment in marriage.
At http://www.happyrelationships.com see Tim’s most recent interview on ABC in West Palm Beach and listen to his interviews on “A Balanced Life with Beth Aldrich” on KRWM in Seattle and on “SoundAuthors.com,” Tim is starting to get heard!
Kellis takes readers on a journey through history to not only help them discover more about themselves, but he teaches new ways to build and keep a happy, healthy, harmonious, affectionate and intimate marriage.
Equality examines what factors turn marriage negative, such as arguments or “the manner in which couples address inevitable conflicts. Positive relationships address them as ‘disagreements’ while negative relationships address them as ‘arguments’.”
Contact Kim Morgan at (561) 750-9800 x233 or kmorgan@transmediagroup.com
It makes me sick to see Dr Phil and other “experts” having at people who never should have gotten married. Shows like “Bridezilla” seem to condone a marriage that is fraught with problems and huge incompatibility, but hey, they’re going to have a big expensive wedding where they will get to push cake in each other’s face. Then if things go wrong and Dr Phil can’t figure out how to help them, there is “Divorce Court”!
It just goes to show how much our morals have decreased in an attempt to free people from the chains “compromising” and working out things without even considering divorce.
Well….
I have never felt morals were at issue when it came to living on one’s own terms. Life is short. If relationships are too painful then the greatest love you can show is ending that pain for yourself and your spouse.
In part I agree with SageMother. I don’t think anyone should be expected to stay in a truely unhappy marriage. Having said that, divorce should be a last resort after trying to find a way to make things work. Perhaps if people took more time to get to know each other and to undersand the hopes and needs of the other person, before embarking on marriage, they may have a better chance of making it work.
mollyL, there never seems to an end to all the “marriage solutions” out there, isn’t it?
Gone were the times when couples really did work on making their marriage last. With so many unsolicited advice at the change of the tv channel, no wonder our society is in such a rut!
Liza, should you “stay” or should you “go” will always be an issue in every relationship.
I believe in working things out and making the best out of a situation. However, there are just some lines that shouldn’t be crossed…. and you guessed right, I have no tolerance for men who will not respect me enough to be monogamous.
We all need to listen to what where our boundaries are, instead of what these other “love” gurus say that we should do.
SageMother, LOL! In this case, he is better off without her. So, eventhough I don’t agree with how it came out…. but at least, he’s free to move and find someone else who will love him the same.
justontime, marriage is a very big step and people should take the time to know their partners before making this committment. This takes years and even then, you still might not really know your partner as well as you should.
However, I do agree with the author of this article. We are now a society of convenience and we don’t try to work with what we have instead of looking to see what else is across the fence. Therapists nowadays are taking the easy way out in order to make that extra buck. Granted, nobody should be stuck in an unhappy marriage, but that is such a broad spectrum as to why they are unhappy. Most just really comes down to “it’s me, not you”.
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