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33 Responses to “Should Women Stand By Cheaters?”

  1. Calypso Says:

    Every time I see Silda Spitzer’s face in that video I feel so bad for her. She looks like someone who’s just suffered a mortal injury but hasn’t fallen over yet.

  2. Liza Says:

    Women who do that do it for different reasons. Chances are they are having extramarital affairs too so it’s really no big deal. As long as the money and status is there they are fine.

  3. Calypso Says:

    Money and status wouldn’t be nearly enough for me to go through a press conference like that. Even if I ultimately decided to stay with that person, I’m afraid they’d have to face the media alone!

  4. SageMother Says:

    At least we have a chance to think about our limits, and the possibilities, before we are faced with a public revelation!

    Perhaps Mrs. Spitzer had run this scenario through her mind over the years, and was mentally prepared for the event.

  5. tater03 Says:

    I totally agree that deciding to stay with someone when they cheat is really a personal choice and I give them credit. But I in no way could ever see myself standing beside my cheating husband at a press conference.

  6. Liza Says:

    It has to be a painful and embarassing experience, even if the woman is doing the same thing. She is a strong one I must say.

  7. Imaginary Diva Says:

    Calypso, I do too. I’d surely develop a complex if I found out my hubby has been keeping house with that other woman half her age.

  8. mollyL Says:

    I agree with Calypso’s apt description as well. Not only do I not understand Mrs Spritzer’s attendance at that press conference, I don’t understand Spritzer allowing her that extra humiliation. If he asked her to go, he’s even more of a bastard than I thought he was.

  9. Liza Says:

    I personally would NOT be doing standing by him, chances are I wouldn’t even be in attendance of the press conference. I have had acquaintances though who would go through anything just to achieve their goals.

  10. Calypso Says:

    Yeah, I think I would have to say, “You got yourself into this alone, now get yourself out alone!”

  11. Liza Says:

    I don’t know what is really achieved in the public’s eye when the wife decides to stand by the husband.

  12. Calypso Says:

    I think in political situations it’s meant to subtly convey that if his wife forgives him and stands by him, surely the public can do the same. Usually press conferences like that are a last-ditch attempt to salvage what’s left of one’s career.

  13. SageMother Says:

    Remember the Kobe Bryant rape case?

    He, too, held a news conference. His wife was sitting next to him with this HUGE, new diamond ring on her hand.

    Wives married to cheating public figures usually see a pay off that the rest of use wouldn’t have available to us!

    LOL

  14. Imaginary Diva Says:

    Liza, you could be right about that!

    I just can imagine that this is the real reality behind the scenes.

  15. tater03 Says:

    Man I just don’t think I could do that even if there was a big payoff but then again I am not in a situation where I am in the public eye.

  16. Imaginary Diva Says:

    Calypso, mmmm…. on the other hand, female actresses have no problem leaving their cheating mates to the wolves.

    :)

  17. Imaginary Diva Says:

    SageMother, or…. perhaps maybe this is not the first time he’s been caught cheating on her. Just because this is the first time that he’s been publicly brought to the stands, doesn’t mean that Mrs. Spitzer hasn’t had to put up with this.

  18. Imaginary Diva Says:

    Tater03, I guess they have to show that united front for their constituents.

  19. SageMother Says:

    So true, Diva.

    Taking age into account, they have probably had other indiscretions that we have never heard about.

  20. Imaginary Diva Says:

    Liza, politician wives are not usually cut from the same cloth as us ordinary women. It’s like as if they are stuck back in the medieval times and walking away is not an option.

  21. Imaginary Diva Says:

    mollyL, for all we know, she might have offered to stand by her man.

  22. Imaginary Diva Says:

    Liza, I would also make sure that he doesn’t hear the end of it if I decided to stay with him. I am not one of those girls that can just move and forget that he cheated on me.

  23. Imaginary Diva Says:

    Calypso, LOL! The press will have a field day on that one! Good thing you are not a wife of cheating politican!

  24. Imaginary Diva Says:

    Liza, I really do think that they’re constituents expect it and probably hoping for a way for the masses to forgive if the missus does.

  25. Imaginary Diva Says:

    Calypso, exactly.

  26. Imaginary Diva Says:

    SageMother, well, a big diamond like that really certainly can forgive a multitude of sins.

    :)

  27. Calypso Says:

    All I can say is that it would have to be one huge diamond. Or heck, why stop at one? How about three or four huge diamonds, and a new car, and a new…well, you get the idea! :)

  28. Liza Says:

    Imaginary Diva…I see your point. I wonder how much they could ever pay me to do that? It’s not worth it?

  29. Imaginary Diva Says:

    SageMother, if we can only be a fly on the wall in some of these households!

  30. SageMother Says:

    I don’t think a huge diamond would do it for me. I want stock options, royalties, full ownership of one of the vacation homes…..it’s the little things that make live grand.

  31. Imaginary Diva Says:

    Calypso, an AMEX card with no monthly spending limit????

  32. Imaginary Diva Says:

    Liza, LOL!

    I still would settle for an AMEX card with no spending limit…..

    :)

  33. Imaginary Diva Says:

    SageMother, LOL!

    That would do it for me also.

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