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What an interesting video clip, and I couldn’t agree more with what Sally and Sari were saying. I’m sick of seeing the wives of politicians stick by them “no matter what.” It would be good to see a woman stand up and say, “You know what, this isn’t acceptable. And I’m outta here.”
And what makes it “OK” when they do it? Anyone else is the lowest scum of the earth!
Leaders do not generally behave the way those who follow them do. Otherwise they wouldn’t be leaders.
The little spark of greed that primes the politician’s desire to have influence over more than their own household, doesn’t turn off when they are dealing with choices in their personal lives.
Their wives have no intention of loosing the life they are accustomed to, over a fling. Standing by a cheating husband who is a leader is a statement of something beyond support. It is a statement that “I am still here and I own the marriage”. It is as territorial as it is a statement of victory over the “competition”!
I don’t think politicians wives are any different to anyone elses wives. There are some that stand by their man, and some who turf him out on his tail. But if a politician’s wife decides to forgive and forget then it’s only natural that she’ll make a statement to that effect -it’s part of the package when you become a politician’s wife.
I’m trying to imagine a position in my life where I would stand beside someone who hurt and humiliated me and even make a statement on their behalf. Nothing’s coming to mind right now…
Calypso, can you tell it’s a one sided relationship? It’s all about the political office and god help us all if we lose the priviledge of being one of america’s adored!
Hillary Clinton stood by her man and maybe that does not set a good example for the other politician wives out there. We are all human and we all can sin just like the next person beside us. We all make our own choices and if they decide that the political cabinet is more important, then they made their own bed and they can sleep in misery.
Somewhere in all the commentary about Spitzer’s and Clinton’s affairs, I remember one journalist saying that now we needed an example of the reverse: a woman expressing “remorse” for cheating (or at least for being caught) while her husband stands staunchly beside her holding her hand. Am I alone in thinking that’s not gonna happen?
AS women gain more positions of power, we will probably see women apologizing for affairs, assuming it is deemed important they do so.
I think it is high time that personal lives of politicians be left private.
Trick-r-treat, double standards…..
I’m all for the private lives of politicians being private as long as they allow my life and my choices to be private as well. It’s when they moralize and condemn and then turn around and do something stupid like have an affair that I don’t mind seeing them get embarrassed. I also have no problem with “outing” closeted gay public officials who spout homophobia.
I think that if you had chosen to stand by your politician partner after he’d cheated, you’d probably accept that being a ‘political wife’ was a part of the package. I can’t imagine that it’s easy.
SageMother, also cheating politicians will never go for the other woman because they will lose their priviledged lifestyle.
As is, I am glad that politicians have been forced over to resign over these scandals.
Green-Moo, I guess the main difference between a woman with a politician husband that cheats on her vs. some ordinary man, is the fact that more people know that she’s been cheated on.
Calypso, LOL! I would never either!
Green-Moo, you’re probably right that political wives have made the commitment to stand by their spouse no matter what. But I think it would be very hard to forgive someone who publicly humiliated me that way. They’d have to do some pretty fast talking and heavy duty repenting!
I agree, Calypso.
Politicians that use fear to get where they are, shouldn’t be allowed to keep their transgressions secret.
With the outings of the “holier than thou”, this may change, eventually, and politicians will start dealing with issues that concern a civil society, and not religious dogma.
Calypso, I for one would like to see that happen!
However, these politician wives…. they are a breed unto their own.
I never said it would be easy to stand up and publicly forgive someone who caused so much pain! i think i would find it hard to do as well.
The thing is, the wife’s standing by her man in public shouldn’t be taken as her having forgiven him. Who knows what she does to him when they are alone?
What might you be doing, in private, if you were the wronged wife?
LOL!
SageMother, LOL! I’d really like to see the tables turned and have Hillary Clinton apologizing to Bill why she cheated on him.
Wouldn’t you?
Calypso, oh how the righteous have fallen.
Green-Moo, I don’t think being a politician’s wife is easy at all. Cheating could just be one of the many problems that she has to encounter to keep her family together.
SageMother, that’s true, we don’t know what she’s saying or doing to him in private. Personally, I hope she’s ripping him a new one.
SageMother, I’d certainly be laying some ground rules for the future! I might be able to swallow my pride once and support him once, but noone had better start thinking that it could become a habit.
Calypso, would you consider a public apology as enough repenting? I think it’s an insincere way to say I am sorry since that is being done to passify the media and no one else.
SageMother, why is it always the holier than thou politicians are the ones who fall from grace the hardest?
Most of the public apologies that I’ve heard sound much more like “sorry I got caught” rather than “sorry I did it and hurt you.” I think some private, sincere apologizing would definitely be called for in addition to anything he had to say to get himself out of trouble in the public eye.
Green-Moo, I think if we were really faced with this position and not looking in at it…. I am sure we would really be surprised with what we will and won’t do for the man we love.
I would actually think a public apology that sounded genuine would mean a lot, particularly coming from a men who isn’t given to admitting weakness or wrong doing.
SageMother, LOL!
Those thai reconstruction surgeons must be making their money from someone …..
Calypso, and hopefully a video will reach youtube?
Calypso, some of these men really are truly sorry it happened.
But no matter how sincere they are for doing wrong, it just can’t make the hurt go away. I wonder how the wives deal with it.
Green-Moo, public apologies generally work for the masses that is why they are made for most part.
And also, the hope maybe that they will be forgiven and get to keep their political jobs at the same time.
I personally think that politicians are just human like you and I. They will make the same mistakes that we do, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that they can’t do the job to the best of their abilities. It’s just unfortunate that their personal lives cloud the perception of their professional abilities.
What do you think?
Janice, they deal with it just like we do. We just don’t make a habit of making these types of problem public for everyone to cast their votes on.
I think it does influence the way they fulfil their public role. Lying and cheating in their private life does not give us a reason to trust them. And while they are distracted with all their ‘goings on’ they are not giving their full attention to their work.
That makes sense Kernow and it indicates an arrogance and selfishness, thir work will come second to their own needs.
I would certainly think twice before giving them my vote, because they would have lost my trust.
Kernow, you are so true. If you can’t be honest with the woman that you lie down next to every night, then why should I trust you or believe anything that comes out of your mouth?
I agree that politician’s wives are not unique for sticking by their cheating husbands. You don’t hear much about the everyday women that do the same for various reasons.