Comments on: My Husband Cheated and Fathered a Child with the OW http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html Real Cheating and Infidelity - Stories and Advice Thu, 26 Aug 2010 20:54:23 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: jennifer novakovic http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html/comment-page-1#comment-158213 jennifer novakovic Sun, 25 Oct 2009 04:55:10 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html#comment-158213 Dear Narisha, i resent the fact that you are addressing all of us a morons, i am not one, you no nothing of my life or even what it feels like to be hurt and betrayed that way , i was and still am a good loving an loyal wife to a man ive done nothing but do everything for and have sacrifised everything for him,my husband did what he did because he was a coward and a loser he couldnt deal with life, his excuses were a midlife crisis and the fact that he couldnt deal or stand by his wife of 26 yrs who was battling a life threatening illness, he went of to get laid while i had to raise our two children alone and fight for my life while batteling severe illnesses,we were always happy and never were unhappy , he just looked for an escape rather than be supportive and honor his vows .he forgot about in sickness and in healt part.he not only destroyed mine and my childrens lives but he destroyed his familys to,he blew off his kids to great dad he is.i will tell you this the other women in my case is a coniving bitch who does everything she can to hurt me and my children, she knew from day one that he was married and knew he was not gonna leave his wife she lied and said she couldnt get pregant and did any way mind you she has 3 other kids so she not infertile as she claimed,she has done nothing but harrass me and my kids with cruel emails and phone calls telling me all about there sexual exploits, plus she lies and tells me stories that i dont know my husband and that he still wants her and plans onleaving me and the kids mind you we are stronger nad better than ever so she lied and she lost but she doesent get the message,.also she uses her own 4 yr old to tell stories of there affair to my kids so they tell me so you see what a great mom she is i would never use any child in that way. i will tell you ryan who is the other child is well treated and well loved and he adores me i treat him with all the love and respect just the same as i do my own,i believe he belongs with his mom because he after all is a victim just as much as we are, he an innocent in all this and my heart breaks for him when he will learn the truth . he will be destroyed just as my kids were but the diference is i would help him thorugh it and not use him to hurt his own siblings or step mom. so this is to let you know my marriage was good and solid he was just a coward and ran when his wife got ill and and he couldnt deal with getting older to bad for him we all deal with stuff the diffrence between me and him is that i stood by hima nd will always be there for him and my children and even be there for my step son ryan i am more of a man than he wil ever be i will let you know wr are working through it and are stronger than ever she and no other women will ever come between our marriage again, i forgave him half way it will take me time he still had alot of work to do to be a better dad and hubby and make up for all the pain and suffering he caused but we will give him time and support him so please understand it from a women who has walked a mile in ,my shoes,i will agree the child should stay with his mom one no matter how much of a bitch she is deserves to lose her child , jen Dear Narisha, i resent the fact that you are addressing all of us a morons, i am not one, you no nothing of my life or even what it feels like to be hurt and betrayed that way , i was and still am a good loving an loyal wife to a man ive done nothing but do everything for and have sacrifised everything for him,my husband did what he did because he was a coward and a loser he couldnt deal with life, his excuses were a midlife crisis and the fact that he couldnt deal or stand by his wife of 26 yrs who was battling a life threatening illness, he went of to get laid while i had to raise our two children alone and fight for my life while batteling severe illnesses,we were always happy and never were unhappy , he just looked for an escape rather than be supportive and honor his vows .he forgot about in sickness and in healt part.he not only destroyed mine and my childrens lives but he destroyed his familys to,he blew off his kids to great dad he is.i will tell you this the other women in my case is a coniving bitch who does everything she can to hurt me and my children, she knew from day one that he was married and knew he was not gonna leave his wife she lied and said she couldnt get pregant and did any way mind you she has 3 other kids so she not infertile as she claimed,she has done nothing but harrass me and my kids with cruel emails and phone calls telling me all about there sexual exploits, plus she lies and tells me stories that i dont know my husband and that he still wants her and plans onleaving me and the kids mind you we are stronger nad better than ever so she lied and she lost but she doesent get the message,.also she uses her own 4 yr old to tell stories of there affair to my kids so they tell me so you see what a great mom she is i would never use any child in that way. i will tell you ryan who is the other child is well treated and well loved and he adores me i treat him with all the love and respect just the same as i do my own,i believe he belongs with his mom because he after all is a victim just as much as we are, he an innocent in all this and my heart breaks for him when he will learn the truth . he will be destroyed just as my kids were but the diference is i would help him thorugh it and not use him to hurt his own siblings or step mom. so this is to let you know my marriage was good and solid he was just a coward and ran when his wife got ill and and he couldnt deal with getting older to bad for him we all deal with stuff the diffrence between me and him is that i stood by hima nd will always be there for him and my children and even be there for my step son ryan i am more of a man than he wil ever be i will let you know wr are working through it and are stronger than ever she and no other women will ever come between our marriage again, i forgave him half way it will take me time he still had alot of work to do to be a better dad and hubby and make up for all the pain and suffering he caused but we will give him time and support him so please understand it from a women who has walked a mile in ,my shoes,i will agree the child should stay with his mom one no matter how much of a bitch she is deserves to lose her child , jen

]]> By: Narisha http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html/comment-page-1#comment-157967 Narisha Thu, 22 Oct 2009 14:07:11 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html#comment-157967 Calypso: Thanks for being a voice of sanity among all these morons. The OW is a human being who was also duped and hurt by the man. I am sure that she loves her child just as much or even more than anyone else. For her he isn't a mistake but the result of her love for this man. The child is not some object to be fought over and dragged around to satisfy someone else's ego. Wake up people would you have liked anyone to rip you away from your birth mother because they can't accept the fact that the marriage was damaged in the first place and that is the reason why the father was out looking for other unsuspecting women. Calypso: Thanks for being a voice of sanity among all these morons. The OW is a human being who was also duped and hurt by the man. I am sure that she loves her child just as much or even more than anyone else. For her he isn’t a mistake but the result of her love for this man. The child is not some object to be fought over and dragged around to satisfy someone else’s ego. Wake up people would you have liked anyone to rip you away from your birth mother because they can’t accept the fact that the marriage was damaged in the first place and that is the reason why the father was out looking for other unsuspecting women.

]]> By: jennifer http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html/comment-page-1#comment-146101 jennifer Wed, 03 Jun 2009 19:01:31 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html#comment-146101 dear diagada,im sorry that you have to deal with such a deranged women my husbands mistress was no better she wrote me for yrs on reunion .com telling me all about their affair and all the lovely details as well at first it destroyed me my kids are still amess over this womens medling but i put a stop to her i wrote her and letter and told her what the deal . was . i blocked her from contacting meand and told her if she calls my home or trys to come here or ever writes me again i will get the police involved. your husband did the right thing getting the police involved.what ever yuo rhusband does as far as custody is up to the both of you if you stay toghther .you have a long road ahead of you and need time to heal and your children need time to heal. both of you must work together.this will not get solved in a day.it will take yrs to solve.i wish you both luck but remember to help yourself and dont forget to take care of yourself and you children . good luck and i will pray for your family take care and keep in touch.love jennifer dear diagada,im sorry that you have to deal with such a deranged women my husbands mistress was no better she wrote me for yrs on reunion .com telling me all about their affair and all the lovely details as well at first it destroyed me my kids are still amess over this womens medling but i put a stop to her i wrote her and letter and told her what the deal . was . i blocked her from contacting meand and told her if she calls my home or trys to come here or ever writes me again i will get the police involved. your husband did the right thing getting the police involved.what ever yuo rhusband does as far as custody is up to the both of you if you stay toghther .you have a long road ahead of you and need time to heal and your children need time to heal. both of you must work together.this will not get solved in a day.it will take yrs to solve.i wish you both luck but remember to help yourself and dont forget to take care of yourself and you children . good luck and i will pray for your family take care and keep in touch.love jennifer

]]> By: Diagada http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html/comment-page-1#comment-146073 Diagada Wed, 03 Jun 2009 11:58:49 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html#comment-146073 Well the child is his. She has been stalking and harassing the whole family. She showed up at my older daughter's house to tell her the news. Hey, do you want to meet your little sister? My husband hadn't even opened his mail yet. He pressed charges for stalking and harassment and she was served 2 citations. I hope she has to go to jail. He threatened her about taking sole custody. Maybe she will just disappear. If he does get custody he is giving it up for adoption. Thanks for your support. D Well the child is his. She has been stalking and harassing the whole family. She showed up at my older daughter’s house to tell her the news. Hey, do you want to meet your little sister? My husband hadn’t even opened his mail yet. He pressed charges for stalking and harassment and she was served 2 citations. I hope she has to go to jail.
He threatened her about taking sole custody. Maybe she will just disappear. If he does get custody he is giving it up for adoption. Thanks for your support. D

]]> By: Taggart http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html/comment-page-1#comment-145971 Taggart Tue, 02 Jun 2009 11:54:41 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html#comment-145971 That sounds like a very challenging situation to have to deal with. To make it even more so, it sounds as if he's sincere in his sorrow for what he's done, and really wants to stay with you. If you feel that you want to remain with him, I think you may have a good chance for success, because you do seem very strong. I wish you happiness and peace of mind, but I'm sure it won't come easily. That sounds like a very challenging situation to have to deal with. To make it even more so, it sounds as if he’s sincere in his sorrow for what he’s done, and really wants to stay with you.

If you feel that you want to remain with him, I think you may have a good chance for success, because you do seem very strong. I wish you happiness and peace of mind, but I’m sure it won’t come easily.

]]> By: jennifer http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html/comment-page-1#comment-142673 jennifer Thu, 23 Apr 2009 04:27:07 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html#comment-142673 dear diagada,im so sorry that youre going through the same nightmare ive been living for 14 months.my heart goes out to you, i can tell you give yourself time to absorb all you been dealt think long and hard when you can think calmy which wont be easy because you are raw and realing with emotion.i know i wanted to leave to and walk away but i thought ofmy children and no matter what he did i still loved the man even though he destroyed our family in an instant, first make sure the child is his and then you must decide do you want to save your marriage and does he . you must also lay down thelaw his life must become an open book and he must be willing to save the marriage as well all contact with the ow must be cut for good his only contact should be with the child if he chooses i would get a lawyer to handle the child support and visitation if its his. i can tell you will have good and bad days and he must hear it all dont be afraid to tell him how you feel you need that to heal above all remember to take care of yourself .only you csan truly decide what it is you want it is avery hard thing to live with and except i do know my husband and i are tsaking things one day at a time there a good and bad days iv ehad some hell because the ow is a pyscho who has harrased and stalked me but she been dealt with .seeing the child will bedevastiating it willmake you cry and want to die but remember the child is innocent and not to blame he and her are.they must take respopnsibilty for there actions i can tell you my husband are better of than we were a yr ago but we still have alot to work through and remeber you did nothing wrong they did. and sdont let anyone make you take blame.if it is worth saving you willknow in your heart what to do think and think long andhard before you decide know you are not alone im am here for you if you need support or a friend please contact <a href="http://mailto:jennifer196400@hotmail.com" rel="nofollow">me</a> i will keep you inmy prayers good luck stay strong dear diagada,im so sorry that youre going through the same nightmare ive been living for 14 months.my heart goes out to you, i can tell you give yourself time to absorb all you been dealt think long and hard when you can think calmy which wont be easy because you are raw and realing with emotion.i know i wanted to leave to and walk away but i thought ofmy children and no matter what he did i still loved the man even though he destroyed our family in an instant, first make sure the child is his and then you must decide do you want to save your marriage and does he . you must also lay down thelaw his life must become an open book and he must be willing to save the marriage as well all contact with the ow must be cut for good his only contact should be with the child if he chooses i would get a lawyer to handle the child support and visitation if its his. i can tell you will have good and bad days and he must hear it all dont be afraid to tell him how you feel you need that to heal above all remember to take care of yourself .only you csan truly decide what it is you want it is avery hard thing to live with and except i do know my husband and i are tsaking things one day at a time there a good and bad days iv ehad some hell because the ow is a pyscho who has harrased and stalked me but she been dealt with .seeing the child will bedevastiating it willmake you cry and want to die but remember the child is innocent and not to blame he and her are.they must take respopnsibilty for there actions i can tell you my husband are better of than we were a yr ago but we still have alot to work through and remeber you did nothing wrong they did. and sdont let anyone make you take blame.if it is worth saving you willknow in your heart what to do think and think long andhard before you decide know you are not alone im am here for you if you need support or a friend please contact me i will keep you inmy prayers good luck stay strong

]]> By: Diagada http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html/comment-page-1#comment-141142 Diagada Sun, 05 Apr 2009 20:04:55 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html#comment-141142 the same thing has just happened to me.I have been married for 27 years and my husband just got served papers to pay child support. The baby is 2 months old. Our children are 26 and 22. I just don't know what to do? the same thing has just happened to me.I have been married for 27 years and my husband just got served papers to pay child support. The baby is 2 months old. Our children are 26 and 22. I just don’t know what to do?

]]> By: SageMother http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html/comment-page-1#comment-16879 SageMother Thu, 04 Dec 2008 15:33:14 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html#comment-16879 I think custody could be settled long before the child is old enough to know anything has changed. I would have fewer problems adopting and the child myself than I would with my husband having visitation, paying child support, and having the child's mother as part of our extended family. I think custody could be settled long before the child is old enough to know anything has changed.

I would have fewer problems adopting and the child myself than I would with my husband having visitation, paying child support, and having the child’s mother as part of our extended family.

]]> By: debrajean http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html/comment-page-1#comment-16654 debrajean Wed, 03 Dec 2008 00:24:24 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html#comment-16654 I don't believe that bringing the child into your home to live is the best solution. I believe that if the woman is a good mother, the child should stay with her. I do believe though, that visitation should be granted to the father. Contact with the child's mother from your husband can be strictly monitored by you. Each time he picks up the child or she drops the child off, be there. I hope you can work this out and not be detrimental to the child's well-being. I don’t believe that bringing the child into your home to live is the best solution. I believe that if the woman is a good mother, the child should stay with her. I do believe though, that visitation should be granted to the father. Contact with the child’s mother from your husband can be strictly monitored by you. Each time he picks up the child or she drops the child off, be there. I hope you can work this out and not be detrimental to the child’s well-being.

]]> By: flowerhorn08 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html/comment-page-1#comment-15789 flowerhorn08 Thu, 27 Nov 2008 12:28:46 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/04/my-husband-cheated-and-fathered-a-child-with-the-ow.html#comment-15789 Jen, I must give you a medal for being such a strong woman in going through a horrible event that you have gone through. Most women would never have the will power to pull out such a feat! Jen, I must give you a medal for being such a strong woman in going through a horrible event that you have gone through. Most women would never have the will power to pull out such a feat!

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